Isn't this why God put us on earth....to reproduce. Is it a "feeling" that we women are supposed to get at some point in our lives that we want to be pregnant and have babies? So is it abnormal to never have the urge to have/want children? Should we get an "urge" to be a mom?
2007-09-11 12:06:38 · 9 answers · asked by Mary Posa 5 in Health ➔ Women's Health
The need to have children is only normal if you are a “Cavewoman”. Some women have evolved. One in five women in the USA alone have decided that having children is not something they want. The numbers are higher in Europe.
The term is “Childfree”. It does not mean you are weird or gay. My girlfriend and I both got “fixed” in our 20’s, long before we ever met. We belong to a club of couples that have done the same. No we are not “swingers”.
I don’t know anyone whom regrets not having children, but I know plenty that regret having them. It will always be better to regret not having them, than to regret having them.
Be ready to get “beat up” by society for not having children.
2007-09-12 01:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Marvin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a women not wanting children. My close friend is has been married for 4 years and has no desire to ever have children.
If you think the sole purpose of women is to reproduce, you have a lot of living left to do. Children are wonderful but there is a lot more to life as a women.
2007-09-11 12:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by BAnne 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is wrong. Personally, I'm one of those that had that feeling at a young age, and have a beautiful daughter. However, I have a number of friends who do not want to have children for a variety of reasons. I don't believe that is the only reason we are here on earth, there a lot of reasons we could be here. I wouldn't stress over it, I don't think what you are feeling is wrong or bad.
2007-09-11 12:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people jsut don't want kids. I don't see a problem with that. others decide not to have kids because they say that they'll never be responsible enough or they know that they're bad parents. I actually praise the second group of people.
I always said I never wanted kids up until my niece was born. But I have nothing against people not wanting kids. They want to live a life and they feel that kids will either get in the way or they'll suffer.
2007-09-11 12:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by christigmc 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't want kids and being newly married, that's all that people ask you, "So when will you be starting a family? Any day now right?" When I tell them that my husband and I don't plan on starting a family, they do look at me weird. But, i think it depends on who you are talking to.
I have friends my age in their 20's who are baby crazy and think that having a child is the be all, end all. I personally want to have a life :)
Don't beat yourself up too much. Not everyone has or needs the Mommy gene. And your feelings might change too so I wouldn't worry.
2007-09-11 12:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I certainly hope it's not weird. I personally have no interest in having children and have never heard the slightest sign of a biological clock making any noise.
The real answer - there is no mandate. Everyone is different. Is it abnormal to want to smoke or not? Is it abnormal to want to travel or not? Think about it...
2007-09-11 12:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Not everyone is meant to be a parent. It's better for a woman who doesn't want kids not to have them than to have them because she thinks she "should." So no, you should not worry if you don't have the "urge" to be a mom.
2007-09-11 14:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is a chose to be a mom or not be a mom. If you don't want to that is OK! It is your life, live it the way you want too. I have two sisters that didn't want to have kids and they didn't and they are fine with it. I know friends that decided not to have kids and they are doing great with there decision.
2007-09-11 15:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where have you been hiding? I am a single man that feels the same way!
2007-09-12 08:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by Professional Geek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋