My wife and I are still married but are seperated. I still love my wife but I don't like her anymore. We have a 9 month old daughter. I want to start dating. Is it too soon?
2007-09-11 03:29:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats really hard I know when there are children involved it makes it harder I was with my husband for 6yrs I started to date 2 months after the seperation Friendly dates untill I got the divorce.
2007-09-11 04:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - if all involved are okay with it - it's probably fine.
Your nine month old daughter is not able to say a THING about any potential new person you're going to bring into her life. So think about what she may think and feel about this in the future when she can talk/express her feelings.
Your time with her is way more important than your time with some new woman in your life. It's not your daughter's fault that you and her Mom couldn't work things out.
If - at this point - you can date people who will embrace your daughter and understand that she ALWAYS comes in front of them - and your time with your daughter will not be reduced due to your dating another person - and your ex isn't going to cause a lot of drama and make it difficult for you to have time with your child because you are dating somebody - then I guess it's not too soon.
2007-09-11 03:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, you will have to ask your attorney because every state has different laws about this. But on a personal level, I would say you have the right to get back out there and have fun. I don't know if "dating" is the right word, though. You don't want to get into a serious committed relationship this soon out of the gate. But go have fun and live a little, enjoy your new singleness. Just don't go out with the intention of finding your next wife. And make sure the women you date know upfront that you are just separated!!! Be honest with them and yourself.
2007-09-11 03:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confusing two issues, legal and moral or ethical. There is no legal problem with you dating if you and your wife are involved in a "legal separation," which is an interim step in some jurisdictions before divorce. Whether you can morally or ethically date is another question. I feel, so long as you and your wife have an understanding and you make full disclosures to the people you are dating, there is nothing wrong with you dating. However, wouldn't it just be simpler to divorce your wife?
2007-09-11 03:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting to start dating and not sure if you should then you need to call an attorney. Some people do date again while they are legally seperated and some people also date while they are still living together.
2007-09-11 03:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "don't like her anymore"? What kind of reason is that to break up a marriage with a 9 month old. It doesn't sound like you worked hard enough on your marriage.
Try saying that reason to your daughter when she asks why her parents aren't living together...
Yes. It's too soon for YOU. You still need to work out your priorities.
2007-09-11 03:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a guy who did that to me for a year he didn't tell me about his legal seperation he couldn't stand his wife to where they haven't lived together for 2 years.......it's really sad.......when u start dating let the girl know whats going on and let her make her decision if she still wants to date u .....it was really sad when I found out what that guy was going through
2007-09-11 04:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are still married there will always be the chance of getting back together, especially when there are children involved. Besides no woman really wants to be a man's "rebound" relationship as they never last. How would you feel if you got back together with your spouse knowing she had been seeing someone else during your separation?
2007-09-11 03:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you are legally seperated and do not plan on working it out with her. you will always care for her because you all have a daughter with each other. i would try it at first and see how it goes but if you think that you all can work it out then no i wouldn't .
2007-09-11 03:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by mammabear_327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love your wife but want to get started on dating other women???? Why not work on your marriage first? Try EVERYTHING to save it and then if things don't work out, get a divorce and THEN start dating....
2007-09-11 03:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋