When I first met him I knew he was married because he told me but that didn't keep us from having sex. We went our own ways he is back at home with his wife and kid and I am here back to home too...but only this time I am pregnant and I don't know how to tell him. I am afraid of rejection. How do I handle this personal matter?
2007-09-11 12:53:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Now see that's a hard one. No one on here will be able to tell you what to do you will have to do this on your own. Here are some suggestions though. Being that he is married, if you tell him it could ruin his marriage and of course b.c he is married he will probably reject this child b.c he does not want this to ruin his marriage. So...if you want him to pay for the baby (b/c as hard as it might sound I don't think he will accept the child and want anything to do with it. I'm sorry) you will have to probably get a court ordered child support. See messing with a man is hard enough getting pregnant by one is even harder. I hope everything works out for you and good luck with the baby. Just remember a child is a blessing no matter how it was brought in to the world and you don't need a man to raise your child.
2007-09-19 03:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by ~GiRLiE~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be upfront and tell him because he has a right to know that he fathered a child and you have a right to ask for support of that child. You can expect that he probably will not be happy since this will cause him all sorts of problems with his wife. However, you are not the only one at fault. He had an active part in the conception too. The ultimate decision is yours if you want to carry this child to term but remember that you will probably be the sole support and caregiver for it. Next time remember that unprotected sex can have other serious consequences other than just a pregnancy.
2007-09-19 08:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Diane M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you made yourself quite a bed there. You knew he was married, had unprotected sex, and now you are at a loss as to what to do? I don't mean to come down on you, I mean I know that it takes 2, but you really should have thought about the consequences to your actions before getting yourself into this mess. Like you said, it's a personal matter, but now you are involving an innocent woman and her child (the mans wife and kid). You need to be sensitive to their feelings and talk to the guy in private, then you will have a better idea of where to go from there once you know how he feels about it.
2007-09-11 13:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by izzymo 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off congratulations on your pregnancy!
I have never been in this situation before, but I believe that the best way is to tell him as soon as possible. If he lives far away, I suggest calling him. If he lives close by, then try to meet him up. Tell him that you enjoyed your time together and that has left both of you with a life changing person. If he is clueless to this, then be straight out blunt to him and tell him your pregnant and that he was the only person that you've been with during the possible conception. I was in a situation that my ex rejected the fact that I was pregnant with his kid and flat out told me I had cheated on him (even though I hadn't and he was the cheater). That hurt a lot, but then that told me it was really up to me on whether or not if I was going to have the kid and what I was going to do in the case if I did keep the child.
You just need to prepare yourself emotionally and mentally for anything that he could possibly say. Remember, you have to think about what is best for you and your child (if you do decide on keeping it).
Best of luck to you!
2007-09-11 13:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica K 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Call him up, tell him, and ask for half or all the money to have the procedure done. You're life and that child's life will be horrible getting pregnant for a married man. Don't expect him to be around.
2007-09-18 06:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by NIA7G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him know because he has the right to know
he is the father
don't be afraid of rejection
and if that happend tell his wife and take them to court
you shouldn't be sleeping with the married man in the first place.
2007-09-18 09:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my idea....call him at whatever contact you have...make sure he is alone....then tell him the news...it is a little to late to worry about rejection unless you are considering abortion. Cheating is not good but now you have a baby to think about, more so then yourselves. Go from there, cry at night and find your solution in your dreams. I wish you the most of luck and little heartache.
2007-09-19 12:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way your going to be able to get child support, if you want it that is, is to prove that he is the babies father. Find a way to get a hold of him and let him know that your pregnant w/ his child and if he wants a pregnancy test you'll give him one. The courts will even give him one whenever you go for child support.
2007-09-11 12:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Wendie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know how he will react call him and let him know if he does reject you it will be hard, but you will have to deal with it. I know I dealed with my baby dad rejecting my baby and yes it does hurt and yes you can get over it. I wish you the best good luck.
2007-09-19 03:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mariana M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that he was stupid not to use protection. If he wants to play he has to pay.Thats all there is to it. Tell him about the baby but don't get an abortion. Murder is never the answer.Take good care of yourself sweetheart and confide in a friend or yor mom.
2007-09-18 09:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋