"Love is blind....?

Question

and lovers cannot see..." is that true?

Answer 1

Love is not blind. It has an extra spiritual eye which sees the good that others do not.

Answer 2

"Love" isn't a single emotion, it's a meshing of two or more emotions of varying degrees, put together in different combinations by each individual, which change from moment to moment throughout their lifetimes. This definition covers all types of love, not just "perfect" or "true" love.

Each person decides throughout their lifetime at any moment what love is to them whether it is on a conscious level or not; what combination of emotions they should be feeling, how strongly they need to be feeling each of them and how important each of them is. This is why people fall in love with strangers or those they barely know, because those types of people are basically blank slates whom we can convince ourselves meet our criteria. It's also why we become brokenhearted later (which is almost inevitable) when we get to know them through a closer relationship and discover that they didn't meet our criteria after all, if that ends up being the case.

As a person ages and experiences different things, then their views also change, sometimes slightly and sometimes drastically. So what they attribute as love changes, too. This is why people fall out of love with others, or why their love will develop or grow stronger.

Since we each decide which combination of emotions at any time come together to be love, then it is us that chooses love and not the other way around. You aren't made to fall in love with a certain person, you've chosen to, whether it's a conscious choice or not. We are also each responsible for any "destructive" love we may feel if we include emotions such as jealousy and anger into the combination.

There are all kinds of love and infatuation is one of them. It's more commonly known as "puppy love". People tend to discriminate against it and belittle it because it doesn't fall into the category of what they consider to be "true love" or "perfect love", but it is love nonetheless. The thing about the love known as infatuation is that it tends to be an obsessive and very passionate kind of love, so the one possessing it views the person they are infatuated with through very narrow blinders and the fire of the love burns bright and fast, and in turn dies just as quickly and thoroughly.

Answer 3

strong emotional ties to another person inhibit not only negative emotions but also affect the brain circuits involved in making social judgements about that person.

That attachment involves a push and a pull mechanism — you are pulled along by the strong sense of reward you feel when you love.

But you are also pushed by a tendency not to objectively see faults in the other person which might threaten love, because circuits responsible for critical social assessment and negative emotions are literally switched off.

So love really is blind and there is a biological basis for the blindness.
It means neuroscience finally explains why we can't see the faults in our partners or children which others can clearly perceive and as a result find our affection mysterious.

It also explains why we take so long to finally see the flaws in those we idealise because of our love, and which means we can end up choosing the wrong person to commit to.

The flaws only become apparent after our initial ardour has cooled, allowing previously suppressed brain areas to awaken to the reality of who we find ourselves with the morning after.

Answer 4

A person in love is not blind but blessed.
As long as you don't think of building a family, it's ok. But if you do, then you have to open your eyes.......
Love is the most beautiful thing.... I assume you don't mean the love of your child or the long hard worked marriage...that feel like work...then you are just being used to it.
Love is just you and him/her. No past and no future, no rules.. Love is now because you are happy with someone.
To be envy about.

Love knows no rich nor poor!

Answer 5

...according to Shakepeare, it is! ....but i personally like the answer of yrrehc.....so okay, here's my contribution - the origin of the phrase ---


From Shakespeare's The Merchant Of Venice.

JESSICA: "Here, catch this casket; it is worth the pains.

I am glad 'tis night, you do not look on me,

For I am much ashamed of my exchange:

But love is blind and lovers cannot see

The pretty follies that themselves commit;

For if they could, Cupid himself would blush

To see me thus transformed to a boy."

Answer 6

Remember love is a life-style also. You wouldn't love to love ice cream every day. Its got to be a healthy fit. So open those lids and turn on your brain, or do a Brittney Spears. Two kids and a pounchy tummy later, lifes not so rosie.

Answer 7

Yes, love is blind. And lovers cannot see.

They walked all over me and never even noticed.

Answer 8

Oh, you betcha! Love sees only what it wants or thinks it needs to see. Why is this question in the Philippines category? This is true everywhere!

Answer 9

NO love isn't Blind it just dont mind what it sees!

Answer 10

I guess sometimes its because.... lovers become " STUPID" not (trying to offend) coz they choose to believe or not believe.. I mean they are in denial... because of their love to someone even though this someone is like a fool one...something like that