For not listening to what they tell me to do? I'm 24 now, but last yr., I was living back with my former foster family after Hurricane Katrina so I can finish up my college degree, since my home was destroyed. My former foster brother in law told me to turn off my mp3 player & stop listening to it. That was my former foster mom's house, & he could've gone back to his own house. Nothing was wrong with his home. When I refused to stop listening to the mp3 player, the foster mom told me that he had every right to knock me off my @$$. I'm not a kid, & I wasn't harming anyone for listening to my mp3 player, & then there was a foster boy who was 16, & he would blast his music @ 3 AM, & when I told my former foster mom, she would encourage him to beat me up. If I'm an adult, why do I have to obey other adults, JUST for the hell of it if I'm not doing wrong? My foster BIL was NOT the man of the household, so why did my FFM make me obey him? ***& YES, this IS the full & true story!
2007-09-11 07:15:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
If it happens again call the cops but if you are in the New Orleans area still you may have to defend yourself since the police is more dangerous then the criminals there. (I should know because I was born and raised there) You said you "were" living there last year and I assuming you are not living there anymore
2007-09-11 07:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dorothy D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not ever tolerate anyone using violence on you. I grew up with my dad hitting my mother and I never let him get away with it. I ALWAYS called 911. If I hadn't called the cops, maybe it would have happened more, I don't know. But seriously, don't ever let anyone have that power over you. You are better than that!!!
It sounds like you had a sh*tty foster family. I'm so sorry about that. I don't know why some of these people take foster kids in if they are not going to be good to them. I am so sorry.
2007-09-11 14:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by higherlovetx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who he is or whether he is the head of the household or not. He has no right to hurt you. You are an adult at the age of 24 and yes you are right, you shouldn't have to take orders from another adult. We all have boundaries and rules which we like to set in our own households, such as, wash up after you have eaten or put a new loo roll on if you use the last of the old roll. It just seems to be a power struggle going on to see who is the dominant member of the household. Dont put up with it.
2007-09-11 14:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by DJJD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE has the right to physically or mentally abuse you EVER!!!!!!! I am so sorry that you're in this situation. Is there anything that you can do to get away from these crazy people? Can you move into a dorm? Get a new foster family? Do you want to move to Fl and live with me and my husband? What you described is simply NOT acceptable!!!! I don't believe in using physical discipline on children and certainly not on adults. What you described is assault. It's WRONG!!!! I don't care who in the household did or condoned it. It was just WRONG!!!!!! I hope that you can find a way out of this situation, or that you're already out of it. To survive Katrina and then have to go through that he//. Your story makes me so sad and mad. Our damned government can spend 100's of millions of dollars on a futile war EVERY day and they won't clean up their own back yard. I'm just furious!!!!!!! Good luck hun :)
2007-09-11 14:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by sheyna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO one should EVER have the "right" to use violence. This is wrong, wrong, wrong. You were doing nothing to physically harm them; they should have never hurt you.
Granted, you were being a *bit* rude by not complying with what they were asking, since they were a foster family.
However, as I said before, using violence is not a solution. The family should have said that A, B, and C are what was bugging them about the MP3 player, and that maybe you could do D, E, and F to fix it.
2007-09-11 21:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Leafy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Violence is inexcusable, if the foster mother is encouraging violence in the house she needs to be reported to the agency she is working with. Foster homes are supposed to be caring, loving environments for anyone who lives there. Her rights as a foster parent would probably be taken away if the state knew she was encouraging and allowing violence between the children she is supposed to be taking care of.
2007-09-11 14:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by angel_fish1791 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to hurt you or use violence against you, for any reason, and regardless of whether you are in your own home or a foster home. If you are being abused or violated in any way, call the police. They can press charges against the people who are hurting you and can find you a safe and non-violent place to live.
2007-09-11 14:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Hillary 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nobody, I mean NOBODY has the right to use violence against another person, adult or child. No matter what the relationship - DO NOT ACCEPT this behavior EVER! Please get yourself out of there, even if it means putting your education temporarily on hold. (Please don't give up on getting an education - it's too important to your future.)
If anyone assaults you, you should call the police and have the person arrested. Please speak with a counselor at school. Maybe he or she can help you find housing and financial assistance. Contact a battered women's shelter or a crisis center. These may be in your phone book.
Good luck and bless you. You deserve far better than this situation. Please, please never think you deserve to be threatened or assaulted.
2007-09-11 14:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Rita A 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has the right to use violence on another human being. It is permitted as a form of punishment in small children (via parents) but what you are saying is just incredible.
Let me be absolutely clear about this. If they touch you call the police and get their hineys locked up.
And from me to you, I would look for another place to live as fast as possible.
2007-09-11 14:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to abuse you. Call Social Services and report them. You should be in a kind, stable home environment. You are already suffering because of Katrina. You need to find a new place to live. Good luck.
2007-09-11 14:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Robert J 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋