Need help dealing with grief....?

Question

My younger brother was killed in a car accident on August 25th of this year. He was driving, and when the tires hit the shoulder he overcorrected and the car rolled several times...his seat belt broke and he was thrown through the windshield. He died instantly. He was only 18. I've never lost someone so close to me...there was so very much I didn't get to tell him...I just want to know....does the pain ever get easier to handle? I know I will never stop hurting...he was my only brother. I'm just hoping that someday the pain will be less sharp, less intense....or will it always hurt like this? Will I always cry at night? Help!

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear about your brother. I know first hand that dealing with grief is difficult. I too lost someone very close to me in August. My daughter was stillborn 2 days after my due date. The pain will get easier to handle. But it takes time. There are still days when I cry a lot and still nights that I cry before I go to bed. But the pain some days is less intense. You just have to take each day as it comes and work through those emotions on that particular day. Take one day at a time.

Answer 2

OK i know this is probably something you may not want to hear but i would suggest counseling. you will never have the pain all the way gone but it will get easier to handle. i lost my father to cancer when i was pregnant with my oldest daughter. I'm still not completely over it. but after 8+ years and counseling i can finally talk about dad with out totally falling apart. like i said it will take time and if you have someone to talk to it will be a bit easier...

Answer 3

I'm so sorry about your brother. I can only imagine the pain you feel. It will always hurt but be strong.

Answer 4

I'm sure it will take time. Take it easy. Are their friends, relatives or a minister that you can turn to and talk to?

Answer 5

time heals all wounds