I met this guy, during my freshman year at high school, in a psychology class. He was a junior at the time, and I really liked him! But he was pretty quiet, not shy, but quiet. Before school got out, I asked for his e-mail adress so we could keep in touch. So basically, we've been e-mailing back and forth ALL summer long, and we've had a lot of heart to heart talks. Okay. So now back in school, I'm a sophomore and he is a senior, and everytime we pass in the halls, we stop and talk to each other. But here's the thing: I never know what to say! He's extremely liberal, and he HATES conformists, so I always worry about saying the wrong thing to him. Between classes there's not much time to get into a long conversation, but what can I talk about with him for a few minutes that will leave a lasting impression on him? It's easy to talk to him through e-mail, but in person, I clam up when I'm around him! I could really use the help! Thanks a lot!
2007-09-12 03:57:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, I don't want to BE with him as in a relationship. he has a girlfriend that hes been going out with since he was in seventh grade. i just want to be friends with him. and yeah, you would think that there would be a lot of things to talk about what with all the emails we were (and still are) exchanging. but we talk about wierd stuff. not about hobbies and movies and all that. hes different, hes wierd, in a good way. i dont know. i just thought maybe these aditional details would help you to help me. thanks!
2007-09-12 13:39:00 · update #1
If you have e-mailed all summer you must have a million things you could casually bring up from these past conversations, did you guys talk about hobbies, things you like to do, a recent movie you saw, anew song/band you just heard, ask him about a question that was asked in class, guys love it when they can help. I hope this is enough info to get you guys chatting between classes.
2007-09-12 04:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by nomo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you say you are not interested in this guy for a relationship, it sound like you are. The fact that he has a girlfriend and not looking for a relationship with you means you need to respect his boundaries and keep it on a friendly level.
The best advice I have ever received or given is to just be yourself. You can find a million things to say from one moment to the next, but the most important thing is that you reveal (to everyone you meet) who YOU are. He is obviously interested in that because he still talks to you.
2007-09-20 03:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by EazyBreezy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 00:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ,
I don't think there is any need for u to impress this guy as u say u don't desire any relationship with him,BUT U NEVER KNOW!!!!!Be the way u are,don't disguise ur thought process while u talk to him.Pretentions do not build friendship but add to artificiality in life.BE UR SELF!!!
Good luck n best wishes.
2007-09-19 22:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by mridu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to keep your friendship on the net.
2007-09-19 21:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by jan c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be in a relationship with him why do you think you have to impress him?
He should take you as you are or not at all.
2007-09-19 14:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your discomfort around him is a sign that he's not right for you.
a relationship isn't supposed to involve feeling uneasy around each other.
2007-09-12 04:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋