I'm confused..this is my last week to decide ((what I will do))?

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I'm around 7-10 weeks preg. and the problem is that even if I want to keep my baby, I just cant and NO, I don't consider adoption, in that case I would keep the baby myself). Well I'm 21 and the father is 31, but he's not ready because he lost his job, his mom passed away not long ago, and his depressed, etc. and he told me straight out that I would be the main one to care for the baby if I decide to keep it, and he will just be my friend because he cannot be with me. Also, I'm working and going to school, and my parents would be very upset if I let them know about what's going on. I'm just confused because I know I will feel bad if I have an abortion but I just don't know if I will be able to handle the responsibility of raising a child
9plus I already have two large dogs and it's hard to keep them well maintained because of the expenses.) Today I will have another talk with the "father" but I don't know what I should tell him, he knows I am confused,..it's just very hard...

Answer 1

Do you post all of your questions so many times, over and over again? OK, I'll just copy and paste what I replied to your duplicate of this question....

READ THIS before you answer her question!

Before anyone answers this person's question, they should go to her profile and read the disturbing questions she's been asking. Here is a link to her profile:

http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt...

Please check out her questions, I implore you!
She is nothing but a ridiculous, self-centered hussy who cares more for her damn dogs than her own unborn child! For example, here is a question she asked about a week ago:

•lowridergirl_714
1 week ago - 20 answers
I'm 8 weeks pregnant and I don't want the "kid"?
This is just ridiculous. I never expect it this, when I tried I fail, then I thought I would never be able to get pregnant, and now without thinking (and with the wrong person) I get pregnant. I was not born to be a mother, and I don't feel anything at all for this "parasite"(according to anthropologist) that's in me. I don't know why other people get so happy when they find out they're preg or something. I am so desperate, I don't know how to start, or get an abortion of something...i just can't explain this...i need advice (not critizisism) please...


Since that question, she has posted the same question FOUR times, as well as other disturbing questions about miscarriage, effects of "bad habits" she won't change even though she's pregnant, etc. Who could call their unborn child a "parasite"?! A parasite! She even advised another poster that the poster's fetus was just a parasite and that she was going to abort her own "parasite" and go on about her life, "reaching for her goals." PLEASE read all of her questions and THEN post an answer. I can assure you that you will respond a LOT different once you're read the sick stuff she's been saying!

lowridergirl_714Member since: March 30, 2006
sorry, but I hate kids.
1 month ago - Report It

Another good one...

lowridergirl_714Member since: March 30, 2006
... I always see pregnant women everywhere, every day, it seems like an epidemic. It actually bothers me in some way, especially when I see women with 3-4 kids, and are still expecting another baby.I been looking at pregnant women in my family every single year for the last 5-6 years or so! I'm so sick of it, it's nothing interestering or exciting nomore...I see it as a ROUTINE. Last year when I was 20, I was actually trying to get pregnant myself, now I can't believe how stupid I was to have those types of thoughts; I'm glad I have changed my mind by now. I don't really see the benefit of having a kid nomore. I am way happier with my two puppies, I would NEVER exchange them for a baby....I wish every women would think like me...
Source(s):
Women just like the feeling and the attention of being pregnant...(being spoiled)



And to you, Lowrider girl, I still have the same response as when you posted the question above, along with the other
4, 987 about getting rid of your "parasite." You are a selfish, self-serving human being, and I use "human being" loosely. You've waited all this time, KNOWING you were pregnant and now, that "parasite" as you called it, has a heart beat, brain function, etc. If you abort that child, you are a murdered. It's as simple as that. I know others won't agree and won't understand my anger, but if they go back and read your other questions, I'm sure they will. Will you choose to be a MURDERER!? You make me sick! In the future, keep your legs closed! And if you keep the baby, get rid of the damn DOGS and maybe you can AFFORD the baby! Better yet, don't be selfish, just give the baby up for adoption. You say that you'd just keep it yourself if you had it, but in an earlier post, you said, " I was not born to be a mother, and I don't feel anything at all for this "parasite." I feel sorry for your child because you hold it's life in your hands. You f*cked up by getting pregnant. DO the right thing and let that child live! Even better, give it to someone who WANTS it!

By the way, I sooooo busted you lying! In a post as early as one month ago, you state that the guy is 27. Also, in a couple of other posts you made, you give your age as 20. There are other discrepancies as well. Do you EVER tell the truth?????

OMG! And check out this link!! You will piss yourself laughing! SHE actually disses women who come on here and tells them to stop having unprotected sex! :)) Link:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

And this one...
lowridergirl_714Member since: March 30, 2006
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lowridergirl_714
0 What's the average cost for a pap smear std's check up (without insurance or medi-cal.?
I live in Orange County, CA. I really want to go for a check up, but I don't have medical insurance of medi-cal. The reason I don't go is because I don't know of a place where it can be done for free or at low cots. Any information will be much appreciated. Thank you.

LMAO!! You're spreading that stuff between your legs like peanut butter! :)) Can anyone say...s-k-a-n-k?? :p

OMG! And this post you made is my favorite... :))...
(What a skank!)

lowridergirl_714Member since: March 30, 2006

0 I had my period 2 weeks ago, sinse then 3 men have actually cummed in me?
I know it's not the first time I do this and I've never gotten pregnant, but it has been a about a year sinse I did it...I don't know if I'm more fertile now then before...(i'm 21 now)
11 months ago - 21 answers - Report It

That post was made 11 months ago. Are you even really pregnant??

Stop coming on here and jerking people's chains! You should go crawl back under whatever rock you've been hiding under!
You need a good Psychiatrist! He could make a living out of treating you! You are one f*cked up person. *barfs*

Ps. I plan to continue to follow your questions, so I'd think twice about continuing to post your bullsh*t on here. I want to make sure severyone who reads your questions knows your psychotic! :D
I hope are so embarrassed that you stop posting at this site. :)

Ps. For someone supposedly in college, your grammar sucks. :D

Answer 2

Why not consider adoption? Is it because you couldn't emotionally handle giving your baby to someone else? How much worse do you think it will be to end it's life? If you're already aware of how it might hurt to give the baby to another family, you're beginning to think like a mother. That's a good sign! I got pregnant when I was 17 and never considered abortion as I had my opinions on the matter already decided years before. I considered adoption just because of my situation but knew I could never give him to another family. He was MY baby. So I had a sit down with my family and though it was tough (they are VERY conservative), they supported me financially and emotionally, especially my mom. It was certainly humbling, I had to drop out of highschool and get my GED, but I did it. And it was the best decision I have ever made in my life. Like in your situation, the father was not involved at all. Well, on friday, we celebrated my son's 10th birthday!! Is he a mistake? A burden? Do I wish I had him killed while he was still growing inside me? HELL NO! He is the greatest gift I could have been given. And as far as it ruining your life?... I married a few years after having my son and now have a total of 4 kids, a hunky hubby in the military who adopted my son years ago, and we live a wonderful life. When I look back 10yrs, I thank God I had the foresight and maturity to make the decision that I did.
Good Luck

P.S. A start would be getting rid of the dogs...dogs vs. your baby...?

Answer 3

Sounds like you need to decide between the hardship of a baby (and hope daddy to be comes around) or the emotional hardship of an abortion.

I had an abortion when I was 18 - at the time it was my only option as well - I was working, going to school, father would not even consider the the child to be a factor in the decision.

I won't lie - it was a very difficult thing to do - it feels "cold" going through the process of an abortion - but I have no regrets and I do not look back and hate myself, or wish I had changed my mind. I don't cry over it when I think about it (although I know some people do)

I'm a mind over matter kinda person I guess. It was the only option so I see no point (10 years later) in thinking back on it, crying over it, or dreading it and wishing I hadn't.

It wasn't easy - its not extremely painful but it is very uncomfortable. The bleeding afterwards is heavier than a period with alot of cramping but it only lasts a short period of time (1-2 weeks at the most)

If you choose to have an abortion set your mind too it, ignore the people who would try and guilt you - do what is best for you - the rest will fall into place afterwards.

If you need too - get a counselor afterwards to help you deal with any emotional problems you have and remember that what is the right choice is not always the easy choice..and choosing an abortion is the hardest choice you could ever make.

Good luck and I hope you find in your heart the right answer.

Answer 4

The responsibility of your dogs is irrelevant, and in a way goes to show that youre probably not mentally ready to have a child. I know you said youve ruled out adoption, but why? It's the most selfless act you can do. If you don't think you can raise a baby, that's ok you don't need to feel guilty at giving this child a chance at an amazing life with a different family. It must be hard, I was in a sort of similar situation, though a bit older. I am now 39 weeks along, and I believe in the beginning stages of labor about to begin my new life as a single mom and I just cant wait.

Answer 5

Well you are in a very tough position. I have had an abortion and I will tell you it is by far the hardest thing I've ever done. Every day I ask God for forgivness but I know it was the best choice at the time. If you have any doubts at all about getting an abortion, don't do it. If you're doubting it now you will most likely regret it later. Just because the father doesn't have a job doesn't mean you can't still be a great mother. There's a lot of support you can get from the state. Just consider all your options... if it seems like the best decision for you and your child then do it. Good luck

Answer 6

I know that this decision is a tough one. But trust me, you will NOT feel better about having an abortion. The baby's heart is developed at 5 weeks, and has a heartbeat between 7-8 weeks. Your baby is already starting to move around inside of you.

Do not have an abortion. This child already has a life, whether its inside the womb our outside of it, it still has a beating heart.

Depending on what state you are in, some states claim it is mandatory for the parent without primary custody to pay child-support. Check into that and see whether or not this is possible for you and your situation. That way you have some extra income to help take care of your baby. Also, check in to the WIC program... they provide food for the baby if you are not breastfeeding and I believe if you are breastfeeding they will help supply you with a well-balanced diet as well so that you may provide for your infant.

There are plenty of ways to support your baby. And your parents might be upset at first, but they will come to be excited about the fact that they are going to be grandparents in time. I'm only 18, so imagine how much of a let-down it was to my 43 year old parents that I was pregnant... NOT a great month or so, but now all is well and they are supporting me as much as possible. Family is a great support system if you only let them.

If you still feel you are unable to provide for your child on your own... seriously consider adoption. Why not let your child have a chance at some sort of life, whether it be with you or not? I don't understand how you can be pro-abortion but anti-adoption. In adoption, the child lives. Abortion, the child dies... no hope of a future whatsoever.

Talk to the father of the child. Talk to your parents. Talk to your friends. You will have support around you. I thought I would be kicked out and alone and on the streets... but here I am 26 weeks pregnant, and I have been blessed by the support I have received from my family and my friends.

Best of luck to you. I hope you make a decision that is best for everyone involved.

Answer 7

My sister in law and my bestfriend both had abortions before and both say they regret it very much!! The father told them at the time he thought it was the best thing to do, but now tells her that he wishes they would have had the baby and regrets is very much. Don't have an abortion. You shouldn't give up the life of a baby just b/c someone doesn't want you to have it. What do you think your parents would say even you had an abortion. Every baby should have the chance at a life. What if you were that baby....don't you think you should have a chance. You can and will be able to get help from other people. When you hear the heartbeat for the first time, when you feel the baby kicking in your belly for the first time, when you see the baby on the ultrasound picture. Please don't have an abortion. At least think about adoption before an abortion. At least he/she would have a chance at living. :o)

Answer 8

At 9 weeks, I had my first ultrasound and saw my baby moving all around inside of me. And even though I couldn't hear her little heart beating yet, I could see it. How do you just abort something that is alive? This is your baby and you don't want it to have a future? I can't believe you'd put dogs before a little being that YOU created. Carry the baby and put it up for adoption. Give it a chance to have a meaningful life. How could you go on knowing you took someone's life away? A someone that you created?

Answer 9

Think about the baby involved. It is a living thing inside of you and I don't know how you'd be able to live with yourself if you killed it. That is murder. I know you are having a tough time right now, but as this baby grows inside of you you'll find that you've never felt love like it. In my opinion, this is already your child and he/she deserves to have a chance in life. Also, just wondered why you aren't considering adoption? Maybe someone in your family would adopt the baby. Or you could keep the baby yourself. I am sure you could make it work. It's for your child. Also, if the father doesn't support you tell him you still plan to make him responsible for his share of the child support, it is his child too. Whatever you want to do is your choice though, but please think of your child and not just the two of you.

Answer 10

Talk to your parents about this. This is a huge decision and you shouldn't have to make it alone. Your parents might be disappointed, but most of the time parents will eventually be thrilled at the idea of a grandchild. The father of the child may not want to have to deal with this, but he is still responsible and so he will have to deal with it. If you keep the baby, you might end up being the primary person responsible, but at the very least, he will need to be held financially responsible and you should seek legal advise about that as soon as possible. Talk to your parents about this, it will be hard to raise a child alone, but where there is a will there is a way. You say you have two dogs, you wouldn't have your dogs put down because you don't want to deal with the responsibility, I hope you will rethink terminating your child. And if you really can't keep the baby, please rethink adoption. I have several friends and family members who have had to adopt. There is someone somewhere who wants that baby.

Answer 11

♥ Hun... no one can make that decision for you. You know what is best for you. Although I dont agree with abortion, I do agree with a woman's right to choose. The first girl's answer is correct in saying that by 8 weeks the baby is already forming little hands & toes, its cartilage [[in preparatino for the bones]] is formed & forming, the babys heart is beating but is undetectable with a stethoscope. I personally would keep the baby... because I dont agree with abortion & I couldnt give my child up for adoption. Maybe you should talk to your parents, maybe they will be more supportive than you think. Have you contacted Planned Parenthood? They will help you weigh out all of your options with all the pros & cons right there. Just look inside your heart & figure out what is best for you and this child. Good Luck!