Question Details: When referencing working mothers? What gives anyone the right to assume that because we work, we're not raising our children? Wouldn't it be just as appropriate for us working mothers to say "i'd rather support & provide for my child than rely on someone else to do it?" Or just as appropriate to say "I can handle all of my home responsibilities AND a job, why can't you?"
2007-09-12 03:35:27 · 5 answers · asked by PrincessJ 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
finding daycare is scary. That's why I chose a private sitter. I've had people react to me like I'm just dropping my daughter off @ a random place, not caring what type of care she's receiving, just so I can go to work. That's another difficulty of being a working mom; worrying about care for your child.
2007-09-12 03:47:11 · update #1
Your point is well taken.
I think everyone makes their choices appropriate to their own situation. It's inappropriate for anyone to judge the choice of anyone else.
Over the past year, I've made a genuine effort to try something different: When I disagree with someone, instead of trying at great lengths to explain my views to them, I've asked them to explain their thoughts to me. I've learned that I'm not going to convince them that I'm right, and then when we're finished, I at least have both sides of the argument, and can either confirm to myself that my thinking is correct, or in some cases, I actually change my mind.
I think if everyone did that, we'd have a lot less conflict and strife and hatred in our world.
2007-09-12 03:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, neither statement is appropriate, as they are judgemental and assume a lot about someone which may not be correct. Just as honestly, if you are working full time, you are not putting as much time into raising your child as a SAHM. I'm not judging however, just stating a fact. I was a working mother with my first child, and have worked on and off with my others. I was lucky enough to take my first baby to work with me until she was nearly two, but I really wasn't able to give her as much time and attention as I have my other children. To answer your original question though, it's all about how people justify the choices they make. If you are happy with the choice you have made, and believe you are doing the right thing, then don't let other peoples choices, or the way they justify them, have any impact on you.
2016-05-17 21:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are taking that statement to personally. I do not have any thing against working mother's. In these times, most mom's have to go to work . I personally stay at home with my children, it is a choice that I made because I do not want them in daycare. Not because of "someone else" raising my child, but because I live in a location where I don't feel I can find someone trustworthy enough to care for my child. I hear to many horror stories about daycare. This is only my opinion. Granted, my family does have to make some sacrifices in order for me to stay home. But we manage. If I wanted a job right now and had to raise my kids I could still do it. There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom.
2007-09-12 03:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more of fear of what could happen in a daycare, rather than disrespecting mothers who work outside the home. At least, that's what it is in my case. I WANT a job, and who is anyone to judge you for having one??? And no one is anyone to judge busy stay-at-home mothers, either.
2007-09-12 03:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
...this is why I'm never getting married....
2007-09-12 03:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋