I used to be friends with this girl, since about 4th grade. Well, first of all, this girl is what you'd call "weird"...I hate being mean, but she's the kind of girl no one likes. She's...not very pretty, not smart, and a bit disgusting. She's very immature, even now. Before, she used to keep touching me and dancing around me. That was really embarrassing.
I have no desire at all to be her friend. We're in 8th grade now, and it's getting ridiculous. I get embarrassed when she's around. It's almost like she has the mind of a 2nd grader sometimes. She rambles on and on about her CATS and makes terrible jokes that are just stupid...She doesn't get it. She still thinks we're best friends. I try giving her hints, and she seems to have gotten them partially. She doesn't hang around me as much, but she latches onto my group of friends though they don't want her around at all! I really want to let her know, I DON'T want to be her friend. (And this sounded mean...sorry bout that...) Please help!
2007-09-11 09:52:10 · 11 answers · asked by starfire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, I'm sorry. Actually, I'm not one who really talks BAD about her. Some people do though, none of my actual friends tho. I didn't want to leave the wrong message guys, so sorry..And umm Hannah? We're online, and could live anywhere around the world so it's likely she's not the same person. :)
2007-09-11 15:40:35 · update #1
be nice your being rude... don't make fun of people, i made that mistake and that person ended up commiting suicide.....
tell her in a soft way, but i sure hope you and your friends aren't talking shittt behind her bck... thats obnoxious and IMMATURE....just be nice and don't hang out with her... say you have to do something else.
2007-09-11 10:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by soccerlovesit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up yourself a little & just have a PRIVATE girl to girl talk. Tell her that you understand that things are very different now than in 4th grade & that she is probably a little nervous in the higher grade but that she needs to calm down. Gently let her know that you are both older now & the dancing around & touching isn't socially acceptable anymore. Also that cats are great but keep the discussions on them short & sweet. If the jokes are really bad & you were ever a friend Tell Her that they aren't that funny. She sounds like she isn't maturing as fast as you are so she probably doesn't realize how bad it all is. But be NICE when you do this. Then let her know that you both need to broaden your horizons & make more new friends.
2007-09-19 04:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by 2020 A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember I had a chum like this... i presumed he grew to become into embarrassing too... now he's an animator for Disney studios. My brother maintains to be in touch with him, and that they replace humorous emails. I want i might stayed extra perfect pals with him now, considering that he grew to become into in straightforward terms a wacky youngster with a goofy humorousness, and slightly slower maturing, yet incredibly a reliable guy or woman. everyone grows up at diverse expenses, and a few human beings have diverse senses of humor. by capacity of ways, it incredibly is humorous whilst somebody says "you have have been given a good stick" Sorry.
2016-10-10 09:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by robie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, talk about immature! You say you really don't talk BAD about this person? You've said nothing good! What makes you think that you are not as ugly, stupid or disgusting as your supposed friend. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I'd say you are the one who should grow up, maybe this person would be better off not thinking of you as a friend, you're not worth having as one!!
2007-09-19 06:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets say you were in her situation where no one liked you. I think that if you tell her that your her friend and there needs to be some changes in order to be "in the group" do her hair go shopping and tell her that making rude comments and jokes are not cool in your "group". sounds like it would be hard but i did that to one of my friends in middle school and i found out that she wasn't that bad. now were in high school and were best friends
2007-09-19 05:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by cold skiing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had a goth girl that had been friends with him since jr high, and she considered them a couple. Eventually he just had to break out and say, look, your look is wrong for me, the people I want to associate with won't be friends with me because I'm friends with you. So we need to cool it. I'm not interested in a relationship.
TX Mom
2007-09-19 04:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of seems like you are being influenced by your other friends, i mean im sure she has always acted this way before, you have known her for awhile now and all of a sudden this is bothering you??
2007-09-19 05:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by ashie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please give her time. she may be immature now. some do not mature as fast as others. but I am sure, you also acted the same as she is now, before you matured? please never cast out a friend, in that way. you said, you were best friends. surly you must still care for her?
she will come around, she just needs time. yes, it may be embarrassing. but isn't it worth the embarrassment to keep your friend. talk to her, try to explain to her how she is acting. in this way she may try and not act in such a way. but please never cast out a best friend. just because they have not matured yet.
2007-09-17 21:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel and dont talk bout her behind her back!!! bad mistake
2007-09-11 12:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by gabriellepops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hints don't work go up to here and tell her how you feel. that should work weel. good luck.
2007-09-11 10:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by christopher m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋