I am, for the first time, involved with a man that is not circumsized. I have checked out pictures on the net because I can't imagine that he'd want my face right down in his crotch asking a bunch of questions....what have I found out you ask, well, I have never seen the head of his penis. (please no childish remarks) I did try gently pulling down with my hand but I could tell it caused him discomfort, what am I doing wrong or ...what should I be doing/trying?
2007-09-11 05:12:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Thanks to many of you for your responses, you have helped me out a lot!
2007-09-12 10:31:16 · update #1
His foreskin may be tighter than most. If he doesn't want it pulled down, just have sex without pulling it down. You aren't doing anything wrong. =)
He can work on getting it less tight, if it's bothering him. It doesn't require surgery; I did it with gradual stretching and now it's perfect. This link will help him with that:
http://circresearch.googlepages.com/tightforeskin
Link of interest, with circumcision's risks, such as decreased sensitivity. There's a reason why circumcision is no longer done on newborns on any developed nation except the USA, but even our rates have fallen to as low as 14%:
http://circresearch.googlepages.com
2007-09-11 05:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jorge 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Hm, I've only been with uncircumcised guys and they haven't had that problem, how old is he? Was he hard or soft when you tried this? Some teens (and maybe older guys) still aren't used to pulling their foreskin back - or maybe it was just uncomfortable for him when you did it because he's not used to a girl trying that. He could practice pulling it back until after a few weeks it's easier. When you're playing with him be gentle with the head it could be sensitive and also it doesn't necessarily need to be out, some guys have the foreskin up when they're erect and still get pleasure. I doubt he is dirty and he probably doesn't need circumcision. Best thing is to keep going and gradually explore and ask him what he likes. If he can masturbate then there probably isn't a big problem.
2007-09-11 15:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, not all penises are created equally, this includes foreskins. Some guys have loose foreskins that retract quite easily and others have tighter ones that only retract partially or not very much at all. Most of them retract at least partially when the guy has an erection.
What you need to do the next time you guys are having fun is just ask him straight out, "How far does your foreskin go back, because I've only been with circumcised guys before so I'm unfamiliar with your kind"? He should then have no problem demonstrating it for you or instructing you what he likes.
You should no however that the head of an uncircumcised penis is much more sensitive than a circumcised penis so when you do finally see it, be more gentle with his than with your other partners at first. The good news however is that most women find intercourse more pleasureable with a guy that is uncircumcised because the foreskin provides a natural gliding motion that prevents friction.
2007-09-11 05:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
i am not circumsized too i ll help u
first i ll tell u that u dont do anything wrong
the persons that are not circumsized must do some things with their penis like pulling the skin back to stretch it a lil to make the head come out ... if he hasnt done it then it is not your fault ..
u can do it for him gently u know as sthg during the ''teasing'' or ''playing time''but i must tell u that it is not easy it takes more than one time ..
it is not a big problem it just needs to be fixed now cause it will cause some problems like pain during sex
so thats it if u want u can tell him cause he may not know what he has to do and what he sud have done a long time now ...
no matter what u do be gentle
2007-09-11 05:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by geoper2 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Every man is different, physically. Some uncircumcised men have foreskins that fully retract easily, and some do not.
Try asking him about it (at a time when your face isn't down in his crotch). Don't be embarrassed - most guys would just love for a woman to take such an interest in their penis.
2007-09-11 05:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous Coward 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I disagree with beacher. Ive had sex with two circumcized guys and one uncircumcized one and the uncircumcized one was better, especially during foreplay. and that was after I thought I wouldn't like it
my advice is to take time to explore it. I think he'll like that. it may be different at first but eventually you'll find a way to use it to your advantage and grow to like it
2007-09-11 05:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Normally when having intercourse with a guy who is uncircumcised the foreskin will retract, if his foreskin will not retract then he has a problem on how does he keep the glans clean.
May be he needs to be aroused before it will retract, why not ask him
2007-09-11 12:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by john h 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just email me,we would talked in private with a lot details to your problem. didierupinhere@yahoo.com
2007-09-11 05:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should let him know your curious about it. Trust me he'll let you play with it. I feel very confident that he'll show you how to play with it whenever you want to!
2007-09-11 05:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jonny B Bad 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he may have phimosis or in other words the foreskin on his penis is protracted over the head of his penis.
You may never see the head of his penis unless it is surgically exposed by a partial circumcision (putting a slit in the foreskin)
I would never have intercourse with him because this protracted foreskin has all kinds of goop underneath it and can cause you an abnormal pap smear and even possibly cervical cancer. Who knows whats under there. Thats just too gross.
2007-09-11 05:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by happydawg 6 · 2⤊ 8⤋