This girl is miserable because she's not beautiful- everyone- including her friends- say she is just average looking and not beautiful. She has gone insane because of this. What should she do?
2007-09-11 22:51:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
She feels rage when someone else tells her another girl is beautiful. For example- the person says to her "inday was a very beautiful woman!" or "she's beautiful!"
2007-09-11 22:54:14 · update #1
She's also upset to hear that physically beautiful girls are always treated better- even if they are mean girls or girls who do bad things. It's not fair- she said.
2007-09-11 23:23:12 · update #2
I hope you're Christian, but if not I'll say it nonetheless... PRAY!
There's a whole lot of people, and one amazing big God who thinks this girl is beautiful. Physical beauty is only skin deep, but God and Christian people can see into the beauty of the soul. Come into the presence of God and he will give you pride and joy in yourself! God bless
2007-09-11 23:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by markonici 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
There are two issues here.
The first issue is someone is telling her she is average looking .That is an insult a very back handed under the radar insult . If you want to mess with someones self esteem dont call them ugly call them average.This girl may not know she has been insulted or if she has may not be able to articulate the effect.
Many guys will differ on how good looking one particular woman is to them . One guy will say she is not attractive to me , the other guy will drool over the same girl. What one guy may find attractive anther wont and vice versa.
She should get some therapy because she has been hurt by her so called friends . Her so called friends have let her down and appear to be cattishly competive with her .
Mental attributes are important .Looks only go so far . Many men would frack a beautiful woman but would not have a relationship with the beautifl woman becuase her personalty sucks like a sack of sh*t .
Rely on you as a total person.
If there is a guy you like find out what he likes physicaly . Does he like a womans legs, derrier, breast , feet. When talking to him talk to him in a room where there are other females and watch where his eyes subtly glance to . Then the next time dress to flaunt that physical feature.
2007-09-12 10:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What can I say? This may be offensive, but if you ask me... If she's that upset about something like that, then she didn't lose her sanity because of it. She was insane in the first place. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, all that glitters is not gold... It doesn't really matter that much, does it? In the long run, people will like you more for personality than for looks.
I advise seeing a psychiatrist or therapist if she hasn't done that already. Also, the people around her should try to boost her self-esteem - if they know that it upsets her when she's told that she's only "average", then maybe they shouldn't say it. Or maybe they should add something on, saying that it doesn't matter because she's beautiful inside. Come on, look at the beautiful people who've done bad things.
And if religion helps, then by all means.
2007-09-12 06:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Aerin 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Ok! Here's the 411 on life, my dear.
You only have but one life to live. There are many things that are far more important than obssessing over your looks. I do symphatize with you, however, I have to say this the best way I know how.
Imagine yourself suddenly being killed in a car accident and ascending to heaven. Once you are there you are then seated in a room by yourself. While you are there you begin to ask yourself " What was my life like on earth?, Did I enjoy it? Did I make the best of it? Did I help others?
If you honestly can answer these questions without any hestitations and regrets then you have done well. But if all you can say is that I spent my life concerned with what others had to say about my beauty, looks , etc. YOU HAVE NOT LIVED AT ALL! YOU CANNOT LET NEGATIVITY INFLUENCE YOUR LIFE. YOUR GOD- GIVEN LIFE, THAT HE GAVE TO YOU ONLY. THAT IS WHY WE ARE UNIQUE. WE ARE HERE TO SERVE A PURPOSE AND NOT TO WASTE OUR LIFE AWAY OBSESSED WITH OUR LOOKS OR MEANINGLESS DETAILS. Some babies don't even have a fighting chance to even get idea of their futures because they have died prematurely. Some teenagers don't get a chance to live out their dreams because their live was cut short. Some parents cannot be around for their families because they have passed on.
Then there are those that have been born with deformaties and they did not have the chance to choose it so. My friend, please be thankful for having all your body parts and good health. Others wish they could have what you have.
YES, society has dictated to us who is attractive. But the truth is that colors were made for the picking. You may have a man drool over you for all that you are. Beauty and all. While another may not. The one that is drooling over you is the one that God has chosen for you. He will compliment you and know that you are his Cleopatria. That's very important to know. In addition to that your life has more than just beauty to offer another human being, including yourself. Be good to yourself, open up your eyes and realize that you need to make the most out YOUR LIFE!
God bless you and keep you well. God did not make junk.
He gave us all different blessings. Rediscover yours and share it. Look at yourself in the mirror and say " I was meant for GREATNESS!"
2007-09-19 14:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by catmandingo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with your friend is that society places such a high emphasis on beauty, and your friend feels she can never achieve this beauty. I remember in high school, where academic success should have been more emphasized, everyone focused on how pretty this girl was versus another. The “ugly” girls eventually would go home and cry themselves to sleep at night.
Ask you friend to focus on what her good qualities are, both visual and cerebral. Everyone has some feature that is pretty. Have her emphasize that. And tell her to lighten up and enjoy herself. Men really don’t want to spend time with a girl that just sits on her pity pot all day long!
2007-09-12 10:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many type of girls in this earth.
This is why I love my job,I like to change girls into Glamor.
But she has to know,not all beautiful girls are happy some beautiful girls do feel miserable too,and not all girls are perfect,the perfection starts in the heart and grows back to reflect the outer beauty in you.
Everyone can feel special pretty beautiful in there own way they just need to search real hard to find it and make it glow.
2007-09-12 10:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is made to be beautiful. They have to learn to be beautiful. It is not just the outside. People who are naturally beautiful sometimes don't have anything else going for them. Not being drop dead gorgeous makes you learn to have a personality and use your brain. Those will last longer then beauty ever could.
2007-09-19 13:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for that girl to realise that beauty is not everything.
Beauty can only get you so far in life, it's the rest of the girl such as her spirit, intelligence and personality which will get her places.
Besides, what does it matter really? There are worse things than not being the best looking person in the world.
2007-09-12 06:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Shivers 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Life's not fair, and yes it's true the beautiful are treated better but they get old and then things change.
2007-09-13 00:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by milly w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be mistaken perception there|
I find average natural (and I stress the word *natural* here) woman exceedingly lovely, for they are real.
Some of the "beautiful" ones I cannot stand because they are so phony looking, as if they are made of plastic or something|
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2007-09-12 09:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by canx_mp058 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She has to learn how to acknowledge someone that is much beautiful than her. If shes just average then she should still be thankful. At least shes not ugly. O diba? Ok lng yan
2007-09-12 06:03:10 · answer #11 · answered by lobervoy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋