I'm still hurting so bad, what can I do?

Question

My ex fiance and I have been split up for over a week now and it still hurts. I havent talked to him since last Thursday either and he hasnt tried to get ahold of me to see his daughter. The thing is I'm still hurting so bad (emotionally) I miss him so much, but it doesnt look like we'll be working anything out soon.
One night he went out and got hickies from somone else and that just killed me.
I miss him so much...what can I do?

people keep telling me that he'll realize what he lost and come back to us, but I'm not too sure about that.
I'm pretty sure all he's been doing is drinking and "womanizing", but I havent heard anything or talked to him.
I'm trying to get over him.
How could he just abancon his OWN family to go out and do all this? :(

Answer 1

Because were idiots and we get off on ego trips. You know what he did and it will hurt for some time. If he really realizes he made a major mistake he will pamper you for the rest of his life. He must earn back your trust and that starts with no more going out to drink and being 100% commited to you and your child. Be patient, don't rush for him to be back. Wish you the best.

Answer 2

You have a lot of things to face here. First is he is a very bad partner. A good man does not mess around. Second, it takes time to heal from a broken relationship. Third, it doesn't matter why he does what he does. Every person has their reasons and at the end of the day their why doesn't change the action.
What can you do? Stay away from him for a while. Spend time with your family and friends. As much time as you can for a while. In a few weeks get out of the house and be social. When you do have to talk to him about your child, keep it very short. Do not bring up the relationship. If he does, change the subject immediately. Keep conversations as short as possible.

Answer 3

I unfortunately do not have the answer for you. We all get over relationships differently. I always gave myself a couple days away from everything...maybe not your daughter...but you may not want her to see you like this. And I would cry. I would let it all out. I would let the dumb things that reminded me of him, the smells, the activities and I would just cry. I would also pack up anything that reminded me of him...get all of his things out of my life. Then I cleaned like a mad woman, rearranged things...made my home mine. I would put the engagement ring away and to hide the ring mark on my finger I would go buy yourself a pretty ring to wear...something no one will look at as an engagement ring. I would go get my nails done and my hair done. I normally do not do these things.

I was engaged to a wonderful man and we were two weeks from our wedding. He disappeared. Stopped calling, was not at home...did not go to work. I finally got a call from him a week later that he could not marry me. I never was able to get a reason. It killed me to have to tell everyone that had worked so hard with me on the wedding that we were not getting married. I know what you are going through. I did not have a child...I am sure that makes the pain worse to know that he left her too....but this will only make you stronger. I wish you luck! And you are in my prayers!

Answer 4

It seems to me that he is not missing you, he's going out and having a good ol' time. You are making a bad mistake waiting for him to come back. If he dose , he will do the same thing to you agin. Don't put your child through this bad relationship. If you made it through a week without him you will make it through a month next a year. Next you will realize what a useless jerk you had in the first place. Move on as quickly as you can.

Answer 5

its always hard to get over someone who uve been with 4 a long time. the hardest thing to get over is the routine ur so used to seeing him so often n for him to be around u it is hard when the person isnt there no more. i mean if he came home with hickies all over him obviously he didnt care enough about u! but on the other hand when a person drinks not making excuses for him but people do end up doing things that they regret when they wake up! beleive me!!! but all i can say right now is think about u n ur child and all that love u have to give, give it to her soon enough u'll be strong enough to put whats happened in the past n hopefully by that time hell come around and see his daughter n hopefully ul both be mature enough to get along for her sake n put the past behind u and put it down as experiences from which u have learnt a few things!!

good luck

Answer 6

Did you both break up because of him having hickeys on his neck? As painful as this is for you, you have to come to see, that he is clearly showing a deep lack of respect for you and the relationship. If you do not come to see this with out all the emotional pain getting in the way of your reasoning, you will be headed on making the biggest mistake of your life, and that is if you do get him back and end up marrying this guy. He has clearly crossed the line and has crossed stumble blocks of anything sacred and trusting to build on for a successful relationship. Your pain is a natural thing to feel, after all what he has done is betray you in one of the worst ways. Please do not let your pain cloud your vision. See him for what he really is, you will then be able to see that this man is not ever gonna be able to make you happy as he has already shown no commitment to you nor his child. The decisions you make today predict your future. I do hope you decide to do what you know is right for you.

Answer 7

exactly how could he abandon his own family? You should definately give him the flick. It hurts now but eventually you will be able to move on but these things take time.

Also because you have a daughter together it will be important to maintain some sort of relationship with him when he finally wakes up and remembers he is a daddy. So while in the future you will have to deal with him for the sake of his daughter let him be for the moment, make him come to you.

Answer 8

What family are you talking about? You didn't wait for this man to marry you before you got pregnant, so you're actually his baby-mama, nothing more. It's unfortunate that this happened, but you have to be smarter. Don't have babies by men you're not married to. And don't expect these guys to be faithful to you, when you give them no reason to do so. If you'll sleep with him and have his children unmarried, why should he be faithful to you? Sorry, but this is the way it is.

And don't talk about him not seeing his daughter. No doubt, this was not a planned pregnancy. He cares about as much for the child as he does you. Be more careful next time.

Answer 9

it happens every day in someones life. u will be hurt, u loved this man and he betrayed u. u have to get some therapy, and find a way to boost your self worth, when u do u will realize that u did not deserve this and what he is doing is wrong. they say a bad penny always comes back, he probably will come back when the one he is romancing now dumps him and he has no where else to go.

Answer 10

It hasn't been that long since you two broke up....it takes time. I'm sure you have heard the saying...if you love something set it free and if it comes back its yours if not it wasn't meant to be. (It goes something like that).
has he been cheating on you before he broke up? Try to move on, make sure you get up everyday and get dressed, make yourself look good and smile. It will be hard, but it will help. Good Luck