aspecialy at work because its like this know one knows any thing so they ca,t tell you any thing its driving me mad why can people not be open and truthful want can ido
2007-09-11 10:52:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Everyone is capable of getting nervous when in a socially awkward situation. And many people worry about giving formal presentations. Some people, however, suffer more than the occasional jitters. People who are socially anxious are excessively fearful that others will criticize their public behavior. They worry that they will appear inarticulate or stupid, or show embarrassing signs that they are anxious or weak. It is this feared disapproval from others that causes their distress.
The socially anxious person seeks ways to avoid this risk whenever possible, feels significant anxiety long before the event, and continues experiencing anxiety and worry throughout the performance. After the event, he analyzes his every move and negatively interprets the response of others, even though the "performance" might have been the simple act of eating a sandwich at a fast food restaurant.
You inoculate yourself by taking in some of the causative agent in order to experiment with it or to become immune to it. Therefore, inoculations are paradoxical treatments: they take you close to what you want to avoid. That's how you can use this section. Stop doing the activities that seem instinctual in the face of panic. Instead, go directly toward panic, drop your guard and let it touch you. Clearly you will be "experimenting" when you apply these inoculating attitudes. I predict that you also will become immune, which means "not affected by or responsive to" panic.
2007-09-11 13:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell us a bit more - i think I am in the same boat as you.
The people at my work (part time) have a full life and can chat about it, and I am very isolated with no friends or girlfriend and don't have a life because I have no money, so I have nothing to talk about to them and I feel an oddball. I was ok when I was with my girlfriend 4 years ago, I was good at speaking but being isolated so long has effected my ability to talk - i get my thoughts down well in writing. On here I can be myself, and say anything but at work I feel strangled by my lack of ability to chat.
Is this something like what you are going through?
2007-09-11 11:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your spelling and grammar make it difficult to know what the real question is here,but I think that HOT COCO PUFF has pretty much said it all. You can not change other peoples habits. The only person that you CAN change is YOU! Try BEING the type of person that you WISH everyone else already was. This way,if you succeed then the world will contain at least ONE person that is "open" and "truthful"and able to "tell you any thing". If you FAIL ,then the world will only remain as it has been without and furthur damage having been done by you. Do you know the story of Ken Kesey and his buss named FURTHUR? Start where you are,use what you have,do what YOU can.
2007-09-15 09:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by wayne_burdeshaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read some litterature about panic attacks. But they allways seem to have a more scientific approach and that is nothing I need in my struggle to survive those horrible panic attacks. This is a "hand on" and very practical book. I felt it was written to me. I am sure that you are going to feel the same.
Joe Barry writes exactly how I think. The examples are perfectly described. And the method is genius. I recommend this book and thanks Joe Barry for writing it. It changes your life
2016-05-17 21:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 09:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by stanberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change jobs as soon as possible
2007-09-11 11:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by stallion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just gotta aproach them and ask just be friendly and most will be friendly back to you if they arent they aint worth knowing then are they?
2007-09-11 11:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by carla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat... i dont know what to tell you.
2007-09-12 03:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you have'nt started drinking yet?.........
No,I'm serious.
2007-09-11 11:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by unmovingasp 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋