i was wondering what to do if one of my students ever cried in front of me what should i do?

Question

is a hug appropriate i've known these students most of them for over a year it's happened before i didn't know what to do i just sat at my desk & watched them cry

not in front of the whole class i mean like for tutoring or after class

Answer 1

I would just try to console them, contact their parents, if needed. And send them to one of the school counselors.
I would never give them a hug, I would never want my job to be put in jeopardy.

But for some students, you may be the only person that they believe are there for them.

Answer 2

Every tear is different. I've had a lot of kids cry in front of me, and I've comforted some and told others to get over it and try to be an adult. I'm normally a little cautious around criers not because I don't want to do something inappropriate, but because a lot of people use crying for different things. Never go head strong into comforting someone who's crying. First, crying is simply a type of emotional release, like running, yelling, sleeping, etc, and it doesn't mean anything more than the guy who runs extra hard at practice to release the emotions... don't add deeper meaning to it. Second, crying is often used to incite reactions like pity which a lot of people get addicted to, and will sometimes cry simply for pity (I've seen the most bizarre cases like this). I'm not saying every case is like these two, but these are both common cases.

About hugging. Personally I don't care a lot about the new rules of never touching the kids. I don't touch any kids, but I don't live in fear of being thought of as a predator either. But, with that said, I wouldn't have wanted a teacher to hug me as a child. And I don't like people that i'm not really close to touching me in general. I've got students that love to hug, and that's ok, but don't hug someone that you've never seen be a physical person before. I know I've hugged kids, I don't know how I could have avoided it, but some kids do need more personal space.

Answer 3

I always talk to the children and try to see what is bothering them and try to help them feel better. I would either stoop down next to their desk to get on their level or pull them aside if they don't want to talk in front of the other students. It depends on the age of the students about a hug, that is a touchy subject some places so you might want to check with other teachers in your school. I have very young students so I will give them a hug. The older students I might just give a pat on the back or a hand on their shoulder to give support. Often times I find the children are just tired or having a bad day and it helps them to have someone to talk to.

Answer 4

Although it's natural for us to want to comfort ANY human being, we still have to be prudent on hugging. But to approach the students to talk to them is way better than just sitting behind the desk and watching them cry! A pat on the back would do.

It really depends on many things:

1. student's age - to determine what kind of comfort is the best
2. student's gender - we don't want to be blamed for insinuating anything
3. reason for crying - whether he's at fault or a victim of bullying
4. cultural norms - what culture knows as socially accepted ways of giving comfort. i.e. some societies are not physical.

Good luck!

Answer 5

A lot depends on the age, the maturity of the child and the reason for crying.

I would be reluctant to hug a child in the present atmosphere of sex scandals including a few teachers.

I would give the child a tissue and try to console her and speak to her without the other child en hearing. Depending on the situation the parent should be notified.

Answer 6

Hugs would definitely be inappropriate, as you don't really know how comfortable some of them might be with being physical.

I would suggest you could get up, stand next to them. Maybe a comforting hand on their shoulder might be ok, and tell them to calm down.

Depends on the context tho.. if they were being berated and break down, then it'll probably be more appropriate to just sit behind your desk with a stern face. :O)

Answer 7

These days you have to be worried about even giving a pat on the head. Talk to the administrators for guidelines. Keep some tissues around to offer to the student, that should be ok, send them to the school counselor to give them some privacy to collect themselves.

Answer 8

do no longer situation approximately it. i'm a unfavorable public speaker and when I cried in front of my total classification. i'm particular the professor has viewed somebody crying formerly and bear in suggestions they are knowledgeable to be waiting to accomodate pupils who've problems in issues. I easily have an extremely undesirable lower back and that i choose particular chairs and examination circumstances because of the fact of it, so i be responsive to the way being diverse is a perplexing element to do. merely take the only on one speech and that i'm particular you will sense extra beneficial while that's over. once you spot him on monday merely attempt to be confidant and supply him a huge smile, and then merely sit down. sturdy luck and bear in suggestions, all human beings has problems, some human beings's are merely extra durable to handle

Answer 9

With the way parents are today, I'd be scared to DEATH to tough a student even to console them.... If I were you, I'd maybe get down to their level (if they are sitting, sit next to them---if they are small, kneel down on the floor to be at their level. and just ask them very tenderly what is wrong, had the student a tissue, tell them if they need to talk they CAN....try to make them feel as comfortable as possible ... IF they are crying because of something bad at home, you know what you have to do... depending on the situation....

Answer 10

Do what ever you feel appropriate. I have hugged teachers before and it has been nothing. If you feel to uncomfortable with hugging, you can put your hand on their soldier or back while giving them a half hug.