Is telling true complimnents an art?

Question

I have noticed that being good listener, showing measured sens of humor and telling pleasant and true things in the right moment create charm in relations - is this part of the art of communicating or an hypocrisy?

Answer 1

I don't think it to be a hypocrisy. It is human nature that people are attracted to other people that have all of the above mentioned traits. I think everyone is naturally attracted to charming people as opposed to someone who lacks social skills and propriety. It is also human nature that people feed on having their egos stroked once in a while. If you are sincere in your compliment, why not make someone feel a little better about themselves. Words are powerful tools that can be used to build others up or to tear others down.

Answer 2

I have made it a point to say something nice and supportive to everyone I see, strangers included. I appreciate the differences in people and I like to compliment them when they put out some effort. I got to see it and I am grateful. I'd like to think that I cheered someone and that makes me feel good for them and me. So, giving is really receiving. This is so habitual and natural that there is no hypocrisy in it.
Thank you. Good question. C. :)!!

Answer 3

It is an art. And it's not just compliments. If you simply blurt out someones down falls to them in a rude condescending way they will get nothing from it but hurt feelings. If you have devised a way to be truthful, helpful, and nice when pointing out someones down falls then they will be a better person for it and feel you are truly trying to help them. This just one example but I don't feel like typing anymore but to answer your question, yes it's an art.

Answer 4

It would depend upon which courses you take. As at any major university, there are some wacky conservative professors, some mainstream conservative professors, some moderate professors, some mainstream liberal professors, and some wacky liberal professors. As to your actual list: 1. "Bad" is a semantically meaningless term. At any university, you should learn that America is imperfect. We have done some things that are right and some things that are wrong over our 230 years of history. 2. Racist and Imperialist -- Only if you take certain courses, most accurate history and sociology courses will teach that there has been racism and imperialism in our history. 3. Police brutality -- I can't think of many courses at Yale that would discuss this issue. There will of course be some student groups that will express this viewpoint. 4. Celebrate Homosexuality -- No, but you will probably learn to accept and tolerate homosexuality as you would at any university in which "coming out" is acceptable. 5. Women oppressed and men are pigs -- Again, certain groups will have this viewpoint but you really have to want to take courses from certain professors to get this in the classroom. You can find similar courses at most major universities in the feminist studies program. 6. Crimes & drugs -- Again, you really have to search out courses to get this perspective. 7. U. S. Military -- A lot of students will have this perspective and some history teachers, but with careful selection of courses you can avoid hearing about the fact that the U.S. Military is not perfect. 8. God does not exist -- Again, this requires seeking out this viewpoint in the science department. If you want information about God, you probably can get some credit for taking courses in the Yale Divinity School. (Yes, Yale has a Divinity School which is quite reputable.) 9. Your ancestors were monkeys -- Technically not correct, but any basic biology course at anything but a fundamentalist university will note that humans and monkeys evolved from a comman ancestry. You really can't understand modern biology or medical science without the theory of evolution. Too much of science relies on principals connected with the theory of evolution. 10. You can probably avoid courses on global warming. However, global warming is a scientific fact and the U.S. is responsible for a very large share of greenhouse gases. 11. AIDS -- From student groups, maybe. From professors, no. 12. Africa -- From student groups and some professors maybe. From most history professors, the answer will be Europe. From most economics professors, the answer will be a combination of North America, Europe, and Asia. During my time at Yale, I knew people who were on the extreme that you note above. But I also knew a lot of very conservative students with deep religious beliefs including some of the key lawyers in the Bush Administration.

Answer 5

I believe it is part of the art of communication not hypocrisy because being truthful builds relationships. If you have a relationship built on lies then you have a false relationship.

Answer 6

These traits are components of excellent communication behavior. It's a joy listening to people that communicate well... wish there were more people out there that had learned to communicate when they were young.

Answer 7

excellent "noticing." i have a few friends who are not only good at giving compliments they would themselves want to receive, but also giving compliments that are truly a compliment to the receiver. that is an art. yes, for sure!

Answer 8

It's hypocrisy if the compliments aren't true. You stipulate that they are, so it cannot be hypocrisy.

Answer 9

"Is telling true compliments an art?"

No, but gracefully accepting them is.

Answer 10

yes it is an art . Hopefully a nonmanipulative art .