see my girl and i are together for a while now and she is constantly having girls night and it making me so mad because we bearly have the chance to go out. I have been telling her that i want to out on to this club, and she knows that the weekend is realy our only day to actully go out together. At first i was iffy about it but i said ok, but now its like i take her a week her friends another. She also goes out with her sisters and that takes up time too. I keep saying "why dont you take me?" why cant you convince your girls to take their guys and we all go together, i ask, "no, it not up to me." and i keep saying if you wanna go out i'll take you, dinner, club, hotel, small road trip, anything.. i ask her to find alternatives so she can be out with her friends and i with her...... in my family all the gf and wives are always together (maybe except in parties when they get in their 'groups'), i tell her how i grew up and what i believe.........tell me am i wrong in getting mad?
2007-09-12 00:45:24 · 6 answers · asked by memy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I say your right to be mad because you've offered many suggestions to the problem and she is unwilling to compromise. Now before anyone says I'm wrong lets switch it around and say it's him that's kickin it with his boys every other weekend and leaving her at home. Imagine how that would go over? I guarantee it wouldn't go over well! I'd also watch your back there buddy. I dated a chic that always wanted to hang with her girls and it turned out she was doing more than that!!!! Think about it!
2007-09-12 01:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is understandable why you are getting mad... Now, the issue with your girlfriend is that she is too attached to her friends. I've learned that you can't in NO way get between a woman and her friends. Its a useless waste of time if you try to take her away from her friends.
what you can do is everytime she's going out with her friends, you go out with your buddies. Obviously, she doesn't care as much about you as you do for her (sorry).. so leave her alone, she KNOWS she'll find you where you are because you're waiting for her.
I know its tough to come to terms with this harsh reality cause I'm the same way... but dude, enjoy your life, you live life once. Don't waste your time.
Someone before me suggested that you examine yourself and see if you can put up with this, I agree. if you can, then just live with it. but if you can't, then you need to sit down and talk to her seriously and end the relationship, if necessary.
Remember, a relationship is composed of 2 people liking/loving each other, if there is an unbalance of love (one loves more than the other) there will be problems. Its all about compromise, if she's not willing to compromise, your'e gonna have to drop her.
Hope it works out!
2007-09-12 01:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by VortexHunter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Man
Don' t worry just give her more time am sure she would come to her senses but if she tries to cheat on you leave her without delay i mean leaving her without looking back. But always remember that she has the right to go out without you since you are not married.
2007-09-12 01:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Messager 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really, but be more open with her and understanding. Remember that girls like going out with each other and sometimes men are just in the way. Tell her your true feelings, but don't get upset when talking to her. Good luck!!
2007-09-12 00:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's unreasonable to want to spend more time with her. Yeah, every girl needs time with her girls but it sounds like hers is excessive and they boss her around. And not to be a debbie downer, but is she out looking for new people? Why go out CONSTANTLY unless you are?
2007-09-12 00:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
these types of situations are always difficult. it sounds like you're really trying to work out a compromiseso so that you can both be happy but she isn't coming to the party. the question you have to ask yourself is do you love her enough to be able to put up with this even if there is no change? true love needs to be uncondtional and sacrificial and that can be very emotionally draining and painful if only one person is displaying that type of love. it sounds harsh but true love means you want for her to be happy even if it means she is going out without you,and seeing her happy with her friends makes you happy because such is your love for her that it is stronger than the desire for your own needs to be met. relationships work when both ppl are wanting their partners needs and desires to be met above their own. if she isn't willing to make compromises to ensure you are happy, then possibly you need to really assess what this girl means to you and is this the type of relationship you can be in long-term. of course i don't know you or your personal situation so you have to deal with this how you see best, i just believe two ppl need to work together to make it work..and more than that they both need to WANT to work together because their partner is their priority above themself. GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-12 01:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by sparkle 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋