Baby or abortion?

Question

Hello,
I'm 31 and I have a planned pregnancy (10 weeks) but my husband decided to turn his back on us an gone for almost two weeks now. He is constantly on drugs, I can't even talk to him. I went to the clinic for abortion but I couldn't go through with it. I had a nervous breakdown, spent a night on ER. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I'm ready to raise this child alone, I can't even afford it. My family is in Europe, and there is no real support here for me. I'm scared. I need to make up my mind in the next few days. My dr. prescribed Prozac for me to stop crying. Please, let me know your thoughts.

Answer 1

That baby inside of you LOVES you and always will. You will always have 1 person on this earth that will love you unconditionally.
Just because your husband is backing out - please don't kill that innocient child.
Did you know there is a video on the internet of a baby being aborted? It is screaming and crying, BEGGING for it's life .. and the doctor just rips its legs off!!! How could you possibly do that to your own child? A child that is depending on YOU for its life.
Yes, YOU! not your husband, YOU! If you think you are depressed now, you will be way more depressed if you kill your child. You will never be able to forgive yourself.
Please keep that baby. There are programs to help you! You can get government assistance and they will help you with ALL your medical bills and give you money to live on.
Believe me, when you feel that baby kick inside of you .. nothing else matters! It is the BEST feeling in the world.
And once you have that baby .. you are going to feel a love you have never felt ..

Answer 2

I find it unlikely a doctor prescribed a pregnant women Prozac.
Based on that I am not sure your question is real.

But just in case ...... I think you really need to speak to a counselor. No one else can tell you what to do here. But I would definitely go through with the pregnancy. If you get to the end and know you really can't take care of the baby alone, there would be a million families very happy to love and car for your baby.
I know the situation isn't good, but that baby came to you for a reason. I think even though your partner is a d1ck, you are still supposed to have this baby.

Answer 3

You can always give the baby up for adoption too. If your family is in Europe, can you go there and be with them for support?
Calm down, it is not healthy for you to stress out too much, pregnant or not.
You have options. You can get through this and you can get help from the government, if you need to.
I don't want you to make a decision like abortion with out thinking about. I know that I personally would never get over it. I am pro-choice, but have seen women really hurting after making that decision and want you to be sure.

I am going to be a single Mom, but know I can do it, so can you, if you want to.
good luck!

Answer 4

well if you cant handle another child right now, then maybe you should go threw the abortion for sake youre life and if you already had another children with youre husand then you should take care of yourw family first and even takecare of yourself . if youre husand thats on drugs all the time not beingin home with the famliy then he isnt good father and even good husand to be with first place. its not easy to takecare of a baby by yourself if you dont have the money to take care one . might cause you alot of money to support a child yourself. but there is another way you can get help if your are going keep the baby by getiing a child support from the government serivce where they do do those kinds jobs helping and senting money to the singles parents and family who doesnt have the money to takcare of their kids and dont have a real job. i have friend who is a single mom with two youngers sons and she doesnt even have a job because her disiblites skills and her ex boyfriend lefted her for another chick who didnt have no kids . so it better you call the people who does work for childsupports company so that they can help you out if you do wanna gave the child a better life and future.you should talk to youre parents for some needed . you dont need a drugger alike youre husand who doesnt even come home. if you dont want be a mother to the child there is another way you can one give the newborn for adoption where another parents out there cant have any children of their own can adopted a children from some singles mom's that cant afford taking care of the child alone. or go threw alot of pains having abortion done. thats will cost you extras money to have sugery .

Answer 5

Hello!! I'm 31 also. Why don't you think about adoption for your baby at least you would give it life instead of no life.. I would adopt your baby...I'm sorry to hear about your problems with your husband that is so sad... I think that you made a good decision by not following through with the abortion... There are tons of people out there in this world that would help you out and tell you about adoption. I'm one of them so if you would like to email me privately just click on my profile and I allow people to email me and I could get you in contact with an agency for your baby.... I hope that everything will be alright...Take care of yourself...

Answer 6

have the baby u will not regret it if u do
yea being a single mum is hard altho am not a single mum but my partner is barely with me much with his work so am dealing with a new born baby and this is my first also and am aged 19 so if i can do u can also just when ur baby is born u go thro anything and everything u can get ur hands on to help u with support plus if u gert a good midwife and health vistor then they will help u out as much as possible plus there a certain clubs u can attend to talk with other moms so that might ease u slighly also
but my opinion i wouldnt abort ur baby cause u will regret it for ur rest of ur life

Answer 7

Dear Friend, I am so sorry, you are in a tough position. However, you must know that your baby is dependent on you. You can decide to keep your baby, or, you may adopt your baby to another couple. I am adopted and so happy to be alive! Women regret abortion and it is not the answer. You can get support and information by googling optionline on the net, or call 1800afamily. Please take care of your baby. Sincerely, Runner

Answer 8

Well... It really needs to be up to you. Yes your husband did leave you, but you were planning on having this baby. So just because he up and leaves shouldnt change ur mind. But, if it would be too difficult for you i would suggest adoption. I am not against abortion, but in ur case it seems like it would hurt you too much. But it is still up to u. Now u are going to get idiots on here that will preach to you about abortions. They dont know what they are talking about. Dont let them fool u and change ur mind. I wish you the best of luck in whatever decision you make, and please feel free to email me if u would like to talk!! good luck!! <3

Answer 9

One thing to remember about deciding to become a parent - you DECIDED to become a parent. You made this baby and now you need to be a parent and do what is best (which is not killing him/her).

Would you even be asking this question if your baby was born two days after your husband left? I surely hope not. Your husband is now irrelevant and your obligation is to that baby.

Take first responder up on offer to adopt if you can't handle the parenting portion.

Answer 10

get over your dead beat husband, keep your beautiful little miracle inside you and move back to Europe, where your family is and where you can get A LOT more support as a single mom, than here in the US.
This baby is your flesh and blood and from the sound of it, you could really use someone in your life who loves you unconditionally and who you can love unconditionally back...don't do something you will regret!!!! remember, the older we get, the smaller our egg count gets!! if you still feel like you can;t keep this baby, then please look into adoption-it's the most selfless thing you could do other than keeping this child as your own.