What happened?
2007-09-11 05:50:38 · 20 answers · asked by dardekkis 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Not hit on persay... More like wrongly, strongly pursued a straight girl.
She was a coworker ( yeah I leave those alone now) but she heavily flirted with me and was super touchy feely. I was on the that job like two days when she came up behind me and ran her fingers softly up my back... she also would hug me a lot after awhile and was super nice to me. I started crushing hard on her. We worked a early shift so a lot of days we would go out for lunch after work and then to a few local parks. She was super sweet to me.. I knew she had a boyfriend but he worked a lot and she really did seem intrested. She even bought me little gifts and made stuff for me. I took her to the movies a lot. we talked on the phone constantly. Some nights I even went to her house ( boyfriend working) to watch videos and we would snuggle on her couch under a blanket. She used to kiss me good bye and hello ( if not at work) quick kisses , closed mouth , but right next to my lips.The subject of sexuality one way or another never got brought up.
So You can see why I thought she was interested... I got up the courage to ask her where she thought we were in our friendship. I also explained that I was pained cause I liked her more than friends. Well she got upset and said a few nasty things and basically said she just "thought" we were just best friends nothing more. She said that lifestyle was gross and that she had a boyfriend and maybe I should try meeting a guy. I was hurt but so ashamed and embarrassed that I had not not seen the signals that she wasn't gay too. I quit the job a few days later and never answered her calls or called her again. She did write me like 4 letters ... I never opened them... Sometimes I think she teased me but mostly I think I built something up in my head that wasnt really there... I messed up a good friendship too. This was many years ago when I was younger.
2007-09-11 08:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by nappeeone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. But there have been quite a few straight women who mistakenly thought I was or soon would be hittingon them, just because I was making conversation with them, in attempt to be friendly.
It's very embarrassing and kind of makes you angry when people are so uncomfortable with a lesbian being nice to them that they automatically think they are being hit on. I literally just said "Hi, How're you doing today?"
2007-09-11 06:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was mortified. She always seemed to be flirting, but it turns out that was just the way she was with everyone. I had only noticed that she leaned into me while she laughed and touched me when we spoke. I neglected to see that she did that to EVERYBODY. She's just a touchy-feely kinda girl.
Anyway, she was nice about it and simply told me she was straight. She understood completely and even said that it wasn't the first time a girl had mistakenly thought she was flirting with her. But, I was still so embarrassed! Thank God I don't blush!
2007-09-11 11:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I thought I was straight I was flattered that another woman would find me attractive enough to hit on. Now that I have found myself and understand what I was searching for I like to test the waters before I just come out and hit on someone. Whether straight or gay I flirt and if they flirt back I will take it a step further. I think (just my observations) most fems started out straight.....
2007-09-11 05:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not mistakenly, on purpose maybe. Nothing happened.
2007-09-11 05:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by neoaltro1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get hit on my lesbian woman all the time and im straight. personally, i don't like it because I'm not attracted to women. i probably send of some kind of vibe. i just tell em nicely i don't swing that way and to have a nice day. some of them are really embarrassed and some of them just keep hitting on me like they are going to change my mind. others I've became friends with.
2007-09-11 05:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you hit on someone straight it's really not a big deal... When I hit on someone straight they simply just giggled about it and told me they were straight... it's not a big deal I promise!
2007-09-11 05:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am straight and I have had guys hit on me. I was nice to them until they woudl not stop. I just say,"If you touch me again I will touch you and you will not like it either." That has made them stop so far.
2007-09-11 06:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a straight guy that's been hit on by gay guys a couple of times. Kinda made me smile....I just said I'm flattered, but I don't go that route!
2007-09-11 05:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_yank 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah...she was totally cool too....said if she weren't already involved...she would swing my way to have a chance of getting with me...it was nice...i felt like a heel!
2007-09-11 05:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lil_bit_witty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋