My fiance and I have been invited to spend the weekend at the beach with his mom, and the majority of his extended family. His Mom, who I get along with well, is the type of person I can only handle in small doses. In addition, his 8 younger cousins will be there, and I am not very good with kids. I am seriously anxious going...I feel like I'm just going to be irritated and on edge the whole time. Is there a tasteful way to get out of this?
2007-09-12 04:43:35 · 8 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have no problems with family gatherings...but an entire weekend has me on edge.
2007-09-12 04:59:24 · update #1
I have no problems with family gatherings...but an entire weekend has me on edge.
2007-09-12 04:59:25 · update #2
Is it far away? Are you able to discuss your apprehensions with your fiance?
You could go and be pleasantly surprised, but you're probably setting yourself up with all these negative feelings.
Talk to your fiance, and plan on getting the stomach flu (or ringworm or something else esp contagious to kids) A little white lie like this is alot better than a horrible weekend and burning bridges with your future mother-in-law.
JMO.
=D
2007-09-12 04:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know - if it was your boyfriend, I would say get out of it, put it off, but this is now your fiancee and you are just going to have to suck it up. You can go in with an excuse, like, Rachel isn't feeling well mom, she thinks she might be coming down with something so if she disappears, it might be to go take a nap. That way, mom thinks you are not feeling well and if you need to sneak away and close the door to your room and read a book you can and not feel guilty about it.
But you have to go. You really do.
Whenever I have to do something I am not looking forward to I try and imagine every single terrible thing that could happen - that way - I have REALLLLLY low expectations. And that usually means I end up being pleasantly surprised that it wasn't as terribly as it could have been!
So go, you just might have more fun than you think.
2007-09-12 05:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's only a weekend, then think about going. Just take a DEEP BREATH and tell yourself you will enjoy the beach and the weekend.
Really, sometimes we have to sacrifice for our partners, but you can probably make a nice weekend of it, if you have a more positive outlook.
You certainly can take "time outs" while you are there... go for a walk on the beach or around the area.... go to the store or just take a little drive when you need a break.
I think you could consider going...
If not, just say "thank you but i can't come".
it's not that hard.
2007-09-12 04:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, and if you are going to marry this guy you had better find a way to get over this. Family gatherings come with the package, like it or not. If you can't tolerate being around his family now what are you going to do after the wedding? Do you expect him to cut all ties with them or just take them in small doses? It ain't gonna happen, honey. This is YOUR issue not theirs. You need to deal with it.
2007-09-12 04:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grit your teeth and bare it. Being a couple is about knowing how to give and take. He has family, and he needs to feel that you can eventually be a part of this family. When we love someone we put up with things that sometimes aren't so appealing to us because we want our partner to be happy, and their happiness in turn provides happiness for us. Once you understand that a relationship is about knowing when to make sacrifices you will have a much stronger relationship.
2007-09-12 05:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you i would just ignore the kids and if you feel that they are really getting on your nerves just go tell the parents, that way you will still be able to go to the beach with him.
2007-09-12 04:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to go, don't go. You don't have to accept just because you've been invited. Or perhaps, as a favor for your boyfriend, you could tolerate her for two days. God bless.
2007-09-12 05:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a headache!
2007-09-12 04:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by bluebonnets1952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋