Husband and wife have been together for 7 years and still dont have a child.The husband did had a child with another woman before his marriege,now he want a baby from his wife whom she can not have a baby becouse of some problems,whose fault is it of not having a baby?She have been going to many doctors and nothing had happend yet,and she really do need a baby,when she ask about adoption he don't want to discuss about that,now,what must she do?
2007-09-11 03:27:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its nobody´s fault. Some women can´t have kids. It happens. Some men can´t have kids. It happens. Sometimes, both are technically able to have kids, but it doesn´t happen anyways. Such is life.
Did he marry her for HER or because he wanted another child? I think she needs to figure this out. If she really is unable to have children and he wont even discuss adoption, maybe she needs to find a partner who is more open to the idea. And as for him, if his goal in life was to have children and his wife can´t, he can either be supportive of her and deal with the fact that sometimes it happens, or move on and start another relationship that will give him his own genetic bloodline.
2007-09-11 03:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by counsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fault? That is a bit harsh...I would say that the wife is having fertility problems....Her husband isn't helping matters by not even wanting to discuss adoption. If he is so hell bent on having a child of his own with this wife...and she can't have a baby.....he should think about adoption. If having a baby with his wife is the ONLY reason he married her...she would be wise to leave his stupid *ss.
2007-09-11 03:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it isn't anyones fault if they can't have a child. some people just cannot have children. that's the way it is. if she has been to doctors and still nothing, then maybe it's time that he get some tests done. just because he has another child, it does not mean that the problem might not be him. the way that this whole story sounds, i doesn't seem like they are ready for children yet anyway.
2007-09-11 03:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't "NEED" a baby, HE wants one. What about HIM going to many doctors HE could be the one with the problem. Just because he fathered ONE child doesn't mean there can't be something wrong with HIM. As for what SHE must do if she can't have children...the answer is nothing. It is all up to HIM. Oh...and there is not FAULT.
2007-09-11 03:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What "fault"? Are you looking for a fault? If so, you'll always find one.
It's simply a matter of trying to do what you can, and allow for all available options. If she can't conceive, she can't conceive!
Many times, however, it may simply be a matter of time. It took us 3-4 years before a pregnancy happened.
But both husband and wife should open discuss what to do and display all expectations.
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2007-09-11 03:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not about fault - work together, if the two of you cannot communicate why bring a child into the world. Work on your relationship first then - the issue of a child should not be a problem.
2007-09-11 03:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by phantom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would either be considered at "fault"? that is just circumstances of life, you learn to deal with them and figure out a way to get past the problems, no one is at fault
2007-09-11 03:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no one at fault. If she's been to the doctor and they say there's nothing she can do, then he should either accept that she can't have a baby or they should get a divorce so he doesn't resent her.
2007-09-11 04:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor too. Just because he had a child in the past, does not mean he can have another child.
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