What are my chances of getting sole custody of my son?

Question

Hello, I am in the middle of a custody battle with my sons father at the moment.. heres the story, I got pregnant and he knew about it and then we fought because of his drug use and he didnt want to change so we broke and he was not there for me through out my whole pregnancy, no doctors appt., etc., and when my son was born, I had to go for paternity testing and he was once again proved to be the father and now at the age of 8 months he hired a lawyer and is requesting to have joint custody, and he hasnt even seen his son and has not shown any responsible effort until now.. I dont know what to think.. this case is going on in the state of wisconsin.. please help me and at least let me know what I can do in order fo me to get sole custody or what your advice is, it would be greatly appreciated.. thank you

Answer 1

Even if he gets joint I would request he go take some drug test to prove he isnt still using.Which most likely he will get two weekends a month and weds..evenings.
At 1 my granddaughters father showed up and said Im the dad.I made him take a blood test and he was!!.In most cases..I know this is mean to say ..and some people will give me some bad emails.But the father does not know what a full package custody is.once they start paying and make sure he covers insurance and you have moral clause in there for him not to bring every hillary and judy home with him..Make sure you claim on taxes.
the men get tired of putting forth the effort.Ours hasnt picked her up in three months...last time he took for night and his gf took her to the pool the next day.So at times they dont realize how much it is to raise a child either.I KNOW DRUGS are bad issue been there with daughter..ive lived it all.But try to work together in best interest of child and remember its nice when everyone shows a child love.Just making sure he is to take regular drug tests if posssible and counseling for it if need be.good luck hon!!

Answer 2

The best advice I would offer would be -- get a lawyer too. One with a reputation that makes HER a formidable adversary to deal with in court.

I say HER because female custody specialists seem to have a higher success rate of getting favorable rulings.

Be prepared for one really big thing however, the child's father may have spent the last year cleaning up his act and be completely clean. Many times it take loosing something and someone they love to really make a person wake up.

You may have bad feelings toward the child's father for not being there for you, but if he has cleaned up his act you cannot in good conscience deprive him of his right to be a part of the child's life.

Also, if you do win sole custody, you need to be certain that you do not poison the childs mind against his father with your perceptions of how he deserted the two of you. This has horrible effects of self worth doubt on a child who is growing up without a father.

I would suggest you both get counciling as part of whatever comes from the court process. You have created a life together and it is BOTH of your responiblity to see to it that that new life get a fair shot at a good life.

All of this is probably NOT what you wanted to hear, but needed to be said. You need to start thinking more for the child and not for yourself. Being a parent is part and parcel about the child not about ourselves.

Answer 3

Based on this paragraph, it looks like you will more than likely get the custody you want, but this is NOT the place for an accurate or informed opinion about what will actually happen to you. The best you'll get here (including my own opinion) is just a guess. You need an attorney who specializes in family law and is familiar with the courts in your area and the laws in your jurisdiction for a real prediction.

Answer 4

under law, regardless of how much money someone has spent or the time they have spent in the past - the parents have equal rights to see their children. in most states, even if you fail to pay child support, this cannot be a determining factor for a parent to have access to their children. if you can show he's still currently abusing drugs then there's a chance you will get sole custody - but he will still have visitation rights. you may want to contact a lawyer for the advice on how to proceed in your case.

Answer 5

You should have thought about this before having sex with someone who does drugs. He is the father and he should have at LEAST visitation rights. He's stepping up now and he wants to a part of his son's life, let him. Your son needs a father.

Answer 6

To be honest unless you can prove that he still uses drugs or is unfit no judge is going to deny a father rights to his child. Even though he hasn't been there for you throughout your pregnancy nor the past eight months, the judge will think it looks favorable that he's stepping up now.

Answer 7

Zero without a good lawyer.

You say he never saw his son. Did you invite him too? Or did you do everything you could to stop him? Is he using drugs now? Can you prove he ever did?

Answer 8

are you married? if not then you have nothing to worry about and also who would give these kids to someone who is always off their head good luck i hope you get what you want xxx