I heard that a man's sex drive decreases or disappears for the mother of his child if he watches her give birth. I looked it up online but didn't find much on the topic except that the father is just "scarred for life" by seeing us ripped open and just loses sexual attraction. Have any of you experienced this?
2007-09-11 13:16:52 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
no, he was with me for the first two, the third happened so fast, that was the night we had all those comets, in our small town there were like 13 deliveries and one tired doctor, the sex never changed, nor the attraction... the first time he did laugh and say, "Oh doc, can you put an extra stitch back in it for me?!" LOL
2007-09-11 13:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by omgithinkiknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was right there with me the entire time. He didnt have his face down there watching, but did see a lot of it. It took a little while for his drive to return, but I think that had more to do with making sure I was ok than with being scarred for life. The one part that bothered him was afterward when everything was very swollen. It has been 5 months and he has as strong a sex drive as ever.
If every man who watched a birth refused to have sex again no one would have siblings.
If you are concerned about your Mister, make sure he knows what to expect before the main event. Take a childbirth education class and have him watch other women give birth before he is in the delivery room with you.
2007-09-11 13:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by littlelins1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband (boyfriend at the time was) and he thought it was the most beautiful thing in the world, he actually looked at me in a higher respect and to be a little blunt... he is not normally like that and is a VERY SEX DRIVEN man. i was a little worried about the same thing but i had no problems.... besides, you really aren't physically supposed to have sex for 4-6 weeks after delivery due to everything trying to go back to normal from all of the trauma. but as soon as those 4 weeks were up, we were right back at it when we got a free moment.
The best answer would really be from the father. sit he down and maybe describe what all it going to happen, what the possibilities are and see what he thinks. it wouldn't hurt to show him a few videos from babycenter.com to let him really get an idea.
2007-09-11 13:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My baby's father was in the room & he handled everything well. And there was no decrease in his sex drive towards me & he was never "scarred for life" by what he saw. You can't have sex for 6wks after the birth anyway & by that time, your man will be crawling all over you just from the wait!
2007-09-11 13:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was in the room when I gave birth. His sex drive didn't decrease at all after watching me give birth.
2007-09-11 13:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by CM24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was.
Well, I asked my husband about the idea of losing sexual attraction, and he said no. Actually, he wasn't really able to answer no because of how he thought that idea is just ridiculous.
Honestly, if a guy loses sexual attraction because he sees his partner giving birth to his child, he is not much of a man at all and not worth your time!
2007-09-11 13:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by iamhis0 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband was with me for my whole labor experience. At first I didn't want him to look down there when I was pushing my son out because I was afraid of this as well. But you stop caring when you are actually in labor and start pushing. It's the most beautiful thing you could ever witness. Especially when the baby's head is crowning and you can feel his peachey feeling head for the first time. My husband helped hold my rightleg for me. His sex drive is as high as it has ever been! No problems with him being scared of me down there!!!
2007-09-11 13:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by JumpingBean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um no. My husband was in the room all day with me and we ended up having a c-section.
Only a shallow man would lose interest in his woman after watching her give birth. How could he sit there all day and watch you in pain and then lose his 'attraction' to his partner?
If anything, it makes the man realize that his woman is a very strong, and clever person and respects her even more!
2007-09-11 13:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kylie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wondered about it too. My husband was in the delivery room with me, and as far as i remember he stayed up closer to my face...I didn't think he actually saw the baby come out, but apparantly he did...and it did not affect his sex drive afterwards...if you are worried, just have your husband stay close to your face and have him look at you and talk to you while you are pushing the baby out-don't force him to look at you baby coming out, but you may be surpised to see that he wants to witness this miracle. If his sex drive declines after you give birth, it doesn't neccessarily have to do with him watching your baby come out of you---lack of sleep, demands of being a new daddy and the thought of having seen you in pain could all be legit reasons for why he may want to abstain from sex for a while....plus! you can;t have sex for 6 weeks after birth anyways...I think in a lot of ways those 6 weeks are a break for mommy as well as daddy
2007-09-11 15:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by amandajoan75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband was in there with both of my sons and now I'm 38 wks with my 3rd. and yes my baby's daddy will be in there( me and my husband got divorced 2 years ago)
but anyway it did not bother him at all in fact he seen how much pain i went through to have our kids and respected that.
He said it's the most amazing thing he's ever experienced.
But now i'm wondering (like you) how my baby's daddy is going to react to seeing the baby born, this is his first baby ( it's a boy ) because i've read about the father being worried about seeing what's going on. and he's mention stuff like " i'm staying up at your head " lol
but i think it's very important for the dad to be in there and to be a part of it even if he don't want to see the baby come out.
By the time your able to have sex i'm sure they will 4get all about seeing the baby at least for the moment!!!!lol lol
hope i could help with your answer!!! he should be a part of it for you and the baby!!b good luck!
2007-09-11 13:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋