Would you date someone who is poor? Would you be willing to support someone who has no job?
Do you put money away into savings and stay on top of your finances while he spends everything he has and doesnt have a thing to show for it?
2007-09-11 11:03:48 · 8 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finances play a major part on keeping our roof over our heads, putting food in the pantry and getting the kids to their sports etc. However we are fortunate enough to be self sufficient with vege gardens, our own herbs and beef etc.
We are not rich nor are we poor, we both work, we own our home and we are saving for a farm. I would say that we do very well but it took blood, sweat and many tears to get to where we are today.
2007-09-11 11:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think finances are a big part of a r'ship and there is a HUGE need to communicate about such issues before anything becomes a problem. Unfortunately, money IS needed to live and while money does NOT buy you happiness, it does buy you CHOICES. When you live a life with no choices, you ineveitably get stressed out and have no time or energy for the your partner. Money can cause huge strains on a r'ship and to not recognize that is immature.
2007-09-11 11:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite honestly, it sounds like a recipe for disaster. If you are seriously thinking about marrying this guy it would be wise to get some premarital counseling that includes managing your finances and even then I would want to make sure he is committed to changing his spending habits before I said "I do". If you are thinking of moving in together..don't. Money is one of the biggest reasons marriages fail so you both need to be on the same page on this one. It's a RED flag and I would be inclined to git while the gitten's good.
2007-09-11 11:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would never date someone who could not provide me with the type of life-style that I want out of life. That would be like saying, "would you date someone who won't make you happy" Being happy is #1 and finances are a part of the whole package. If you're with someone who's blowing your hard earned cash, you need to set higher goals for your life.
2007-09-11 12:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not be in a serious relationship with someone who was not able to provide for himself. My husband makes good money, is very good at managing the finances, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
At my age (30+), the days of living from paycheck to paycheck should be over, for good. We're not in college anymore.
2007-09-11 11:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married now, when I met my husband he had a really good career going for himself. Money isn't an issue for us, so we never argue about it. I don't work, I stay home with our daughter but we have savings and luckily money to buy usually what we want. His money is my money. I wouldn't date somebody that was dirt poor, he would have to have a job. I wouldn't support a grown man that can go out and work.
2007-09-11 11:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider us lucky, financially. I have a good job and my wife wrote a book and made a lot of money from it. But we're both pretty smart money-wise. We save, and neither one of us are big spenders.
2007-09-11 11:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy! If he's doing that to you I'd kick him out, plain and simple! Jimmy.
2007-09-11 11:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jimmy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋