I just had a baby almost six weeks ago and I weigh less than I did now before I got pregant. Well my hubby tells me all the time how good I look, and I feel great. He beams when his friends tell him how good I look and everything...
Yesturday we were getting ready to go out, and I put on a pair of white shorts(the athletic type), and a tank top...and he told me no, your not wearing those shorts go change them. I was like why? He didn't give me a reason. So do you think he's afriad of people looking at me or is he lying about how good he thinks I look and is embarrassed?
He has never once before asked me to change my clothes before going out, so I'm just so confused. Jealous or embarrassed?
2007-09-12 04:38:23 · 25 answers · asked by Torey♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh and we were just going to a store, so it's not like we were going to dinner or something like that so it's not that the shorts were inappropriate to wear.
2007-09-12 04:39:57 · update #1
Sometime when A dad is a new dad they want the once sexy wife to be a mom when out and about.
Try wearing sometime sexy on a date nite and see what happens.
I have 5 kids and I know right were you are. remember to tell your hubby not to give you false statements that if he feels you look to big or not as skinny just tell you.
I think its that now that you are the mother of his child he wants you to dress different.
Try to sit down when you are ready and ask him. Remember our hormones are messed up for the first 4 months after we give birth. So we new moms have to try extra hard not to be moody.
Good luck if you need any other help email me
2007-09-12 04:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by bkamissrike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he doesn't want other guys and girls looking at you. My wife is the same as you. After both of our children she has gotten smaller than what she was when we were married. I am just the opposite of your husband though. I have been trying to sway my wife to wear shorter skirts, and more revealing outfits. It doesn't work right now because we are pregnant with our third child, but I am so proud of her. I love showing her off, and it is very good for her self-esteem as well. A confident woman is a sexy woman, and my wife has just grown more and more confident. I guess that is why I keep getting her pregnant. Its a vicious cycle you know.
2007-09-12 12:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a reason and you should have asked him at the time. It is too late now, he most likely won't even remember if you were to ask him.
But for whatever reason he found the outfit unbecoming or inappropriate, it is nothing to stress about. You did the right thing, changed and went on about your business. Concentrate on your lovely family and don't worry about the small stuff.
2007-09-12 12:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes my husband will ask me to change because
1) he thinks what i'm wearing is too worn out
2) he'd rather see me in something nicer
but since you're looking better and he's beaming about it, maybe the shorts were cut high and he didnt want others gawking at your yummy parts LOL. or on that same token, maybe if they were short shorts he thought they were too trashy....not to blast your wardrobe.
i would go thru your closets quietly, pull out things that are now too large or worn etc, and grab those particular shorts and ask him "hey, do you think these are worth keeping?" and see how he reacts.
i dont know that he's embarrassed, he may just be being selfish about his woman....but his reaction to my suggestion might be an indicator.
good luck!
2007-09-12 12:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry did you say you just had a baby?....... Shouldn't you have other more important things to occupy your mind with?....
Sorry no offence however you sound very immature asking this, you're married and just had a baby, i think you're at a stage in your relationship that you should be talking to your husband about this.
Anyway i doubt it's because of either jealousy or embarrassment, it's most likely because you have child now and he probably wants you to be seen as more respectful in front of others and is probably thinking of the child and what image it will have of you in the future.
Just guessing, however, talk to him and focus on what's really important at this stage of your life.
Chi Chi x.
2007-09-12 12:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you look great and he doesn't want men to look at you in the wrong way! He may not be controlling here but a little jealous and scared of losing you to another man? I hope he will always practice decent behavior toward looking at other women since he is aware of what men are thinking.
2007-09-12 12:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK lets think about this for a minute... first they were white.... maybe they revealed a little too much... i would have to say neither one jealous or embarrassed... i would ask him why and tell him that it sent you mixed signals.... you have to feel good about yourself anyway... yes its nice to hear those things from your spouse but you should know that "yeah i look good" be confident with who you are... Confidence does not come from people... it comes from within...
2007-09-12 11:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by happygolcky75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe he is a little jealous, maybe he has noticed that you are getting a lot of male attention. Talk to him about it so you can know exactly what is bothering him. Maybe you need to meet somewhere in the middle if it's a big issue with him.
2007-09-12 11:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Chulis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you respect your husband you will do what he asks. 2nd "IF" your wearing SHORT short's I think ur just asking for trouble. Now, I do feel like he is afraid of others checking you out, but to be a honest wife, and the best you can be do what he asks. Respect him :)
2007-09-12 12:25:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's jealousy at all or embarrassed. He just doesn't want any other man looking at you. I can understand his point. He sounds like a good man. Don't hurt him but if he is controlling then that is another story.
2007-09-12 11:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋