keep or abortionnn??

Question

So..I'm only 17 years old...and there's a SLIM chance that I COULD be pregnant. i'm a week and a half late for my period, but that really doesn't mean anything. If I don't start here within the next week, then I'm going to talk with my sister and have her buy me a pregnancy test..
Never in my life would I have thought that I would even consider getting an abortion...But I've been thinking really hard these last couple of days, and I know that I'm really not ready to be a teenage mother...I want to be able to finish high school, maybe even go to college...I still want to be able to go out and maybe even party with my friends, have a good time..If I were to keep this baby, I wouldn't have very much to support it. Just me, and my family, And MAYBE the babys dad (Who doesn't have a very steady job, blows all his money on either drugs or alcohol, and I'm not very sure if I'm going to want to spend the rest of my life with him in it) I think I sound selfish, because all the reasons are.....

all about me. But I would want my baby to be able to grow up the way I did, with both parents around, Both in love, and not fighting all the time. I would want my baby to have everything its little heart could deserve, and all the love and nurturing it would need...
I'm only 17, and i'm not ready to lose my body and my social life...
So am I in the wrong for thinking the way I do about this, or should I over-look all these problems, and just keep it and live my life from there on out???

For all of you telling me that abortion is wrong, I had thought the same before I was actually put into this position. You REALLY never know what you would do until you've been put into the position that I am in...
But NONE of you have ever said anything about the disadvantages of putting your baby up for adoption...Because sooner or later, they're going to find out they're adopted, and its going to change their life..Then they'll be wondering who their real parents are..

Don't judge me because i'm 17 and have had sex. I do practive safe sex, But as some people know, It isn't effective 100% of the time.

Answer 1

Whether or not you're 17, remember that a life is a life.

Answer 2

I I I its not about you any more its about another life! I am glad your parents were good parents and decided to keep you! I don't think you think your junk and bet your real glad they decided to let you live! Adoption is the better option and you would make a childless couple so happy! Only in America do we have the right to choose murder of our unborn! I wish you could have been with me when they could not find my babys heart beat and how we were so scared and then there it was we saw the baby at only 4 weeks along its little heart just beating away! There was not a dry eye in the house! That is the way it should be! Your right to choose is law! But it should begin with choosing contraception or waiting to play house after you have found your life partner! That is not what the law says but the moral law is always there and your parents will support you no matter what! Trust me that will be the most loved baby on the block if you do the right thing either way! Your choices are keeping it or adoption no other choice as a human being can be made.

Answer 3

Firstly, I want to congratulate you on having protected sex. I don't care if your 17 or older or younger, it is responsible that you made that decision and sometimes sh*t happens. I know first hand. I was on the pill and got pregnant. Also, do NOT feel that you are being selfish. I am 23, engaged to a wonderful man that I have been with for 2 years and am marrying next year. We are well off financially and have a nice home, dog, the whole 9 yards. Both of us wanted me to have an abortion. Neither of us like kids very much to be honest, but aside form that, like you, I didn't want to lose my body or my life. The way I see it, I was here first, the fetus hasn't experienced anything. Basically senority rules. I'm older, smarter and know my circumstances better than some ball of cells in my belly that have never seen the light of day. I had a medical abortion at 8 weeks and it was the best decision of my life. You're 17 and it sounds to me like a baby is not what you want right now. Even my married friends say that although they love their kids, if they had it to do over, knowing what they know now, they wosh they hadn't done it because their life changed so much and they can't do alot of things they used to love anymore. Especially if you aren't so keen on the father, remember, if you have the baby, he will be in your life for the rest of it. You have alot to think about it but don't let people scare you with their pro life rantings. You have a choice and you know what's best for you, not anyone else. If you have the baby I wish you the best of luck. If you have the abortion, don't stress too much over it, mine was super easy and didn't hurt much at all. It passes and you move on. I wasn't sorry at all.

Answer 4

For being 17 I'll commend you for the thought you have put into this, not just about being able to enjoy your youth, but also not being able to take care of the baby, going to school and the problems with the dad. its a very tuff decision to make but it is your decision and you should do what you feel best for both you and the baby. dont let people tell you abortion is wrong. nobody knows what they will do until they are faced with a situation like yours and it is an option that you are more than able to consider. If you are pregnant, i would sit down and talk to your family. Some parents can be very accepting and will help you raise the baby until you are old enough and stable enough to do so. you dont need the dad in the baby's life but it may still cause too many problems to want to deal with. You can also consider adoption but many families become too attached and then dont want to let go. either way, everyone makes mistakes, its just up to you to figure out how to deal with it. Just make sure you talk to your family so you have support. abortions can be very depressing...

Answer 5

You are not selfish, you are thinking realisticly. That is a good thing to do because a baby is a life changing event in your life. There is nothing wrong with weighing your options. You have to think about the kind of life you can provide a child. You can either adopt the baby to someone, but not everyone can live with that, and this may not be the answer for you. You will probubly get alot of negative feed back about abortion, but I am pro-choice, so long it is not in or after the second trimester. You have to do what is right for you,and not what others say, or will think. It is about you and your life, and the life youthink you could or could not provide. Go get the test asap, so you can make your decision. The sooner the better. Good luck hun, and remember, it is your choice, noone elses. Also, accidents happen no matter what we use for protection, however, you need to alway make sure you are on a bc, and still use a condom. unfortunitly, it is easy for people who have never been in the situation, to try and say what they would do, but this is your life and not theirs, you are the one in the situation, so you do what is going to work best for you. We learn from our mistakes, and someone always has an opinion, but they truely don't know your full situation, only you do, so you are the one that is going to have to choose a solution that you can live with. Your decision however, should not be based on loosing your social life, or your body, that is shallow, and that is selfish. You had sex, now you have to deal with the consiquences of doing adult things. Its not about your social life, clearly that has already gotten you into this. Or your body. It should be about your future, education, what the child would be born into, how you would provide, if you could fathom adopting the child to someone else, etc.. These are your choices to make, but its not about minor things like a social life or stretchmarks!!

Answer 6

I say if you are prego put the baby up for adoption, they will let you pick the family and everything. Most adopted children know at a young age that while their mommy and daddy love them very much they didn't come from mommy's belly and as long as you chose a family that will raise them that way it should not be a problem and even though it can be devastating to find out when you are older that you were adopted it won't take over your life and make you hate your parents. So please choose to save the life of a child who may not be wanted by you but is by someone you can email me for some adoption sites if you find out you are prego. and they have classes to help pregnant teens finish HS it's not hard and you'll get through it if you are. It's a hard decision and it's all yours to make but please think hard before you make it because it's not just your life anymore.

Answer 7

Well my best friend is adopted and she thanked her mom for giving her life. Her and her birth mom met and are friends. Her and her adoptive mom are super close and have always had special day - the day she was adopted.
Before you have an abortion you should look it up and see how they do it. It is cruel. Your baby is part of you and why would you just want to do away with it for yourself? How are you going to feel later on? There is no bringing that baby back.
I knew a woman at work who had abortion and regretted it. She saw the baby after they took it out of her, it was only weeks old and it already had feet. Her baby was in peaces. She cried for weeks.
Better do some thinking. Good luck

Answer 8

Have you thought of adoption. There are very many people who would love and care for that child. You said you never thought you'd be one to consider abortion, so would that mean that you would blame yourself in the end. If you think you would feel guilty then you have two other choices, either keep the baby, or give it up for adoption. If you know you will not feel guilty and abortion is your choice, then it's what you do (I can't say I'd do it myself but a woman will do what they will no matter what a person likes). If adoption is your option I know many many loving parents. In fact my oldest brother is adopted and he loves his birth parents because of it. He is our brother to us not adopted. If you choose to keep the baby then you will be surprised how much of a blessing that baby would be. Hopefully though, if you are not pregnant (if you did not wear condoms and take precautions) you will be careful.

I wanted to let you know, that many adopted children are in loving homes and are raised in understanding. They are usually told that circumstances weren't right and that their parents wanted what was best for them. My brother was told at a young age he was adopted. He doesn't hold a grudge, it's just that to him we're his family. And many many adoptive children are this way. I'm not saying you have too, just don't be so quick to rule it out. We all get put in tough spots sometimes, but that's when we have to be adult about these things. It's just fact. You ask people what you should do and people answer. It is their opinions and what they believe. In the end the choice is yours and there may be a chance your not even pregnant, but if you are you have a choice to make. Just as you shouldn't be so quick to rule out adoption, don't be so quick as to make abortion a certainty. In the end you make your choice anyway, just make sure you do it as an adult.

Answer 9

Don't have an abortion!!!

Its not the baby's fault it was created and for it to die by having its little parts vacummed out is horrible. Plus, there is a chance you might get sick if little baby parts are stuck inside you and get infected or something.

I think you should have the baby and if you really don't want it the day you have him or her (since when parents hold the child into their arms the first time, they instantly fall in love with it), then give it up for adoption. Tell your parents that you're pregnant (if you haven't), and tell them instead of aborting it, get an adoption. You can still party and the baby is safe and in a loving home (potental adopters are screened and really want children so of course they will love it).

Good luck!

Answer 10

Please think about it before you make your decision. I know both sides to this story. I got pregnant when I was 16. My mother begged me to have an abortion, but I could never think of doing such a thing. So I ended up having my son at 17. I didn't have the father around, just my mother and sisters. But with their help, I graduated high school and later on became a nurse! I got married at 20, had two more beauties, and am now divorced. My boyfriend now, of 3 years, and I ran into a situation early in our relationship. I got pregnant. And being a mother of 3, fresh into the relationship, I didn't think it fair to keep the baby. I don't believe in abortions really, but I felt I had to consider everyone involved. So I had an abortion. And I have felt awful about it ever since. You will never understand it until you go through it. It's not easy and you have to be strong. So here I am at 28...and telling you, it can be done having a child young. It's not the end of the world, and your child will thank you for your decision later. (Believe me) But if you do choose to have an abortion, your life may have more possibilities of a greater/more successful future. It is your choice, so take your time. And remember...neither choice is a wrong choice. Do what you feel is best. Good luck!

Answer 11

If you're not sure or not whether you'd be able to handle the baby, you could always carry it to term and give it up for adoption. I am 20 and have a 3 month old daughter and wouldn't trade her for the world! She's has made me and my husband's lives so much fuller. I honestly could never get an abortion. The thought of killing my child makes me feel horrible. But, it is your body, and in the end you will have to make the decision if you are pregnant. Consider adoption. That's what I think. Good luck!