I am married now after a break up with my ex. I talked to him only once and he was crying, sounding really measurable. He had cheated on me, I was hurt that time. I cried like helpless, drove here and there as if I am going to die. My ex bf left me for another b'ful girl. He always said I am not b'ful and he dumped me like a piece of paper. He didn't even look back that time to me. I have been with him for 2 years. I loved him with all my heart.I pray for him always. But lately he found that girl is having a very bad past and then he already slept with her. He asked me to save him, I was still waiting for him. I said to be strong and realise things. But instead he was saying he loves her so much, its true love(2months only it lasted). He never gave me a final answer. Now i am married, he called said, he is regretting of what he did. I told everything correct and why didn't i pull him. he said he will die. he is a bad person. I still love him,but cant trust or forgive him.What he wants?
2007-09-11 09:08:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never fall for that trick. Maybe he is miserable but I think that is because he is unhappy and truely alone. If he was able to get you back he would have control. He wants what he wants and he's going to put on whatever show he can to get it. And think about this.......if you were to go back to him(not saying you are) what would you lose in your marriage that you know you would regret for the rest of your life. What would you gain out of a new relationship with someone you have been with in the past(probably not one thing!!!). You know how he can be. Would you rather be happy in a loving, secure marriage or unhappy with a man that talked you back into his life and treats you like yesterdays news??? I would tell him that he can be as sad as he wants but he's not getting me back. You are too good for that!!!
2007-09-11 09:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Do you still love him the way you loved him before? Meaning more than a friend? Or is it a past thing but you had always wished to be back together before you met your husband, and now you think did u mary the right guy?
2) You know sometimes memories came back to haunt us, and we think the memories are alive, but in fact they are dead. You got to discover who you really want. Imagine, if he never called you again, would you have regret in marrying yoru current man. If not, probably you shall just tell your ex, that it is too late to regret on his part, because you had find your another part of your life, and you are happy about it.
3) If it happen you regret marrying your partner, then I think you shall try to love him more, because you are already married. If you can't love your husband the way you loved your ex, after trying all meant to be loyal and create sparkles, then might be you shall be honest with your husband, or file disvorce before you had children for your husband. When children came into picture, it complicated things.
4) If you are not still interest in your ex, then u dont' have to know if he is serious about wanting to get back to you. But indeed you want to go back to your ex, then you need to sort thing out. (NOTE regardless if your ex meant to reconcilate with you, if you dont' like your current husband, you shall let your husband go. ) To me it seemed from what you said, he was hurt by his discovery and knew now how good you were, but he does not love you. He hoped his girl was as good as you, so he missed you and him, because you were so good to him. Esp. He told you she is his real love. So at any case, if I were you, I wouldnt' step out of my marriage vow for such an immature person who does not even realize what he really wants.
2007-09-11 09:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by deskof.vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this is KARMA for what he did to you. Do not believe him because anyone that could hurt you like that once WILL do it again in time. your married and owe it to ure new husband to be faithful and hes been good to you so dont hurt him. This will fade and so will ure feelings for this guy. He deserves to be miserable and now he pays the price. thats how Karma works. Hes a deadbeat and a user he uses whoever makes him feel good at the time so dont cry for him. Move on and let this loser go! its the best and only way or else ure setting ureself up for a horrible disaster later on. good luck dont follow ure heart here think with ure head
2007-09-11 09:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is pathetic and you are weak! Get a backbone and live your life. He is trying to make you feel guilty and youre so soft you got suked right in. Move on, he is not your problem anymore. The only reason he wants you is because he has nothing now. The second he finds something better he will be gone again. Life is not a game. You have to live with the decisions and consequences of your actions. Grow up!
2007-09-11 09:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhmmnn....if you still love your ex, then why did you marry another? I don't think you should really have anything to do with your ex anymore because he isn't trustworthy, and more importantly you're married to someone else now. What's your husband like? is he a good man? He would probably feel very hurt to know that you still have such feelings for a bloke who treated you badly. Maybe you should forget about your ex, and your past with him, and focus on your present and future with your husband.
2007-09-11 09:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you and you are thinking of him ???? Are you flucking nuts? Hon, you don't love this guy, you love what you wish he were.... If relationships are Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust, sweetpea, the trust was gone with betrayal, and the visual of this dude pronging some other female. So the Admiration and Respect were in the toilet tooo.... What ARE you thinking?
Flush the whole mess. He's just trying to keep you as the "Jerk in Reserve"..... and you're gonna fall for it??? You must be a door mat and wish to be used, and with a low self esteem as well or dumb as an oyster.
2007-09-11 09:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't go back once theey cheat they will always cheat I have been married for 21 years as of Sept. 8th 2007 I have been living in Atlanta for the last 4years went back to MI for brain surgery he told me I needed to wait 3 years and he would join me he moved some girl into one of our properties and promised he would help me with my bills well I really know he is helping another girl or the same one that is living on my property it is really awful when you have to divorce after 21 yrs but that is where we are headed.
2007-09-11 09:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by tylr113 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds extremely selfish and is not looking out for your best interests as much as he is only thinking of himself. Some people are not happy with others moving on and being happy. He was a jerk, treated you very badly with no kind of sympathy for you, and now you say you feel bad for him? Trust me, once he gets you back he will only treat you bad again. Guys like himself are attracted to girls who are just like yourself, kind, sympathetic, nice, and they know how to play on them. He is only telling you what he knows will get you to come around to his way. He is trouble to your marriage and if you have any sanity left you would change your phone number and stay clear of this guy as much as you can. I do hope you do what is right for you and your marriage. Don't be the girl that leaves a nice husband because she is attracted to the bad guy.
2007-09-11 09:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Period. If you go back, not only will you ruin your marriage, but you would be giving your ex a license to treat you like garbage. What kind of person would go back to someone who cheated on them in the first place? Respect yourself a little more, and forget the sleeze ball.
2007-09-11 09:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason he wants you back is because his oher relationship didn't work. Think about it, was he trying to get back with you when him and that girl was doing good? Now it's his time to suffer. He hurt you so let him be a man and grow up. If you take him back he will hurt you again. TRUST ME.
2007-09-11 09:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋