I get married next year, if I have sex with a woman before I get married then is it still cheating? It's something that I really want to do but I'm not sure that my fiance would be impressed or supportive.
2007-09-11 09:04:20 · 42 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know about him, buy i wouldn't be too concerned if my woman would have sex with another woman. Unless of course she ends up liking more the same gender sex. But I would talk to him about this. Do it in a hypothetical way. Don't tell him that you are planning to do it dough. Just tell him, what if I would want to have sex with another girl before getting marry. To see what he says. Why don't you ask him to join in? He'll probably like that.
2007-09-11 09:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sarah, I just answered your question regarding you wanting to have one last fling before you get married. Now you ask this question. You really need to think over getting married. Clearly you are not ready for this committment. I feel bad for your fiance. Why should he be impressed or supportive?? Cheating is cheating regardless of whether it's the same gender or not.
2007-09-12 02:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Dutch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating. I would challenge the notion that marriage is much different from being engaged or the intent to be married. If he slept with another woman, I doubt you would react any differently during your engagement period vs. your marriage.
This is why I don't understand the notion of bachelor/ette parties--if someone wants to have one last hurrah before they get married they should have done that before they met the person they wanted to marry.
That being said, I doubt--men being the way that they are these days...that he would not be entirely open to the idea. It might be fun for the two of you...
Bring it up to him, and see what he says.... if he isn't open to the idea, however, I would caution you to respect that....but I think he just might be...
2007-09-11 09:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once u r married it is cheating, but think. Will this continue when u do get hitched? If so, u better put on the brakes. If u fancy a nice w*t c*** then u will want that taste later in life. Dont close the door if u want to get back in later.
2007-09-11 09:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's who you are to sleep with a woman and you get married, it will be far worse for both of you. Either test your feelings or drop it forever. You can't go into marriage with a thought like that dangling in the back of your head. Do you truly love this man, or are you marrying for other reasons?
You'd be breaking a relationship to have this fantasy realized now, but you'd be breaking a marriage later if you can't rationalize it away. It's your call.
2007-09-11 09:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how you & your fiancee feel about what constitutes cheating. In my opinion, if you are hiding it & keeping it a big secret- then it's cheating. If he knows you want to do this & is ok with it, it is not. If you have a desire to be with women & your fiance disapproves, maybe he's not the one that you can be happy with forever. There are lots of guys that would LOVE to have a girl that does girls. Good luck, whatever you decide. C:
2007-09-11 09:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Angela J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes - and you should not consider such a big step and committment as marraige with such desires. Marraige is not about being with someone forever because you feel like you love them at the time. It's much more and requires alot of hard work. These feelings you're having are not going to go away because you're getting married. You owe it to him to let him know that you're bisexual before you take such a big step. Starting a marital relationship with deception is the worst thing you can do to a marraige.
2007-09-11 09:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you shared your feelings with him on this? Have you told him that you`re attracted to other women? It is cheating yes, on the other hand as long as you don`t plan on leaving him after you`re married for another woman, he may be accepting of this. I for one would accept it readily, as long as there was no other male involved.He can`t compete with this situation if you`re bisexual.
Be sure that marriage is what you want , and don`t break his heart by leaving him for another woman.
2007-09-11 09:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's still cheating. What is the logic in having sex with another human being and it NOT being cheating?
2007-09-11 09:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating. I know some people who try to use "same sex" as an excuse as not cheating. Doesn't count, its still sex. Would you consider it cheating if he slept with another man???
2007-09-11 09:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋