we've been dating a year and we're juniors and she acts like we're still super young and said our youth pastor and friends are afraid we're too serious and we asked them and they dont think that at all.
she said i seemed insecure and am always calling to see what he's doing. um i never do that! thats obsessive. i had an abusive bf so i have a right to be kinda insecure atleast.
how can i get over the things she's said? they hurt really bad..
2007-09-11 15:37:29 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the answers so far are really great. yesterday i tried killing her with mild kindness. i mean she is very sweet but i get enough verbal abuse as it is. i just want her to like me again because if i get married to this guy i want our families to be cool with it, ya know? email me more input. goodcharli13@aim.com
2007-09-13 10:19:53 · update #1
She's the one who is insecure. She's feeling like she might be losing her "little boy" to another woman. Always be polite to her. Try not to give her any ammunition against you. So when she says things about you, you and your bf know they aren't true. Your youth pastor and friends already know that what she says is not true. You have your bases covered. Don't let her pull you two apart. My mother-in-law never said one nice thing to me or about me for 31 yrs. Then she died. But no matter what she said, everyone else knew it wasn't true. She just looked bad to all her relatives, friends, and our pastor. And no matter what she said, I still loved her daughter and we are still together. It sounds like you are rerunning our episodes. Just love your bf and have fun. Don't let the b***h get to you. Good luck.
2007-09-11 16:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like mom is afraid of losing her little boy and that is normal. It is her problem and she will eventually deal with it. You forgive because not to do so will cause you to be unhappy and it is not fair to harbor resentments. Perhaps she took some liberties to influence the two of you. Maybe, you could ask your boyfriend to reassure his mom and encourage her to tell him of her concerns and not depend on stretching the truth to gain credibility.
2007-09-11 23:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋