well i come from a family where none of them got a divorce in their life time and it kinda make me nervous because i have trust issues.now at present i live with a girl and she asked me to marry her and i also love her very much and we have been together for only six months.if we get married now incase if she cheats on me in future i will definitely get a divorce but my question is,is there any possibility that i will loose half of my assets eventhough she cheated on me after the divorce ,well i know how courts side with women if there is a child involved ,what will happen if we dont have a child at all.i really need an opinion on this issue .coz i earn 5 times more than her and i also have some assets from my family inheritence too whereas she dont have anything like that coz she is an orphan.
2007-09-11 10:37:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not trust her...yet .
You are not ready for marriage.
I suggest a long engagement.
2007-09-11 10:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aw sweetie you are putting yourself through so much for this girl! Speaking as a 27 year old woman I can tell you what I think about cheating, having been cheated on too many times. If you enter into a relationship with someone that you love and agree to be exclusive- cheating just shouldn't even be an option. I used to have trust issues after being cheated on so many times, but I finally got it. If you are in a relationship with someone and either you or they are capable of cheating, you're just not meant to be together. When I finally got that, I was able to trust more and open up more and now I'm engaged to an incredible man whom I trust with my life, and he feels the same. Relationships are based on trust and respect, and once that it betrayed it's almost impossible to regain that full trust back- you end up seeing each other in a different light. Unless you can completely forgive her and forget about the past and move forward together, it's not worth tearing yourself up over. If you are meant to be together, cheating shouldn't even be an option- ever! It may hurt to move on from her but there are women out there that won't do this to you- and maybe that's worth considering.
2016-05-17 08:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by melba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going about this in the wrong way my friend.
First of all, you don't plan your divorce activities before you get married. Being aware is a good thing, but the best thing is to NOT get married until you are good and ready to do so. For one thing, in my opinion 6 months is way too fast to get married.
You don't want to wait forever, but wait at *least* a year before you do this. If you have a feeling this woman is a conniving or underhanded sort, then you need to nicely and gently and lovingly excuse yourself from it and move on to someone with whom you CAN feel good about, but if you're talking like this about this women now....and you're not married...something is horribly and dreadfully wrong!
The time to get your finances in order is long before you think about getting married. So you know what your options are. As it is, it is just clouding your mind and heart and for all I know, interjecting unnecessary issues into this relationship.
You have to deal with this in some way that will not harm yourself or this lady. She may be an innocent party to all this stuff.
get your ducks in a row already and then carry on with your life. All the best to you (both).
2007-09-11 10:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are already thinking about "when she cheats" you should not be thinking about getting married. If you have trust issues and don't completely trust your girlfriend, you need to wait until you do to propose to her. This should be the least of your concerns when considering marriage.
In either case, if you do go through with it, get a prenup.
2007-09-11 10:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Yogi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her a lot, wait for 1 year of dating before setting a wedding date, by then you'll know if she is the one for you and if she isn't just looking for someone to take care of her money needs......good luck
2007-09-11 10:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lee B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woulda, coulda, shoulda; none of us know the future. What if you cheat or turn into a control freak or scuzzball? So what if she is an orphan, ask her what she see's in you?
2007-09-11 10:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've got one word for you...PRENUP! Protect what is already yours and share with her what you guys make and accumulate together. Prenups are not about trust or the lack thereof. They are simply to protect you from loosing what was yours to begin with.
2007-09-11 10:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Autumns Mom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont only six mths ..NO WAY .. you will loose ALL your assets ...if no kids are involved you wont loose the inherited part of assets but if kids are involved u will loose all iincluding the inderited part
2007-09-11 10:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Corrine 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's called a pre-nup!!!!
Good Luck!
2007-09-11 12:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Springtime of my Loving 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pre nup
2007-09-11 11:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋