I read in Dr. James Dobson's book "Bringing up Boys" that there are studies showing Gay guys have poor or non-existant relationships with their Dads or have had no dominant male influences around them growing up (like an uncle or father figure). How true is that? I would like to hear from the Gay guys out there it this is generally true.
2007-09-11 17:53:47 · 22 answers · asked by Kevin T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know a lot of gays that were brought up by just their mother, for whatever reason, but i also know a lot of straight guys that were brought up the same way, so who knows. I personally had a father in my life and we do not have a close relationship at all, i talk to him, maybe once a year, if that often. I do not think our relationship has anything at all to do with the fact that i am gay though. I knew i was gay from a very young age, and back then he was laways around, and i had a lot of male influences in my life.
2007-09-15 02:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that were true wouldn't all boys with no dominant male influence in their life grow up to be gay? Are you basically saying that Dobson's book shows that boys must be "taught" to be straight?
As for me, my parents divorced when I was 9 and I discovered my interest in male anatomy at the age of 12. There's no way the 3 years of weekend only contact with my father could have that kind of influence on my sexuality.
2007-09-11 23:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess Dobson can go sh!t in his hat. Mine's been dead for nearly eleven years now, so let's just say that our relationship hasn't been a factor in a very long time...
Besides, using that logic, if a straight guy grew up in a home where his father beat his mother all the time, wouldn't that necessarily make all men raised that way into wife or GF abusers?
As for when I was growing up, he was the exact opposite of a "non-dominant male figure." In fact, he was an Air Force Master Sergeant. Get the picture?
2007-09-11 18:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware of Dobson, he comes off as goody goody but he has an agenda ( his own interpretation of God's law) Half his insights are really good but then he comes out of left field with his fire and brimstone extremism Dobson can be downright malicious and petty If you read his book where he trivializes Pete Maravich's death and goes wacko about clouds and airplanes in the sky you will see what I mean My brother was gay and he had a poor relationship with my dad I can't discount that there may be something to what Dobson contends I believe for the most part homosexuality is a random dispersion by nature like left handedness About 5% of the world is left handed This is true of all cultures throughout the world Homosexuality runs about 5% throughout the world in all cultures. About 5% of all species of animals are also homosexual. Lets stop persecuting gays and tolerate them as a minority just like people with a rare blood type
2007-09-11 18:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake is believing anything Dr. Dobson has to say about gay people. He has one motivation and one goal and that is to revile and shut up all gay people. Anything he sites or uses to do that has been carefully crafted to support his point of view. The studies he sites are usually bogus.
This is a stereotype. While some gay men had poor relationships with their fathers, many did not. And it ignores the number of heterosexual males who had poor or nonexistent relationships with their father.
For example, my relationship with my dad was not that great. But my brother had precisely the same relationship and he's heterosexual.
2007-09-11 18:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not from what I've seen. Some of the gays I knew has a great relationship with their fathers. Sure, I have met a few gays who had a terrible relationship, but i would not put a great deal of faith (pun intended) in anything Dr. Dobson has to say about gay, anyway
2007-09-11 18:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My boss is gay and he has a great relationship with his father. My coworker is a lesbian and she gets along well with both her christian parents. I'm gay and I hate my father.
Dr Dude is just making a big guess about why people are gay and that's just not true. I knew I was gay before I hated my dad.
If his theory were true then there'd be a lot more than 10% of guys being gay because let's face it, most fathers are dlcks.
2007-09-11 18:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by poopstaind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the gay men I've talked to about it have great relationships with their fathers. I've heard that stupid theory about the "no dominant male influences" and it just doesn't hold water. Somebody thought it sounded good, and it caught on. But it is completely untrue.
2007-09-11 19:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a generalization. I'm gay and my relationship with my father is perfectly fine! In fact I was surrounded by mostly straight men for the first half of my life and it really has had no bearing on my sexuality at all. I'm still gay...and I always will be no matter who I expose myself to!
2007-09-11 18:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Sexi Man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, then we could rubber stamp every person with a "gay slant." Some guys do sincerely care for and get along with their fathers. Others do not, and this is whether they are "straight" or "gay." The same may be said for the "lesbians." I wish all of our planet's population much peace. Remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. God Bless us all.
2007-09-11 18:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋