My Ex is asking me to sign papers to forgive him to pay his back child support that he ows to get his drivers licence back that the state of louisiana took away. He said this is the only way to get his drivers licence back. I dont want to sign the papers cause he rarely pays now and ows my child around 14 Thousand in back support. I was wondering if there was another way he can get his licence back without me siging the papers releasing him of ever having to pay all that back support, Or is this only way he is able to get his licence back ?
2007-09-11 15:04:55 · 20 answers · asked by michaelson0416 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been a faithful child support payer for 14 years, and i did what i had to do to keep up the payments. I believe if your X really cared for his child's well fare than he should of kept up with the payments and he would not be in the predicament his got himself in. Why should he get off when you have guys out there who really want to do the right thing for there kids. My son is now a freshman at Brother Martin High School and I'm so proud of him. The state has in-forced this law for the dead beats unfortunately you have to deal with. He's your X and if he wants his licenses renewed then tell him to pay up or get used to public transportation. Good luck and stick to your guns. Make us few good doers proud.
2007-09-11 15:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's HIS problem that he has failed to pay child support and that he has lost his license. Not yours. Why you are even wondering if he can get his license back without you signing the paper is beyond me. You have done your part as a parent trying to support this child and he hasn't. When your child did not have things and was upset, do you think this man thought about that as much as the two of you? Not at all. He is now concerned because he doesn't have a license. Cry me a river, boo hoo. Ever heard of public transportation or a bus. Hello? So stop wondering what you can do for him . Do not sign papers to disregard what he owes. He has to pay the consequences for it and your child probaly already has so think of that instead. Most states let you at least make payments even if it's a small effort. They take actions when the person has blatantly disregarded any responsibility what so ever so WHO CARES if he gets his license back? Let it be him who cares and takes the correct action to get it back, do not allow guilt to run your life when it comes to a deadbeat dad who got away for many years without supporting his child. Think of your child. You are not guilty for someone else not taking responsiblity financially or otherwise for a child they helped create.
2007-09-11 19:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...some states might allow your ex to get his license back if he works out a repayment schedule for the back child support....
But I want to touch on something extrememly important...something that you said...he owes your CHILD 14,000. If I were you there would be no way on earth that I would sign away money that is owed to your child....
He is attempting to manipulate you and he should not be let off the hook under any circumstances. Poor guy, he doesn't have a driver's license...
I feel worse for the child who has a deadbeat dad.
2007-09-11 15:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if he doesn't have a license and you shouldn't care either. He needs to pay his child support. He helped make the child so he should help pay to support him. You are way STUPID if you sign those papers. It's like you're giving money that belongs to your son away. If you don't want it, put it in a bank account for when your son turns 18 but don't let him off the hook.
2007-09-11 15:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about his license. Under any circumstances, do not sign any papers letting him off the hook. My son is married and expecting a baby. I get 50 bucks a month, but it's 50.00 I would not have if I had done that. My son is 25. 7 years over the adult age of 18. The money comes every month. Good luck.
2007-09-11 15:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by specialforcesmom 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your only job is to take care of your kids, not your ex-husband. He obviously has not used his license to drive to work so he can support his child. I bet he is telling you he will now that he needs something from you. Don't buy his sad story and don't sign the papers. If he wants it, he can pay up.
2007-09-11 16:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is sad that he's gotten himself in to this mess, but the only person you will be hurting is your child! Why would you want to take that money away from your child? The child matters more than the sad sack you divorced. Don't let him lay a guilt trip on you so you can take food, clothing and other important things away from your child. He is a selfish, uncaring person. YOU take care of your child. Don't sign. For the sake of that child, do not sign.
2007-09-11 15:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't cost a thing to talk to the DMV.
If you have ever been on state aid,
for lack of child support, you will be the
one paying it back, if you sign that he
does not have to pay you. Check into
everything before you even consider signing.
It's hard on the guy with no license, but it was
hard on you to raise your family without support.
He's a grown man, let him face the life he has
messed up for himself.
2007-09-11 15:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 10:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the only way he will get his license back short of paying you the money that is due to your child.....
I don't know what state you are in but the money is your childs not yours so I don't think that is legal at least not here in GA.
But either way tell him to get walking....
2007-09-11 15:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋