a question about ex's...?

Question

if you had been with someone for 5+ years and then broke up, if you found somthing of theirs (pictures) like 3 years after you broke up would you send them to your ex? would you include a note? if so what would it say?

I am just wondering as I happened across some pics of my ex's, her family and classmates but my ex left me about 3 years ago, and I don't know if I should send them or not, and if I should should I include a note? what should the note say, or should I just put the pics in a envlope with no return address and mail them or what? thanks for the input just trying to get an Idea of what everyone else would do.

Answer 1

truthfully, i wouldn't bother. if he hasn't been looking for them, he obviously doesn't miss them. and i wouldn't want to have to see my ex, truthfully.

Answer 2

Maybe you should keep those pictures as a reminder of the good times the two of you shared and put it in a scrapbook. Does she have pictures of the both of you as well? Has she sent them back to you?
Either your a super sweet person or your wanting to rekindle those feelings again (I could be wrong considering you didn't say anything about that...but still....we're only human).
If you were to send her those pictures I would put them in a nice card of some sort. I would put down a quick 'hello, how are you?' and maybe something more, "I just stumbled upon these photos and figured you may want them for your safe keeping, ect, ect..." Nothing too mushy, you know? Straight to the point. I would put a return address because you never know if your ex may want to meet up for lunch sometime and talk about the past three years.
I would do it...just to see where it goes. Friendship or more.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I think the question is more what do you want to do. If you simply want to return the pics and have no interest in yout ex, drop them in an envelope with no return address and no note. If you have interest in your ex and want to re-establish a possible link then send them with a note and a return address. If your ex has moved on with someone else and you are aware of it, that is a seperate question that you have to apply your moral code to since sending a letter even if you want to may harm that new relationship.

Answer 4

My ex sent me pics when he was in basic training in the military and he told me not to let anything happen to them. Well, we broke up and I threw them away. It's been a couple years and he's never said anything about them but now I feel bad that I did it. You should send them back. If you don't feel comfortable writing a note, then don't, but give them back.

Answer 5

I probably wouldn't even bother to send them. After all it has been three years. They certainly haven't missed them. If you do feel you need to send them you might just put a note in explaining 'how you were cleaning out a closet and ran upon these old photos I thought you might would like.' sign your name and that's that.

Answer 6

I'd probably throw them out. But sending them the pictures with a note saying I found these and thought you might like them , would be nicer.

Answer 7

I agree with sending them back to your ex,although I'd avoid a note,like already said,they will know where it came from * no explanation is really necessary.

Answer 8

Neem there and done that. I just included a note to him that I was cleaning out the closet and thought he might like to have these back.

Answer 9

Being that they are of her family and classmates...sure..send them, short note "thought you might like these"...you would feel better for it than if you were to throw them away...no need for any hidden guilts.

Answer 10

Unless it's something of value(sentimental or monitary)...throw it away. But if you do send them back,don't include a letter. They should be able to figure out where they came from.

Answer 11

I would return it to the ex through a friend.