Why do people still get married today, if statistic predict that the marriage will end in divorce?

Question

Isn't marraige something from the 20th century.
what about trial marraiges for 5 years. the marriage license expires and can be renewed upon new vows. no more divorces.

Answer 1

They get married because they are young and inexperenced. They are not aware of the statistics and besides they are in love and expect it to last forever.

Answer 2

The only reason so many marriages end in divorce today is because of people's view of marriage. They see divorce as a possibility if they change their mind, or if a problem arises. Back in the day, a divorce was hard to get. Longer before that, almost impossible. Those people really knew how to work out their problems, and that's why so many of our grandparents are still married, and still love each other.

Today's couples quit and give up on their marriages after a few things go wrong. If people realized that marriage is not some sort of Cinderella story, the divorce rate would be much lower. And, people would be happier in their marriages. Basically, the problem being divorce itself. If someone decides to get married, and they have a doubt, their first thought: oh, it's not permanent...I can get a divorce.

When people start ruling out the divorce option (which they won't, it's too convenient), and deciding that they want their marriage to last, the divorce rates will plummet.

Answer 3

I think this really depends on the parties involved, and whether or not religion is spurring things. For many American men, marriage really isn't ideal. However, I do not say this because of the lack of servitude on the woman's part. Marriage in the modern age, outside of religion, has become interlaced with and bogged down by a lot of social stigma. There is so much negative surrounding the idea of marriage, and the individuals in a married couple, that people really don't have a great chance of making it in any long-term commitment. What you said about the women getting fat is an example of the stigma, especially considering that the generalization is only half true. Men also get fat in marriage, and in long-term commitments that are not legally bound. Some men who don't work while the woman provides the income of the household also get fat, and refuse to do their share of the housework, and prepare meals for the woman for when she arrives home from an 8+ hour day at work. People have children with a boyfriend or girlfriend that they were with for the wrong reasons, then get married for the wrong reasons, and have no solid foundation to base the relationship on from day 1. So, the question is if you are willing to shed your stereotypical view of the relationship world, and find what works for you. If you don't want marriage, there are many great women around that are happy to oblige. Find what makes you happy, and go for it. :)

Answer 4

Why? Because the statistics predict that only 50% end in divorce, and everyone who is in love thinks they will be in the other 50% that don't end in divorce.

I personally wouldn't agree to a marriage that had a expiration date.....prenuptial contracts are about as far as I'd go from the "all or nothing" of marriage. Probably a 5 year engagement would make more sense than a 5 year marriage to me.

Answer 5

Marriage can be challenging and not everyone who gets married is aware of that until they actually do it. We live in a culture of convenience. When things get tough or don't meet expectations, the first instinct for many is to bail out. As far as trial marriages go, what else will be made-to-order...children? That's absurd. A certificate with an expiration date trivializes marriage even further.

People don't live their lives according to statistics. No one ever thinks that they will be in the divorce percentage. People get married for many reasons. Love, money, children, loneliness etc. There shouldn't be trial marriages but the development of better premarital counseling for those serious enough about it.

Answer 6

People don't believe that statistics affect them.
Look at smoking or drugs or Speeding. Most people believe they are different and it will work for them.
That is why they do it.
The world would be a lot better place if we increased marriage and decreased divorce. Not going to happen though while everything that goes wrong is someone Else's responsibility.
The trail idea has been used by many and their marriages are often the shortest of the lot.
They wouldn't make the 5 years. Most wont make one.

Answer 7

First of alll, the 20th century ended just seven years ago-- not exactly ancient history.

I think people get married because they're basically optimistic. Lots of us still believe in happily ever after. We still believe in stable, safe families and in growing old together. Without the legal commitment of marriage, most of us don't feel as safe, either emotionally or financially.

As far as your five-year plan, what's the difference between non-renewal of this contract and divorce? Either way, it's over. The contract just makes it so easy that people will no longer have to try.

Answer 8

First of all, statistics don't 'predict' anything. Predicting would imply they are forward-looking rather than a sampling of past events. What the marriage statistics in North America, for example, do tell you is that around 50% of all marriages have ended in divorce for more than 50 years.

Second, marriages for 5 years? That is dating. You ever consider what it takes to raise children?

Answer 9

Are you out of your mind a 5 year contract is that what you are saying.That's find for a man but what about the female who now will be alone with the kids he now don't want.How about all the bills he no longer has to pay. That is a very stupid idea.People get married thinking they are going to feel the way they do the day they get married but that is imposable. As the years go by there are 3 stages you go through and if you make it through then you will have a good long life together as man and wife.

Answer 10

Most marriages end by the sixth year;if they are going to fail. You have to understand why people get divorced. The #1 reason is finances. #2 I'm tired of you I want something new. #3 We got married too young or too soon. #4 I was just running from my parents right into marriage. #5 The parents are too involved in their kids marriages. #6 The kids are here and I need to get rid of some of my baggage, I never really did get a chance to discover myself or find out who I really am. The list is endless, and needless to say, adultery is Not one of the most popular reasons for divorce.

Answer 11

The people that get married and are not ready
to be married, then yes the statistics say they
will get a divorce, however if two people are in
love, committed to each other, then they will
tear down the statistic as some of us are married
for life. My parents were married for 55yrs before
they passed away and I am married over20yrs
and happy, so statistics just effect some people
and not all.