2007-09-11 03:42:43 · 30 answers · asked by sadgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He MAY have narcolepsy. Please seek medical advice.
2007-09-11 04:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by rjrmpk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I´d be upset!! For sure! It shows an amazing lack of interest! Is he working 20 hours a day or something that would excuse why he falls asleep, or is there no particular reason for it??
Some solutions: cut him off for a good long while until he´s so horny he can´t stand it, and then have HIM be the active partner. Maybe its too easy for him to fall asleep if you´re on top and doing all the work, but there are many positions that necessarily need him to be awake for the action! Even the good old missionary will have him doing his part!
2007-09-11 10:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by counsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being upset really wont help. Sure you have feelings about it, and it does hurt.
But as an outsider to the situation, the question should really be, "How can I help this not to happen?" Rather than "should i be upset?" That's not going to fix the problem from reocurring again.
You need to openly discuss this with your spouse, and put all things on the table for the reasons to. Look at this like you would a math problem, or another problem you have to break down (ingredients,etc.).
There are causes for everything. Find out "why" this happens, and eliminate the cause. You'll eliminate your anger and reoccuring hurt at the same time.
Don't allow yourself to build your own pit, and trap yourself into a pity party. While it is only naturaly to hurt, perhaps you can use your feelings and channel them into a more positive constructive action.
If it is due to a lack of sleep, help him sleep more. If he is sick, take care of him, if he's working too hard, help when he's home.. etc.
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2007-09-11 10:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of being angry or upset with your husband, put your bad feelings on hold for a minute or two. It is obvious that he is not doing this on purpose. Go with your husband to the doctor to check for heart and heart related defects. Find out why this sleep issue or fatigue happens during itmacy with your husband. He could just need vitamins.May God Bless.
2007-09-11 11:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by NISSI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is to remove " you " from the equation. Even if you are the worst lover in history ,you could not make this happen.
It is axiomatic that physical causes be eliminated before mental causes should be considered. Do your husband and yourself a big favor and get him to a doctor.
Contrary to the old R&B song , for a male body the night time is not the right time to be with the one you love-the morning is.
In fact from a point of male physiology the night time is the WORST time to have sex.
Good luck
2007-09-11 11:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess first you have to understand where the behavior is coming from. Why is he falling asleep? Is it a physical reaction to something? Is he tired? Why is he tired? Perhaps he should go to a doctor to determine what is going on.
Once you rule out physical attributions, you're then prepared to look at pschyological...is he doing it because he is bored? Does he really not feel like having sex at that point in time?
You can't really be upset at him if it's something he truly can't control, right?
2007-09-11 10:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooo way, if he is falling asleep during sex, something is wrong with this picture. How can a man fall asleep and able to keep it up for both pleasures. Yes you should be very upset.....express your hurt feelings to him. I am more of a sex lover than my husband...I barely say no......Im all primed up and he cant keep up with me.....set the stage for a wonderful love making......Good luck honey.....
2007-09-11 10:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you shouldn't be upset about it? There's an issue when either party falls asleep during sex dear...get this one worked out.
2007-09-11 10:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am I that boring? That is exactly what I would be asking myself if my husband fell asleep during sex. Hell yes you should be upset! Is he getting enough sleep? Are you doing the deed at ungodly hours?
2007-09-11 10:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
A man falling asleep during sex sounds odd- get medical attention he may be dying
2007-09-11 10:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Re- arrange the time you have sex...try morning when he's wide awake. And you have a perfect right to be upset. Nobody wants to think that sex (with you) is so boring that you put your partner to sleep.
2007-09-11 10:50:11 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋