I have a great boyfriend, who I love very much. We have been dating for only a few months now and I found some disturbing text messg and e-mails from his exes. not on his part but from them. He dated his ex for 5 years and says they are really good friends but he told me they just talk about her medical school, but I found out that not the case. She will send him messages everyday talking about whatever and even saying she misses him. He said he doesn't love her or he didnt love her and thats why she broke up with him-because he wouldn't propose. But he told me that if it bothered me that much he wouldn't talk to them amymore. So last week he told me he told her something (he didn't go into detail) but that he wouldn't respond to her anymore. I asked him if mentioned me and he said no. I almost started to cry-I was so hurt. I asked why and he said he didn't want to hurt her. And why should he have to tell her about me, that why can't he just quit talking to her.
2007-09-12 03:46:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
everyone is different.
is this guy a "bad boy" generally?
women go for bad boys because they think he will change.. meanwhile, we sit and wait.
bad boys usually still talk to ex's, and make false promises time after time.
if you are hurt by him all of the time, this isn't a good sign.
start considering what is best for you. you might love him, but ask yourself, "is this the way i want to live?"
the answer is probably "NO"
take care.
2007-09-12 03:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is trust him. I know it's hard because it is the ex-gf and they were together for five years. But what attachments do they have?? Only that they were together for that long? I have a similar situation, but my boyfriend has a son with his ex. So unfortunately she will always be around forever. I have been w/ my guy for seven months. And I used to not trust him, but as time went on I do believe when he tells me that he just talks to her because of his son and he would never go back with her and he assures me that he loves me. And he tells me that I need to trust him or our relationship isn't going to work out. So I have no choice but to trust him if I want to be w/ him. But he has proven to me that there is nothing to worry about. You sound like you need that assurance from your guy. Ask him about it. Ask him if you're the only one he wants to be w/. A girl needs to hear that she's the only one in his life. I bet you'll feel a lot better.
2007-09-12 04:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by ~JUST ME~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't let go any more than she can. He holds on to her because she continues to flatter his ego and he knows he has an "out" should things ever get hairy with you. He has a spare, so to speak. If it bothers you this much, then it's time to let go of this great boyfriend. If he asked you to stop talking to an exboyfriend, wouldn't you? Then he should show you the same respect, and he's shown you he cannot. Tell him he doesn't have to sit on the fence any longer.
2007-09-12 03:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who could wait untill we've been happening long drives to start up speaking approximately ex-girlfriends. sooner or later I only became so drained I wasnt listening and thats whilst he asked me " Are you listening to me?" and that i stated, " Oh, no, not possibly..." and the completed ex-lady buddy chatter stopped. i think of he became doing it to make me jealous or some thing...I only tuned him out whilst he could get like that. If the ex-lady buddy became so great, then why are you not mutually is my best comeback for what I call " time return and forth" syndrome. solid success hun.-Rachel.
2016-12-16 18:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't bother with this guy anymore. He doesnt' care about your feelings. If he did, he wouldnt' be talking to ex's in the first place NOR would he be entertaining their texts and leaving them in a place you will find them.
Get rid of him and tell him why. You don't have time for games....
2007-09-12 03:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he have to mention you? Maybe that would be nice, but he did what you asked. He told her he wouldn't respond or whatever he said. He put you before her. Isn't that what matters?
2007-09-12 04:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got to admit that he still have feelings for his ex-girlfriend, perhaps being obsessed with her and want to remain as friends, communicating more often than between you and him it makes you wonder does he still loves you especially when he failed to promise not to contact her anymore. So you just have to confront him as to if he actually cares and loves you. Otherwise you may have to find yourself another guy to avoid being heartbroken.
2007-09-12 04:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by slimdude142 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were you and you love him would you stop or start talking to your ex`s? He`s not done playing is what it sounds like.Tell him how you feel and if he will not change then let him go.Some times you got to do what you got to do to make things better.
2007-09-12 03:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with taking to ur exes i tak to mine and my bf doesn't realy care cuz he knows we r still friends so yeah! y can't he talk to his? This is not ment to be mean or anything like that but i think u ned t lighten up and et him talk to his exes and if he is still mesing around witht then u need to get rid of him!
2007-09-12 03:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by witty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should move on girl because it sound like he still have feeling for her . i hope you do find some else to have feeling for . but then he might want just be very good friend with his ex's personaly you might be judgement him.
2007-09-12 03:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by mandi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋