My fiancee just broke my heart, what can I do to ease the pain!?

Question

She left me for some other guy after four years! What can I do to get over it, or at least stop the pain?

Answer 1

1. Excercise. Excercise is the enemy of depression and lots of negative feeling sorry for yourself thoughts.

2. Get outdoors. Goes right along with #1, but really get out there, either on weekends or a holiday from work. Camp, hunt, fish, hike, kayak, bike.....anything.

3. Work. Immerse yourself in work and improving your career skills. Hard work, like excercise, is theraputic.

4. Get laid. No, really, it works. Gets your confidence and self-worh back in shape.

5. Non-harmful Revenge. You know you want it!
Now, don't go become a stalker or something and the key is "Hateful, not hurtful". Someone already suggested hooking up with her sister and this, trust me, is a wonderful plan, I know it from experience. Also don't leave her mother, aunts, cousins, friends and coworkers off that list as well. This is just the kind of sick, twisted and demented revenge you need right now. Plus it supports #1 and #4!

6. Trust in fate. Despite what you may see in some silly romantic movie, more old people truly believe that their lives worked out for the best just the way they happened, particularly with mates. Trust that time will look back on this as a turning point to better things.

7. Trust yourself. When you come into this world it's just you and your mom. For most, when they leave they are alone. It makes sense to like that person...a lot. Work on it.

Answer 2

I was so excited to see the question yet sadden because I have been doing this for 4 years now. We use web cams to talk to each other. We would eat dinner together on it and watch the same shows. We also bought each other perfume and cologne because smell is the best sense to trigger a memory so we went out an bought 2 pillows and pillow case in our favor colors and we spray a little of the perfume/cologne on them before bed. Or when I am having a bed day i hold the pillow as we talk on skype. He is also a police officer and he works over night while I work early in the morning so when he is up and leaving for work I am about to go to bed and the opposite in the morning so we try to do this as much as we can. We appreicate each others love a whole lot more than if we lived close. It is very hard but if you can make it through distance and still trust each other that love will be a million times stronger than if you saw her every day.

Answer 3

Some additional suggestions to go along with DJ's Revenge Program:

1 - Write her name and phone number on bathroom walls, i.e. for a good time call ^^^-***-**** ask for Whatzername.

2 - Make use of a local sale paper. You know the ones that run free ads and the sell the paper. Put her car up for sale, put in a sob story, just divorced, lost my job must sell fast, take up payments, Call after mid-night.

3 - Same thing, sell her house or sub-let her appartment.

4 - This one might be a bit dangerous, Send a threatening letter to a public official, and sign her name and address. Be sure to wear gloves when you handle the paper and envelop.

5 - Get a buddy to start a rumor among her friends that she has a sexually transmitted disease.

6 - Call the crimestopper phone line and report her for something, drugs, gambling, prostitution, dog fights or kiddie porn. Or you can give a similar name but her address. Who knows, you might even earn a reward.

7 - Sign her up for really vile nasty magazine subscriptions. This works better on married guys, but what the hell, give it a try. Kiddie porn is good for this, especially if you can plant some in her appartment.

8 - Do all of the above to the new boyfriend.

9 - Score with all of her friends and as many family members as you can nail.

10 - If you know her bank account and social security numbers, Cancel all of her accounts and report her death. It will take months to clear all of that up.

11 - Advertise her sexual services on Craigslist.

12 - Report her for having a bad debt to all the major credit bureaus.

And at last, Lucky #13 - If you can plant something that belongs to you, something that everyone knows you own and cherish, something you'd never willing be parted from, in her car or apartment, you can have her arrested for theft.

And a word to the wise, never use your own telephone to pull these stunts. Use a public telephone, and or public computers. It is too easy to get caught these days. Never use your own name, if possible claim to be a clerk in a law office, or in some city bureaucracy. Never under any circumstances tell anyone, other than an accomplice, that you want revenge. Always act like the injured party and act surprised that she has gotten into so much trouble since you split up. And if caught, lie like a rug! Deny everything!

Hell, I didn't tell you any of this stuff. It's all a joke and a figment of your imagination.

Have fun and don't get caught.

Doc

Answer 4

the pain u are feeling is normal and beneficial to the healing process its a process one must go through in order to get over the hurt, it does take time and doesn't just happen overnight. don't try to rush it even though it does hurt, it is all part of the growing up process. ever think it just wasn't meant to be, and that it happened for a reason that u don't understand, better it happen now than after u were married and had kids. its normal to have pain after a breakup, especially one involving the ego where u were passed over for another, makes u feel as if there were something wrong with u but don't let this unfortunate thing affect your future, do new things, create a new life with someone else after u have grieved a bit. it will turn out, and the pain does diminish but at first its almost unbearable. u can't stop the pain its normal to feel hurt and rejected after someone leaves u, that u loved and planned a life with. its her loss not yours, just be happy it happened now instead of later on when u married her.

Answer 5

Heart brake is the worse plain there is you think you'll never get over the other person but guess what you do and you will. I will tell you what someone told me that helped it doesn't mean it will help you. I remember my heart hurting so bad so i did what i was told to do,say to yourself I'll get through this minute then after that minute is gone add on two more minute and so on and so on. Another thing i would do was to think about all the other people that was going through what i am right now. Telling myself i wasn't alone with my feelings,you know if you write your feels down in a note book what your going through helped me out.I would be writing my feelings and anger and pretending it was him i was talking to.Just try it it really does help a lot,but what do i know I'm only a girl LOL

Answer 6

DJ's words are the voice of wisdom. You would be wise to listen.

I would also add paying one of your gay friends to knock up the new boyfriend. Or at least to pretend to have done it then start the rumor that he did......lol

Good luck buddy!

P.s. It's hunting season. Try something new if you dont already hunt. It will make you forget her immediately.

Answer 7

Have yourself a pity party. Sit at home alone and get drunk and cry, whatever you need to do to let go of some frustration. But once that night's (and I do mean 1 night) over, don't ever do it again. Allow yourself to be sad, but don't allow it to take over your life. Get it out of your system though, or you won't feel better any time soon.

Answer 8

Brain Vargas this is the devil speaking its time to hit the clubs and drink all your pain away meet some nice hotties.

Or be a boring and let time heal all wounds.

Answer 9

Sorry the pain will not go away easily you can try to do something to take your mind off of it .

Answer 10

Embrace the pain. Show everyone what you are made of.