Can you feel the pain?
Thank you for your answer, and for being here with me! :)
Have a wonderful day! :)
2007-09-12 04:53:08 · 33 answers · asked by Moon :) 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I can't give thumbs up, sorry!
2007-09-12 04:59:43 · update #1
Zelda - Thank You SO much!! :)
2007-09-12 06:01:13 · update #2
Eagle Woman - Thank You SO much!! :)
2007-09-12 06:13:54 · update #3
Soul Doctor - Thank You SO much!! :)
2007-09-12 06:58:47 · update #4
Polly - Thank You SO much!! :)
2007-09-12 07:41:52 · update #5
zen - Thank You SO much, love!! :) :)
2007-09-12 11:41:14 · update #6
Belladonna - Thank You SO much, dear!! :)
Breezey - Thank You So much, my friend!! :)
2007-09-12 13:05:09 · update #7
Dear New Moon :)--I hope this means that we can again "share each others shoes."
Isn't that truly what it's all about? The mutuality that flows when we care. Sweetie, it's been a long journey for you; the concern & support of your myriad of friends reflects how much you're loved. I like to think of this, seeing you after so long, as a new start, a new moon indeed. I'd like to step into your "new shoes" with a smile. I know the journey isn't over, it never is. I continue to send love to you & your family.
I also hope that everyone remembers stepping into another person's shoes doesn't always mean pain. One can also share their joy & laughter. Nor is there risk of being used or manipulated. If you truly love someone, the love comes from the same source that has equal strength.
We don't have to have experienced the same things in order to feel them, yet I agree with Zelda--putting yourself in another person's shoes is understanding, the best that we can, & not assuming to know what's right for THEM.
When we open our hearts, & someone is hurting, we'll hurt too, that is our humanity. (Even elephants grieve for one another!) I'm so sensitive to people that I "feel" more than see them; they could have shaved their heads & I honestly wouldn't notice. It's my nature to be an ectomorph, but whatever pain--of which there has been much--there's joy, too. To close my heart to protect myself from pain would be to deprive myself of feeling, & I doubt I'd have any friends at all.
So many beautiful answers. Welcome back. We're still here!
2007-09-12 17:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Hi New Moon,
Yes, I soak up people’s emotions and feelings like a sponge soaks up water. I find it comes naturally to feel what other people feel and to hurt with them. This has its advantages and its disadvantages. Advantages: when other people are happy I genuinely feel happy too. Putting myself in someone else's shoes gives me a better sense of timing: you don't break bad news to someone who is already feeling very very down. You wait for the right moment! Also it helps me to help them. Disadvantages: If I spend too much time with someone who is depressed (say seeing them regularly over a few months) then I start to feel negative and depressed too.
I’m not sure how some people can understand the thoughts and feelings of others. Maybe knowledge or experience of what they are going through. Maybe being able to imagine what they are going through. I do seem to easily understand people and people seem to find it easy to talk to me. And the whole point of friendship is not just to enjoy the good times together but to help each other through the bad stuff too.
Thank you for inviting me into your circle again. Have a great evening. :)
Polly
2007-09-12 07:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by pollyanna 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Many times I am able to totally empathize with another. Sometimes, I am only able to feel sympathey or pity, which is a poor substitute when a person just needs to be understood and validated by another human being. The ability to actually empathize, and feel the same pain as another is associated with your life experiences. If I say to a woman that I know what it is to lose your husband, I have been through that loss, and I have credibility in our mutual pain. If someone I know were to lose a grandchild, I can offer all the sympathy in the world, but have no right to say I know how she feels. I can only imagine, and that would break my heart for that person, but it would not be true empathy. Golly, Moon. You know I am bleeding out from the suffering in this world, take it easy on me! I am with you, Sister.
2007-09-12 06:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by One Wing Eagle Woman 6 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Hi moon I've got some of your friends asking about what happened to you of course I feel your pain if it happen to me I don't know what I will do I don't know why lately we get reported for just about anything with the pts and level that I've built I would feel sad if it happen to me.it's all in the past let's start over now you know all your friends love an worry about you.
2007-09-14 19:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I’m empathetic by nature but lately with all that’s been going on around the globe the pain and suffering rises to excruciating levels…and the worst is yet to come…
Take heart…we must endure for those who’ve lost their hope all our brothers and sisters in despair.
A new world is rising like a bright newborn Sun.
Love is always the Lord of all.
2007-09-12 05:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by MARY B 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
no but i sure can try!. If more Epiphany existed the world would be a better place, I believe so. I think the best I can do is atleast try to feel the pain or even the joy of people around me cause if I could just do that I would understand why people sometimes do the things they do or are the way they are.
2007-09-15 04:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Fia 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you often can if you keep your mind open and observant. The trick is to not let your own experience completely override someone else's. For example, I have a very dear and sympathetic friend, but she always advises me according to what would be best for her. It doesn't always fit very well for me, since our lives are quite different. I am a wife, mother and a grandmother, and she has never been married. So usually her advice is good, but often it is completely impractical and doesn't take into consideration my actual life, which she does not really understand.
Hope you are well today. Miss Moon.
2007-09-12 05:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
particular, it incredibly is referred to as empathy. And particular i will incredibly from time to time experience discomfort. It relies upon on how deeply i attempt to appreciate. on the lighter edge, provided that the shoe is a huge in large condition 6 a million/2.
2016-10-10 10:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by lorts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to put myself in another person's shoes. More than not,
it is a better way of understanding what someone may be going through. And yes, I can feel their pain. I just hope yours will fade soon. I really hate to see people hurting.
God Bless You, BIG TIME.
2007-09-12 14:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Brilliant 1forHIM 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes, a mixed bag of blessing & curse. It took me till in my mid 20's to even begin to suspect that all the emotion I felt was not always from me, & even longer to learn how to deal with it & actually be able to use it as a tool to help others. Before that, due to ignornance, it almost destroyed me. I am much older now & only now finding there are others also. Thanks for your question.
2007-09-12 09:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋