Housewives: do you get annoyed when you feel your kids & hubby ignore you?

Question

if you didnt like something & spoke out but got blatently ignored on a daily basis would it p iss you off.
i hate playfighting amongst the kids & hubby but they carry on all the time even though they know it annoys me...what would you do?

Answer 1

this is one i do understand,when my hubby play fights with my two boy's i always say its time to stop now, he never does and the boys always end in tears ,witch really peeee's me of ,if thay just listen in the first place it would not need to lead to unpleasantness, so if you find away to make them listen, please let me know,,, till then best of luck. susie.

Answer 2

It sounds like your hubby encourages everyone to playfight even though he knows you dont like it. The kids are just following him. Does your hubby know how much you dislike it, maybe try sitting him down and talking to him about it. If that doesnt work, then the next time they start up with the fighting, just get up and leave. Grab a magazine and a snack and lock yourself in the bedroom till they decide to stop. Or, just announce that the playfighting has given you a headache and that you are going to take a bath. Tell them they have to do dinner, cleaning etc. for themselves. good-luck.

Answer 3

I think some of the people above are not being very sympathetic :0(
If you dont like the playfighting just leave the room, thats what I would do, just leave them to get on with it. They MIGHT notice but from what you have said I doubt it. I dont like playfighting either but it seems to be a male thing. You cant blame the kids cos theyre just doing what their dad encourages them to do. Youve tried to tell them how you feel but it hasnt worked. Go on strike - they might notice that lol

Answer 4

Throw a bucket of water over them - make sure they're nowhere near vital electronics at the time of course - THAT should get the message across.

If that's a bit too drastic, just drop whatever you're doing (you're bound to be doing something, you're a mum) and walk out and chill out in the bath or something.

Finally, if non of that works, sign them all up down at the local boxing club. they might as well do it properly.

I know it annoys you, but really it's great that your hubby plays with the kids at all....lol

Answer 5

Are you sure they are "purposefully" ignoring you??

One person is understandable, but the "whole family" ignoring you?

Sounds like there are some issues not just with them, but with yourself.

The question you should really be asking is, "What are YOU doing to instigate or provoke {everyone else} to ingorning you?"

While ignoring someone is beyond wrong, and is extremely hurtful, your statements of the quanity of people ignoring you raises other red flags not normally assoicated with a husband and wife relationship.

You may find the answer within yourself, and only then can you make some changes to help the situation.

Don't retaliate, whatever you do. It will not help, but make matters worse.

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Answer 6

I'd probably be upset, but from the outside looking in, my opinion is that if they know it upsets you and they still do it, they continue doing it because they are getting a REACTION from you. The more you respond, the more they will probably do it. I know it's really hard, and it hurts sometimes, but if you can just "busy" yourself doing other things at those times, or use it as an opportunity to do stuff YOU want to do,(go to the store looking around, get a pedicure, etc), and they see it has no effect on you whatsoever, they will probably stop. It's no fun needling someone if it doesn't seem to bother them.

Answer 7

Yes it does p you off. You feel as though you are invisible....well until they need something, or decide you should listen to what they have to say. I know how you feel, its like when you are talking, and one of them decides they want or need to say something, and just interrupt you. Or you are talking, and you notice that they are watching the tv, and havent heard a thing you have said, you stop talking, and no one even turns a hair! Can make you feel irrelevant. As it does when you suggest to your hubby a solution to something,or an idea about something, then he comes home and relates to you what you have said, but it has come from a work colleague (female) aghhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Sweet Pea the best thing you can do is sit the hubbie and kiddos down and talk to them. Let them know how you feel and how you want to feel appreciated and respected. I think the hubbie should back you up in this area. The kiddos need to understand and know that mom and dad work together as a team. This will set the household straight. God Bless!

Answer 10

Time to let go of the idea that giving yourself time and attention is wrong (selfish). It's not. We always want to be admired for how self-LESS we are, but when we don't get that- we become resentful and angry.

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Sorry, I really didn't answer your question- mostly I analyzed your preceived feelings of anger and resentment of your husband and kids.

Answer 11

It sounds like subconsciously you could be jealous of the relationship your husband has with his children? I imagine most women would be thrilled that thier partner is a 'good dad'. Of course you could feel that while you are dealing with all the difficult aspects of bringing up children, your hubby just gets all the good bits? Either way I think you should lighten up a bit and try to stop being an outsider, you'll get more out of it than you put into it...