Yea, everytime i try to not get mad 4 simple things i still do & then i cant be happy because i keepthinking about wat got me so mad & wat i did.....so could u lend me a good advice?
2007-09-11 07:59:57 · 10 answers · asked by angela c 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
*There is an excellent book out called:
"Working With Anger" - teaching effective techniques on How to Cultivate Patience-which is the alternative to anger; teaches what to do when our buttons are pushed; how to effectively cope with negative criticism; letting go of grudges and resentments; teaches how to cultivate love, gentleness, kindness and compassion toward others 'and' ourselves. *Thubten Chodron, the author of this book - defines Patience as the ability to remain internally and externally calm and undisturbed in the face of harm and difficulties in life. *Patience is a quality we all - as human beings - need to develop more of, in our lives.
2007-09-18 05:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by McLeod 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no one or no thing can make you mad unless you allow yourself to get that way. You're in control, and anger is pretty much a wasted emotion; the only one suffering is you. So as soon as you feel yourself getting angry over anything, stop and take a deep breath, let it out slowly. Consider the fact that in the grand scheme of life, whatever you just started to get angry about isn't worth it the stress and higher blood pressure. If it's not something significant that you can change, accept that and move on with your day. Good luck!
2007-09-11 15:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anger results from interference with your plans. Note that you are not the center of the universe and see the interference as a call to adapt.
People that "lose" control don't , actually, "have" control. You got to this place in your life with the bad habit of getting angry.
Often, you enjoy the release of all that violence and fury.
Anger destroys relationships, breeds ill will and suffocates peace. Begin to practice a new habit, one where you engage your mind and purposefully wait a moment before doing or saying anything. Children have tantrums. Adults have reason.
It will take awhile, but growing in maturity is worth the work. C. :)!!
2007-09-19 10:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To let someone make you mad is to let them control you. Let it go and accept things for how they are. Remember so you do not get in a ituation to gt mad again. Let go and get on with fling good. If you hang on to the bad you will make yourwelf feel bad. Move on and be with others that have good happy times. It is contagious so stay away fom people with bad attidtudes.
2007-09-11 15:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the answers given to you by LADYG. My sister has always had the same problem that you have.We were speaking about it a few days ago. She asked me if I thought she had overcome these things adequately. I think she manages very well,but she admitted to me that it has been for her,a life long quest and not a walk in the park. It is hard for me to identify with your emotions. All my life I have had a very acute sense of humor. I tend to see the humor in a situation FIRST. My sister senses the dangers of all things FIRST. She is very serious minded,but she has taught herself how to see the funny side of things.I have tried to teach myself to see the potential dangers in the situations of daily life. None of us are born perfect.If you make a commitment to yourself to try to see things differently,,,you will begin to see them differently. It may be an ongoing thing for the rest of your life. Try to strengthen those things in your character that you feel are "good" things and just keep working on those "bad" things. If you will just TRY you will succeed. Your WILL is a strong thing,,,so USE it to change for the better. A wise friend once told me....."If it ain't LIFECHANGING just don't worry about it!"
2007-09-15 15:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by wayne_burdeshaw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*take a breath* count to ten. Get a less stressful job, get enough sleep, watch a pointless tv show, go to hawai'i, get a massage, then take another deep breath and count to ten when you are about to get angry
2007-09-11 15:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Veruca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your anger go. It is not worth anything compared to living.
2007-09-11 16:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by Aim4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray the good Lord
2007-09-19 14:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by msria1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy.
not even joking, and don't take it as an insult.
i'm no professional but there are people out there who are, you see them.
2007-09-15 23:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a holiday, exercise more, eat healthy, sleep more often. Works for me.......
2007-09-11 15:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Crawford A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋