My bf and i are in a long distance RL, he's 5000 miles away. It's been really rocky. Last fall we werernt in touch and i figured things were over, he had come home the previous July and barely wanted to see me, then left without saying bye. He came home again in December, saw me twice, then left again without saying bye. For whatever reason he would call apologizing. 2nd time i actually told him off over email. we ended up back 'together' and i flew to see him in July. We had a great time, but the trust for me is gone. As if that's not enuf, his myspace page was 'single' and had plenty of girls on it, most friends from home. This one girl he had there was a lifelong female friend who he had dated at one point. Shed be all over the page with i love you's miss you. He told me they are just good friends, she wasnt aware that i went to visit tho b/c she left a message saying, i cant believe that psycho b*tch flew out there (me), sounds like you have a stalker. He deleted the page.
2007-09-11 03:45:22 · 12 answers · asked by gally g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really dont trust him. We dont speak much on weekends (b/c of him) he tells me time and time again he's not cheating. As far as this girl who talked crap about me he said they were no longer friends, but on thursday he sent me a pic of him and she was also listed on the email. I flipped out again, he said she apologized. I want to END this, but what am i holding onto?? it's hard and he will make himself sound like he's so innocent in this and that he loves me. I dont want to be with some guy who has some childhood female friend he cant let go of and who will talk sh*t about me!!
2007-09-11 03:45:28 · update #1
Ive had ldrs before...obviously they didnt work
Am i being irrational in terms of this girl?? I just dont think i am. I understand having female friends, but this seems to cross boundries. If you are 24 years old do you honestly say to someone who is just a friend, i love you, i miss you to death, where are you, then trash their girlfriend on a public forum??
2007-09-11 03:58:35 · update #2
i get the trust thing....but am i out of line for NOT trust him??
2007-09-11 04:05:44 · update #3
long distance can work (my husband and I were long distance for a while) but not without trust which i wouldnt have for this guy at this point dump him and move on
2007-09-11 03:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of the female friend, he's just not treating you right. If he's coming into town and barely seeing you and then not saying goodbye, it doesn't sound like there's anything to end. That's not a relationship, whether or not he apologizes. The fact that his myspace says single is also not cool. Just end it now and find someone who is more available and closer. You don't need drama like that. Long distance relationships are hard enough without high school drama and 'really good female friends' who dont' like his girlfriend. Jeez! Find an adult to date.
2007-09-11 04:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that a 5000 mile distance is hardly a relationship. You really can't connect without some physical presence on a regular basis. Your friend seems to be quite the player. He seems to be good at keeping lots of women on the leash and having them all believe him. You aren't wrong to distrust his intentions and should just move on. What were you expecting from this huge distance anyway?
2007-09-11 04:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say BYE - BYE, it sounds to me that this guy wants you - when he wants you and not any other time. Life is to short for the what if's, and all the drama that he is putting you through. Let him go, and move on with your life. There is someone way better for you out there! And honestly do you believe that he is NOT cheating you???? I think that it would be a pretty safe bet that he is. Do yourself a favor and find a real man who knows how to treat a woman, and what she "wants & needs"!
Good Luck
2007-09-11 04:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hearken to that, yet no could over react to a quick holiday to a great area of the international. 3 months flys via whilst your having exciting and retaining busy. i could communicate with him everyother day and that's going to make it sense greater like he's not as much as now away. could be a hefty telephone invoice, yet unfastened long distance could help. ... surely he's in good palms considering which you adore him, and if he has a head on his shoulders(if he's clever) you would be nice and not could agonize a lot approximately him looking yet another lady. He could understand which you won't be in a position to bypass up this danger and in case you could, purely pursue the relationship once you come again.
2016-10-04 09:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by mccleery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely right in ending things. There seems to be certain things in his stories (lies) that don't add up. You are right to be concerned. I dont think he is ready for a relationship with one woman and quite frankly you deserve better. Move on girl there are better men out there. Men who will love, care, and respect you. Men that will be glad to put "in a relationship" on his myspace page. Don't deal with men who have issues and friends who talk about you like crap and he still is friends. You deserve a real man. Best of luck.
2007-09-11 03:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only one of your problems. His not being completely honest, leaving without so much as a good bye, not wanting to spend all his time with you during a visit is just not right. Maybe you should break out of your comfort zone and break it off. Start dating someone new.
2007-09-11 03:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long distance thing never works. I'd just break it off honestly. B/C your right the trust is gone, and it should be gone. You have no reason to trust him whatsoever. Without trust you have no relationship.
2007-09-11 03:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Leigh08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just leave things alone.....It's great to keep a cool relationship with him as friends but, you really don't need the emotional or mental stress....It's not fair to you that you are basically being strung along....One moment things are okay and the next your in a loop again....Doesn't sound like a happy nor fun way to be in......
2007-09-11 05:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a long distance relationship all u have is trust, if there's no trust there is absolutely no point in being with someone...
2007-09-11 03:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by Haidee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋