I am 22, got married way to earlier, had the whole world figured out. I supposedly got married so that I could change the world, and fullfil my purpose in life. That was my belief systeem. My wife left shortly after the love we had died. This was a wake up call that my belief system was highly flawed. Now I question the reliablity of our creator, and the purpose we have in life? Why do some die and some live? Is it Gods divine plan or is it all by chance? Why do the bad people always come out on top? Why do we have empty faith? How do we heal from a loss of beliefs?
2007-09-11 15:07:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My first wife died (drunk driver) while we were in grad school, just 1 yr after we were married. I was able to move on, and live again and love again, but I never regained my faith in God. I had all the questions you have. I heard all the standard answers. "God never gives us more than we can handle." "God wanted her to help him in Heaven." etc. But those didn't answer the question of "Why?" If we do go to Heaven after we die, I intend on asking Him/Her that question.
2007-09-11 15:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural that when things go bad, we question our faith in God. If God loves us, why would he allow bad things to happen to us? This is the ageless question.
But the fact of the matter is (if you are Christian), Jesus never promised a perfect life. In fact, we should expect to face loss and depression and trials. What he did promise was that if you have faith, when you die, you will have an eternal life with him.
I compare it to a father-child relationship. Your child is sick so you take him or her to the doctor. The father is instructed to hold down the child for a shot. The child looks at the father as if he is evil and screams in pain, all the while not realizing this is for his own good. We see our trials, and think that we are being punished, when in reality, perhaps God is shaping us, and making us better people. Someone who is more like him and in his image.
You don't know what your purpose in life is, but God knows. We can make all these grand plans, but then God says, no, do it my way.
Please don't be so hard on yourself. Realize that everyone suffers, in different ways, and at different times. It is what you do with that suffering that either changes you for the better, or for the worst. Grieve the loss, but please don't let it destroy your faith. It is now that you need your faith more than ever.
Your life will get better. I promise.
2007-09-11 22:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your loss, and it's hard to keep your faith in God when tragedies happen. But it's good to remember that he DOES have a plan for everyone, and bad people don't always come out on top. He would never put you through anything you can't handle. In Job, Satan has to ask God for permission to harass Job. The only reason why God let him was because he knew that Job could handle it. In the end, it'll make your faith stronger. The best way to heal is to keep on telling yourself that she's in a better place.
2007-09-11 22:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said your belief system was to get married and change the world. It said nothing about believing in a creator.
"Should we accept good from God and not bad?" Bad times will either strengthen your faith if you trust God to bring you through them, or kill it by turning away from God and looking to the world.
2007-09-11 22:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by The Comedian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
our faith shud remain d same no matter wat we encounter in life dats one test we r given,in relationship whether it work out or not, in our circumtance with d world around us or with watever happen outside of us....we cnt blame God for everyting dat happens2us,its how we react that matters,its d freedom to choice to think to do and to live. a Freedom He wants us to have. but judgement will come soon for all good n bad pple whether u become successful is all up to us. Our faith help bt we hv2do our part....ders a divine plan in general bt der a choice for our own life given to us. As empty as it may seems in d end u will understand d lesson learn frm ea.trials we go tru in life n how we hv grown bec of it or decline.Losing faith means losing trust n losing ur directions. ders is no straight answer,bt ders a straight path,right way of things.
2007-09-12 00:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Gfred_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, she just wasn't the one god wanted you to spend the rest of your life with. believe me there will be plenty more ladies coming your way and one of those ladies will be the one. don't lose your faith in god over this matter. all of us have asked the question, why me god? when things go wrong. i'm 56 and have lost (or thought i lost my faith in god) many times over the years, but i found out that those times i didn't believe in god, were the worst times. believe me, god is there and you must believe that, go on with your life and enjoy yourself. good things will happen, and bad things will happen but you will continue on. do me a favor and look for the story, "foot prints in the sand" and when your down, read it again and again and i believe you'll be ok. wishing you good will..........
2007-09-11 23:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by richie d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You married the wrong person. God put you two together for a reason, a reason we do not know. It sounds like you're blaming God for your woes. Perhpas your faith isn't as strong as it once was if you have to question God's will.
2007-09-11 22:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋