my son does be up there alot and this girl does not like me can i stop him moving her in
2007-09-12 04:46:15 · 39 answers · asked by sparks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to tell him that there will be no living together with your child around. Simply!!!!
2007-09-12 04:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 6⤋
I can see that your separation from your husband is really hurting you from the questions you have been raising here. I am afraid that you will have to accept that your ex can do as he pleases and move a gf into his house if he wishes. Your son may quite like this woman even if you don't so I wouldn't go rushing into a panic right now. Also, you need to show your son that you can be a mature adult about things and just carry on as normal. The new girlfriend doesn't like you and clearly you don't like her. However, you are both grown ups so you will have to try and be civil for the sake of your child (I know you have tried to be nice to her - you have to keep trying - your son is watching!). One day, this new gf will be an ex gf and you and your son will have to go through another woman in your ex's life. Its part of our modern world unfortunately. You keep yourself in the right and you cant go wrong!
2007-09-12 09:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are separated and about to be divorced. You have no say in his life or what he does. If the new girl hurts your son, then yes, step in immediately. Because you don't get a long with her, it doesn't mean she is bad to your son and i would think the father wouldn't allow that anyway. How would you like your ex determining who you lived with or what you did? Keep in mind if the tables were turned and your new guy didn't like your ex, what would you do? You both have separate lives, don't worry about him and what he does, unless it negatively effects your son. Best of luck!
2007-09-12 05:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can only stop it if the woman's behavior will put your son in danger. i know that this is hard and it still hurts u but sometimes we just have to let the unforgiveness u feel for your ex go, because as long as u stay in unforgiveness it will effect your whole life and how u see things. he did u a wrong here, he cheated on u and betrayed u and u want him to suffer some too, but leave it to god to deal with him. just make sure she treats your child right, if not see your attorney about it, but it will be an ongoing fight with u saying stuff then they will counter attack and it never does anyone any good except for the attorney's, they love it when people fight it brings them more money. it is understandable not to want your child around this woman but u can't stop him from moving her in.
2007-09-12 05:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control your ex.
Try to make your child comfortable and don't make an issue of it with him. Don't try to ruin your childs relationship with the other parent or try to use your child to punish the other parent. The kid is going through enough right now without adding more stress on top of it. Your ex is an ex for a reason. Your child needs to be a child and not a tool for someones bitterness, let go! Help him transition into his new way of life and let him know that it's alright to be friends with Dad's new girlfriend and it's ok to still love Dad. Don't try to make him choose or you will lose in the long run.
2007-09-12 05:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by aircraft mech 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you no longer have an intimate relationship with THE Ex... doesn't mean you don't still want control... do NOT use your son as "leverage"... sure you're hurt that he's moved on before you have... suck it up darling... your weak attempts to "control" are tranparent & unbecoming of a mother who professes to have her child's interest at heart. Sure your hurt... it's perfectly natural... Just be an adult & set an example for your child by displaying some maturity...
Good luck...
2007-09-12 05:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, this IS tough. There is really nothing you can DO per se' to STOP him from moving her in, but at the same time, if you both love your son equally and you both only want what's best for him, discuss your concerns with him in an adult manner, and he may be a little more convinced of the situation from YOUR point of view.
2007-09-12 04:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Shauna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're divorcing the guy, you have NO say over what he does with his private life.
Just basing the fact that you and the new GF don't like each other, it does not mean that your kid shouldn't visit his father.
IF however he comes back and says the woman's mistreating him, then you can change the custody agreement via a court order, but you CANNOT tell your ex who he may or may not live with.
2007-09-12 05:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she would be in a position to maximum possibly have no longer something to do with custody different then if she is residing there, that would have super bearing in keeping together with her character and if the decide has morals and does no longer think of it truly is sturdy to have the youngster in a difficulty the place the two are actually not married.. you are able to desire to even propose which you're uncomfortable with that.. no longer relationship won't make you look bitter as a replace this is going to look such as you're centred on what's maximum needed that's moving on and becoming a loving and risk-free domicile on your daughter. sturdy good fortune
2016-11-10 05:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot stop him. Do not put your son in the middle of this drama. Figure out a way to get along with the new girlfriend.
Stop all the crap and do what is best for your son.
2007-09-12 05:16:59 · answer #10 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Keep a journal on what is going on with your son when he is with his dad. I have one on my daughter for 6 years. You never know if you need if you have to go back to court.
My ex married his long time girlfriend of 11 years and she treated my daughter so well but now since they are married less than a year she destroyed her relationship with her Father because they are married. My daughter has nothing to do with her father. He told my daughter and I that if she wants to see him then he can call her and the last time she was over at his house his wife treated my daughter really bad and he did nothing. I praise God that my daughter is old enough to make her own decisions.
2007-09-12 05:01:20 · answer #11 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋