Please, women 30 yrs. +...some advice...??

Question

O.K. I"m 43..I recently moved back to my 'old' neighborhood..and one of my 'old' aquaintences (29) has contacted me...well, we have 'hooked-up' these last two days just like the 'old' days.
Anyway, this 'time around' I am begining to think she wants more than sex. Little hints like, 'no one has made her as happy as I did all these years' and calling me witin an hour of leaving my place, both days. She currently lives with another man and has mentioned how much she wants out of that situation.
She initiated our new relationship on monday. She called and we talked awhile. Then she said she wanted to come over and **** me. Sounded good to me at the time...I just didnt know she changed after all this time and wants more than I'm ready to give her.
Please dont judge either of us...I just need some advice on how to handle this carefully without hurting her feelings (we are still really good friends).
As shallow as I sound: 'I'm just in it for the sex'.

Answer 1

Then tell her you aren't looking for any type of commitment with her. Be completely honest with her and she shouldn't be hurt, if she's an adult about it. Good luck.

Answer 2

Then you need to be honest with her... kind of.
Tell her you care about her and want her to be happy, but you are not looking for any type of serious relationship.
And now that it is obvious that you're in it for just the sex but she is in it for something more, the best thing to do would be to end the "romance"
Realize she'll probably continue to call to see if she can seduce you back into bed, hoping eventually it will turn into something more.
If you care about her at all, DON'T sleep with her. It will only hurt her more in the long run

Answer 3

Well, I don't know... She might not really be into YOU either, she may just be looking for a stepping stone to get her our of her current situation. But in either case, I wouldn't get too involved if I were you. Keep up with the sex if you want, but be clear that you're not interested in anything more. Don't call her often, don't return her calls every time, don't seem too desperate.

Answer 4

Well, for a start, you needed to keep it out of the sack till you both knew what you wanted, whether it be just friendship or you wanted to be just friends with side benefits.
Now, you've both created this situation, your flat out going to have to talk to each other, about what you want or don't want.
If your just out to get some, then get it by all means, however, be open with the woman, and let her know, that is it, and if she initiated the sex to begin with, now wanting more...... sounds like she is using you to get out of a bad situation. But Talk to each other........

good luck
Susan

Answer 5

I think that she's looking for a way out of her current situation and she sees you as the ticket out of there.

I think that you should tell her that you've enjoyed seeing her; that you want to continue to be friend, but you are not interested in anything any more. Otherwise, it will get way out of hand and you'll end up letting her move in because you feel so bad about things

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Just tell her. do it before it gets really weird... If a woman calls you up and says come over and **** me then she should expect the other person to assume she just wants that. I'm not judging please do not misunderstand that.. but it sounds to me that she might be in a relationship she doesn't want to be in and when you came around it brought back old feelings and that idea of "what if we were really meant to be"...

Answer 8

Since she is so honest about telling you she's coming over just to F you....
you can be honest and tell her you like to F her...
but you're not looking to be in an exclusive relationship.
Tell her if she can't accept that, then maybe she should not call with her F invitations!

Answer 9

Then tell her you hope she misses you as friend and not as a piece of meat or as her next husband. Speak up, let her know where you stand on this.

Answer 10

be honest and tell her that... just for sex buddies,no emotions,no attachments...... yea that sounds good.....