My man is home sick and I'm at work. I asked him to make me a grilled cheese sandwich for when I come home for lunch. He said he didn't want to and I got upset because he's always (not just when he's sick) so damn lazy! I told him he's lazy and selfish (I always cook whatever he wants). Should I have bit my tongue and not b*tched for him being lazy just cause he's sick or even should I have bit my tongue completely even? I just asked a simple favor that would have only interrupted his day long nap for 10 minutes.
Other relative info: I'm the only one that does the dishes and I was stressed last week and gave him $50 (out of guilt for asking) to do the dishes and they still aren't done.
I dont want to be a nag and I think what first attracted him to me is my "old fashioned" style of taking care of my man but now that I've done it for over a year I'm getting tired of it and wish he would help out even just a little. But I don't want to turn him off of me. What should I have done?
2007-09-11 06:34:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
How did I make you feel better about your life? I baby my man! And nag only when necessary.
2007-09-11 06:43:50 · update #1
Are our guys kin? Mine's sick too and he made me coffee when I got home yesterday. He put the water in the wrong place in the coffee maker and there was water and coffee grounds all over the countertop. He's like "I didn't see it". So I'm cleaning his mess up. I baby mine too. As he was sitting on the couch this morning and I, ready for work, was taking out the trash, I said to him "God, I wish I was a man so I could have a wife to do everything for me". I actually threw out all our glasses because he refused to rinse them out after drinking milk and I got tired out scrubbing the rings out of them. We now use Dixie cups. I guess just try to survive if you love him! Feelin your pain! ♥
2007-09-11 08:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll share the sage advice of my favorite Auntie:
Is it a matter of life or death?
Will it cost you a limb, an organ, or the roof over your head?
When you look back at it five years from now, will it amount to anything more than a fart in a gale of wind?
If the answer is no, don't fight about it, let it ride.
When he feels better, you need to have a summit meeting of some sort, these things will fester and destroy a relationship.
2007-09-11 14:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty selfish. Grilled Cheese sandwiches are the easiest thing to make. You're right to be pissed. It sounds to me like he's taking advantage of you. Tell him that you're tired of doing everything, and if he has a problem with that, the relationship won't work out.
On the other hand, I wouldn't want a sick person making me food.
2007-09-11 13:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He needs to realize this isn't the 50's. I think you did the right thing. You've got a job too, he cant expect you to do everything! And you shouldn't pay him to do the dishes...he should do them because he loves you. Sit down and talk to him about this. If he can't understand then find someone who can appreciate your hard work and who wants to help you.
2007-09-11 13:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweet kitten, believe this: IT WILL NOT STOP. They don't get better with age, just worse. In your paws, I would find another guy, who will occasionally return the favor. I, like you, was raised to take care of the menfolk. And I do...but mine will empty the dishwasher (without being asked OR paid, lol) and takes care of varous household chores as well. When I baby him, he also thanks me for it. When I'm sick, he takes care of me, too. He's only 41 - so there have to be some left in your age category like that too - just look for one whose daddy respects his mother! They copy what they see as kids.
2007-09-11 14:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk together about how you are feeling. The big picture.
When you bottle up your feelings over time you anger will eventually need to be expressed and you end blowing up over a smaller issue. As what happened today.
After you are calmer and he feels better talk to each other. :)
2007-09-11 14:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Selina Kyle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey just go to a drive thru and let him sleep. They're all like that when they're sick. Just steer clear of him as much as you can until he's better. You're a much better woman than me. I'da loaded those dirty dishes up and put em right in the front seat of his car.
2007-09-11 13:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
If he was sick, that's a whole different ballgame. I would never ask someone to make me a sandwich if I knew that they were sick. Couldn't you have had a fast food lunch? If not, it's not too hard to put a sandwich together.
2007-09-11 13:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by GoAskAlice 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well........... I find myself bitting my toung all the time becasue I dont like fighting..........Its no excuse really I think that speeking your mind gives you a better relationship honestly! I think its great you told him how it is and men are lazy period not just him! I bet theres a grill cheese waithing for ya when you get home, good luck!
2007-09-11 13:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Damn, he can't even get off his lazy keester to fix a stinkin' grilled cheese sandwich... that is a total crock. If my BF was that lazy I'd tear him a new one...
2007-09-11 13:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋