My child is almost 4mth old. I was about to go back to work when he 6wks. He was in ICU after he was born. The doc. recommended for me to wait. Since he is doing much better. The doc. told me he will be fine & I can go back to work. The problem is his father. He not a man of his word. I did my best to work out a schedule with him so we both can take turn to watch the child. When I had feel he didn't want to do this. I told him I will have 1 of my friends to watch him. He told me &my friend will be under the ground. He said this morning at my place. I am thinking about not letting him come over again except to pick/drop the baby off. When he gets off of work he takes the baby to his place. I have to work also to pay my bills also. He isn’t willing to meet me half way. I don't have any family in the area. I feel like I have no other choice but to have a friend watch him. His dad say he don't want nobody to watch him. If I do get someone he might cause harm to me or them.
2007-09-12 04:23:57 · 4 answers · asked by tasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Then really you need to take a step back and see how you are ROYALLY screwing yourself and your new kiddo, by staying around him. If you don't, well you'll continue to be controlled by him, even thou, he isn't even your partner anymore. You guys made your bed, he apparently was not just a bad father, but also a bad partner so theres no hope here, it takes more then love, it takes some intigerty and common sense. Now pratices yours and get away from him, or else, well its really your fault....... show some strength....
2007-09-14 12:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your situation! If your baby's Dad has the potential of hurting you or your baby he does not deserve to be with that baby unsupervised.
I too am a single mom and have raised 2 kids from the same horrible situation. You don't have to have family to get through this. You have many options. You can work a home based business and never have to leave your little one. If you would rather work out side of the home you can also see if your employer offers daycare at your center, or if you can bring him to work. ( I brought my kids to work for a long time until I started working from home)
Most importantly think about the well being of you and your baby long term. If this is a man that can put you or your child in danger you should have as little contact as possible and make sure that visitations are supervised. There is nothing more important than making sure your baby is in the best care!
2007-09-19 08:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the closest or the farthest away that you can get to immediately Abuse shelter they will help you get away to where you & your baby can be safe. DO IT NOW!!!! Do not wait until this person hurts you , your baby , or a friend. The shelter can help you get out of town or even out of state if needed. Go to where you have family if possible. Leave the control freak behind & count your blessings.
2007-09-19 11:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by 2020 A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married to this loser I take it? Take his stupid a** to court and have it ordered. You don't say if he's supporting money-wise in any of this; I would take him to court, he's legally responsible and contact the police about his threats too!!
2007-09-19 13:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋