You've ruined someone's life so bad and there is NOTHING you could do to fix it? How can I just move on especially when I'm so used to fixing things that I've screwed up especially that's what makes me feel better what I did fixing them. Now how am I supposed to feel better? I'm so crushed. : ( It's like the drunk driver who've killed a mother's baby boy. There is nothing that driver can do to bring that child back. What do you do in situation's like that?
2007-09-11 17:33:01 · 6 answers · asked by ms.l_thoms 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I became friends with this girl online who I put my whole life into and when we ended things and I did some terrible things out of anger that I regreted later. I harrassed her and ppl in her family. They would tell me to leave them alone but I would come back with a new pg if they blocked me from my original and I kept at it. And now she's lost her crush of 8yrs and her reputation amongst ppl have dropped drastically and even though she gave me chance after chance she isn't willing to go on any further. And I can't fix things cuz she just wants me to leave her alone and now I feel really bad but while I was doing the terrible things I felt nothing. So now I guess u can say I
m getting that painful hangover you get from a night of drinking.
2007-09-11 17:51:44 · update #1
You have to find a way to make it better. My 12 Steps tells me in Steps 8 and 9
8) Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9)Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
They are hard steps to take, but if there is any way we can, we must do it. In many cases, I have been able to do that - even indirectly. You cannot replace a mother's child, but there are ways you can make amends. The thing about the 12 Steps is that they don't tell you how to do it or what to do, they just tell you to do it. Up to you to find that way.
Right now you have started the journey. You have started working on Step 4, probably the hardest of all by making a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself. You have even touched on Step 10 by admitting it. Open your heart and let go. Maybe there is a way to make it better after all. Pax - C
2007-09-11 17:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Persiphone_Hellecat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you enjoy feeling guilty.
If you have done what you can do to remedy the situation, carrying guilt past that point is likely a desire to feel guilty. If you made your apologies then, carrying guilt past that point is to enjoy punishing yourself and to enjoy feeling guilty.
2007-09-12 00:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never told "us" what exactly you did that was so wrong. I have felt the same way and I over reacted. By the next day..it still bothered me but it took awhile for my pain to go away. Please tell us what you did so we can help.
2007-09-12 00:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Autismmomof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue with your own life,and try not to think of it so much.Otherwise get therapy and move on.
2007-09-12 00:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Life goes on... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um wow bad answer above me
pray to God he always listens and answers
2007-09-12 00:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by fightingstatue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
off yourself!
2007-09-12 00:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by risgoods123 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋