Me and my fiance are split up and it doesnt look like we'll be getting back together.
I was wondering if I should still get to wear the ring or should I not since we're not together?
I really like it and want to wear it. I think it would "symbolize" the love we had for eachother even though we're not together.
what do you think??
2007-09-11 04:34:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Proper etiquette says that if you broke it off, you have to give the ring back. However, if he broke it off, you can do whatever you'd like with the ring. I'm not sure wearing it is the best idea and it could make it harder to find someone new. Maybe put it on a chain and wear it as a necklace?
2007-09-11 08:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the people who answered above me seem not to be versed in common courtesy. The answer to your question is that no, you should not wear it, you should give it back. An engagement ring is a symbol of a promise -- a promise to marry. Clearly, you are not going to get married. Therefore, the promise you two made by him giving you the ring and you accepting the ring is broken. You are therefore bound by the rules of courtesy to give it back.
Later edit: sorry sugarbear and dawnb -- your answers weren't there yet when I decided to write this!
2007-09-11 11:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. do the right thing & GIVE HIM THE RING BACK. That ring is an "engagement ring", of course it symbolizes your love for each other but the main symbol of that ring states that you two will be "married" soon. Since that's NOT happening anymore (like you stated) then you should give it back to him so he can return it.
2007-09-11 11:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think long and hard about your question, there are several answers so here we go
first the question.
did he split from you or the otherway round
if he split from you for his own reasons he probably wouldnt want the ring back, because he might feel guilty for the split, and what would he do with it if he did want it back, he couldnt give it to another girl that would be crass
if you split from him then i say you should give it back weather it was a gift or not out of common courtesy.
if he split from you and doesnt want it back then i would sell it because it was something given to you when he was in love with you and if you do meet anoter man he may not like the fact that you are wearing another mans gift no matter which hands its on.
i had a similar situation with my current wife before we got married, i happened to ask her about a ring she was wearing and asked her were she got it, she explained that a previous boyfriend had given it to her.
i asked her not to wear it and that i would buy her a new ring that she could wear.
and before anyone bombs me out i wasnt nasty about it i just didnt like the idea of my future wife wearing something given to her by another man especially a ring
2007-09-11 12:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by mike p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could give the ring back. It was given to you as a promise of marriage. That marriage didn't take place so why keep the symbol of a broken promise. I just don't see things like this as a standard gift like a birthday present where it is just given to be given.
2007-09-11 12:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have split it is not a good idea to continue wearing it on your left hand, however you could wear it on another finger or on your other hand. Continuing to wear it will continue to remind you that you are no longer in a relationship that you want to be in and Willl prolong pain. The other thing is if you do continue to wear it people wil ask you questions such as when will you be getting married, or tell me about your fiance. Questions that are, or will be painful to you.
2007-09-11 11:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't continue to wear the ring. You return it to him. It was given as a promise for marriage not a symbol of once was. It is no longer yours. Do the right thing.
2007-09-11 11:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IN the old days, a woman was allowed to keep the ring given ..
However, to keep it she must do one of these things.
1. wear it on another finger or on the other hand
2. place it on a necklace and wear it that way.
3. take it to a jeweler and have it fashioned into something different.
But, that was in the days when my mother was young...and she is now 82.
I think you should wear it on the right hand, DO NOT give it back...IT IS YOURS! Enjoy it, and your life!
Blessings
2007-09-11 11:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say it depends. Who broke up the relationship? An engagement ring, in sorts, is a contract, so if He broke off the relationship, you keep the ring and do with it as you wish.
If you broke off the relationship, you should return the ring as you are in essence "breaking the contract" and have no rights to the ring.
2007-09-11 11:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Timeflo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to wear it, it should be moved to a different finger. I think that would be fine. However, he might want the ring back, depending on how much it cost. He may be able to take you to court for it.
2007-09-11 11:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by Trisha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋