It has been 3 weeks since a close relative has passed away, and I feel guilty for not thinking of this person as much as I used to. I love this person very much and life will be very different with her gone, but why do I only think of her every once and a while. Is it part of the healing process or is it a cruel human trait to forget someone so soon?
I am not looking for sympathy, just reasoning.
2007-09-11 10:00:21 · 10 answers · asked by kub2 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My best friend died when I was in high school. I think about him whenever I experience something alone in life that makes me happy - not necessarily my new family, though. You've been 3 weeks without this person - a relatively small time considering the closeness - but guilt isn't something someone who cares for you would wish you to have about them.
Keep in mind that this bothered you enough to write about - so you have already shown you haven't forgotten, just prioritized. You will have all eternity to care about the dead.
2007-09-11 14:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never forget this person, she will always be a part of your life, you cannot keep thinking of her, or you will not be able to get past it. As the saying goes: you must carry on, some people cannot and some can, which is a good sign, that life in some way is getting back to normal. This is a very normal part of the grieving cycle. and all of a sudden something will happen, and for that moment she will come into your mind/ . I feel it is also a sign that her soul is a peace, and she no longer needs to be here. But when you need her, don't be surprise if you get a sign.
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2016-10-04 09:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you didn't forget her and you'll never do. This is a process that can be longer or not, but is a process of accepting that death is not the end. I can assure you she'll be in your life from now on, much more than before. We don't forget the ones we love after their death, but we learn to live with them in some other level. This process can take time but it happens. All the good things she brought to you will be highlighted and she'll be still helping you to live your own life. Don't blame yourself and after some time you'll understand what I mean. Now she don't want your tears but your love and respect, and as I understood this is what you're feeling about her.
God helps you and bless her.
2007-09-11 10:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not a bad thing. it's actually a good thing because your not dwelling on it. i'm sure that your relative would want you to move on with your life. it does get easier with time. the healing process various from person to person. it sounds like you have come to terms with their death. don't feel guilty. take care.
2007-09-11 10:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not forgetting about that person. You've come to the point where you have accepted that person is gone and you are now going on with your life.
2007-09-11 10:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by RoVale 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mate...
in life you loose people you love.. pain is pain.. but pain heals..
i promise you.. and i mean promise you time heals the pain.. you will never forget someone who you love.. but in the long term you will remember all the joy that that person gave to your life.. you will cry in the future for them.. if you didnt then you did not love them..you will.... you will heal in time but a loss so soon is to hard... please give time a chance to help you... this is life and it can be so hard at times..i like most have lost loved ones.. it is never easy... i prey this helps you
xxx
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2007-09-11 12:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by glen w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are totally normal and dont feel bad for having less thoughts than those you think do.
we are human and we are bombarded with so much everyday you can only think of certain things so much.
you are lucky not to dwell on that, really, and i hope im not sounding callus, but move on and when you do think of that person, thats ok, and wen you dont thats ok too.
good luck!
2007-09-11 10:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
normal
its part of the healing process
thankfully
2007-09-11 10:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your are lucky that you forget bad things easily...be proud of that...
2007-09-11 10:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by JRK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋