on myspace an older lady said i was cute. i replied "thanks". she talked about her kids and how she is single. she asked for my #, i gave it to her, she wanted to meet me (this whole time i am thinking,there is noway im going to cheat on my wife, i love her!its all just a game i dont know what i was thinking) i said ok. she said ill meet you here, obviously since i love my wife i never showed up or never replied back nothing! i have no idea if she did or didnt go to a gas station. i never went at all i didnt even know her name! on the weekend i got like 5 texts " where are you?" "why are you doing this to me" "are you there?" i text her back "we are no couple, why she was blowing up my phone texts".my wife saw the text, i feel like i cheated and she does too!! i feel so bad that i did this. how do i get her trust back? i love her. i would never cheat on her!help me. she forgave me! but i feel weird. wil things get better? i have never cheated! im new to this. i want us to be happy
2007-09-11 09:56:26 · 10 answers · asked by ct_runs_it 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Man this is a tough one. You need to be totally open and honest with her and tell her that you are an idiot. It will take a long time for your wife to trust you again, but she will. I will tell you this - do not lie to her about anything... no matter how small it is, tell the truth. It is the only way she will ever trust you again. Also, you spent many years of your life without My Space... you can live without it. Delete your account. Make sure your wife knows the password to your email. Be OPEN and honest. It's the only way.
2007-09-11 10:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Bear~~~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you never cheated and I think that's what saved you... But you need to work on your loyalty and knowing your limits. A person could say "I will never hurt you or cheat on you," but they could not guarantee it... Therefore, the best thing you could do is not put yourself in a situation where you could be tempted and lose control... This is what you did.
You knew in your mind and in your heart that you wouldn’t do anything wrong, but for some reason you became naive to think that you could just meet up with a strange woman, and nothing will happen.... And expect your wife to not find out.......
She forgave you, and that's what really matters. Now all you have to do is gain her trust again by having better communication with your wife and being closer to your family.... Share all the wonderful moments that your baby could bring you and appreciate your family because you never know what may happen tomorrow or the next day...
I don’t think your wife and child are worth losing over a "nut" (pardon my bluntness) But that’s the way it is......
It’s a good thing you never met up with that other woman, because it saved your family and it also saved you from a psycho. (That’s what she sounds like in her text messages) Just let her know that you were not serious about meeting her and are not planning to. If she text back, then ignore her and she should go away.
2007-09-11 10:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by mariluv505 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a hard thing to get back. The only way to get it back is Scripturally. Scripture says when you have a grievance or your brother (friend, wife, etc) has a grievance then you go and settle the grievance and then come back and worship me (me being God.) When you are the one that does the wrong, the only way to settle that is for you to make amends. Amends are NOT what you WANT to see happen, but what the person you have wronged NEEDDS to see take place. True sorrow is fixing something up the way the person you have wronged needs it to be fixed up. Therefore, you have to go to your wife and find out just what she needs from you that will make it all better or make it so that the both of you can go on and work it out together. WHATEVER IT IS and FOR HOWEVER LONG IT TAKES, you have to do it. That is what genuine love really is. Jesus did what he had to do to save you and that was to give his life to save your soul from hell. Now it is your turn. First you ask his forgiveness, then you ask your wife's forgiveness and then you do the repentance part which will bring the change in the ability to trust and the growth into your marriage. If you are not willing to do whatever it takes, then you really do not love your wife and this could happen again. But more than that, she would always believe that it could happen again. It may be hard and really tough to do but if you really love her, you will do it, whatever she wants for you to do to prove you really want it to work between the both of you. That is unconditional love. That is the love that makes a marriage strong and makes it stand the tests and the trials. I know. My marriage is 35 years strong now because love has prevailed. Read 1 Corinthians, chapter 13 all the way through. It is known as the 'love' chapter of the Bible. May God bless your marriage. Be sure to pray for it daily. Prayer changes things by starting with our own hearts.
2007-09-11 10:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your wife this question that you've written. Tell her that you are deeply and sincerely sorry that you screwed up. Tell her that you want to do everything possible to regain her trust for as long as it takes. Then close down the my space, and stay off of the computer. Instead of net chatting, spend that time chatting with your wife and baby. If you must be on the computer, tell your wife that you are willing for her to monitor your use as well as your phone use. May take a while, but you can rebuild the trust. You hurt her bad, Dude, but you can fix it. I wish you and your family much future happiness.
2007-09-11 10:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very normal to be curious, to flirt etc..., It is human nature. You're married not dead. However, to actually give someone your # knowing there was a chance of getting caught, is very odd. Sometimes especially after having a baby, the marriage changes and we feel insecure. It could be possible you were just needing some attention. You've got to look at your behavior and figure out why you did it.
The key to any relationship is communication. You and your wife really need to work on communication and meeting each others needs right now.
2007-09-11 10:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
particular, it incredibly is in straightforward terms a element. Your spouse is probably doing many of the self-discipline, feeding, etc. all the mundane initiatives, collectively as you play and smile, and incredibly mirror the keenness that your daughter feels for you. And it incredibly is actual, Daddy's little lady vs. Mommy's little boy. i at the instant all got to work after staying at homestead with my son. He was once the comparable way with me, linked. He might cry if his dad tried to do issues for him. Now, he ought to care much less approximately me!! (he's now 18 months--i all got to work perfect around the 14 month era) they only get so self sufficient whilst they initiate strolling. He nevertheless has his moments the place he comes and snuggles with me or his dad....yet it incredibly is in simple terms the way it incredibly is with young little ones!! they don't stay small and based continuously. i be attentive to how your spouse feels. yet there'll come an afternoon the place her little lady is going to need her suggestion and is going to look as much as her. those are circumstances once you maximum probable won't be attentive to what to do (women!!), yet your spouse would be attentive to perfect away. And your daughter will study speedy that she needs mom. they'll advance a bond, yet whilst the youngsters are this youthful it is so impulsive, and you need to be the only that provides her the main reward with smiles and exhilaration!! And your daughter won't in any respect lose her particular spot for you, there are a number of psychological clarification why women crave a father's love and attractiveness. Be there for her and she or he would be waiting to be a helpful and in a position lady whilst she grows up!!
2016-10-10 09:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by robie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very lucky that your wife forgave you in the first place.
All you need to do now is tell your wife that you will be loyal to her for the rest of your life and keep your promise! Don't even play a game like that again! She will continue loving you, no matter what. I can already tell that! But it will take a while for her to trust you again. Don't risk your relationship and your happy life with your wife and daughter.
2007-09-11 10:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by OrigamiGirl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you explain this to her? Did you show that you love her. Plus no offense but grown men shouldn't have myspaces and then again either should old women. Anywho just try to stay with her and show her the messages and show her this older woman profile and explain your madly in love with her and in no way would you cheat on her!
2007-09-11 10:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Chels 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
then why were you curious and engaging in a conversation with her? use the head on your shoulders to think from now on. the one between your legs almost got you in big trouble. start thinking of the consequences of your actions before you act.
2007-09-11 10:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then throw out that tex phone and if you need to talk to your wife, use a real phone.
2007-09-11 10:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋